Why do parents let their kids run wild?

Tangerine - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am FLOORED by the number of people who just let their small children run around in public places like restaurants & super markets totally unsupervised...running into people. What the heck?! Believe me when I say that NO ONE thinks your kids are charming or cute when they are running amock and being a nusiance.

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Shalaina - posted on 04/18/2010

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Just two days ago we went to the park and these 3 kids that were from the ages of 6-8 were running around like crazy and throwing pine cones at the ducks as hard as they could. It was ridiculous and then one of the girls came up to us and stuck her finger in my son's face before I could stop her. Of course I couldn't physically make her move but I told her no and moved his stroller. The parents (after they finally appeared) just laughed about everything they did and said..no, haha. AGH!!! It was not funny at all!

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Ami - posted on 08/06/2013

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So here is a question for you, is it wrong of be to work on my daughter's behavior by sometimes pointing out the "rude" behavior of other children and explaining that this is not how "proper princesses act". She is three and a half and LOVES princesses and I never do it loudly or where she could repeat it to the kids. Usually like in the store with kids running wild and throwing tantrums, never at church where she could tell the kids "my mom says you behave badly".

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2012

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I'll admit, I do let my daughter run in the store IF it's not busy. That being said there are rules concerning it. She is NOT allowed to be rude to people, no pushing folks out of her way, or running into them, and she MUST remain within my sight at ALL times. If I stop to look at something she get's called back and has to wait until I'm done before she is allowed to run down the aisle again.



It's a great form of exercise for her (she probably runs about 4 times more than I walk in the store because once she's about 10-15 feet ahead I call her back to the cart and then let her get ahead again) and makes her feel like a big girl and that Mom trusts her because I don't keep her, entirely, leashed to my side. I also make it a point to do our general (planned) shopping during hours when our supermarket is unlikely to be busy, like in the morning during the week when most people are at work. Our timing cuts down on the likelihood of her annoying anyone and most of the time people grin at her and tell me how cute she is because if she DOES come up on an adult she pauses and says "Hi" and asks how their day is.



She's a very polite munchkin.



Restaurants, she is NOT allowed to be up and running around in. If we know we're going out, I try to bring a couple of her books to help entertain her beyond the crayons that most family restaurants have for lil kids. If I don't have those, we just talk and laugh and I color with her until her food comes and she becomes absorbed in eating.

Marti - posted on 02/14/2012

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What do I do when the parents of two children who live above my condo let their boys run wild for hours? The impact of this uncontrollable running and slamming shakes my condo walls, ceilings and door jambs. Glass ceiling light covers have fallen to the floor as well as ceiling vents. I have called the police, went to court and mediation with the parents and their children are worse than ever. Help!!

KAT - posted on 05/06/2010

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Hopefully the parents that allow their children to act in this manner, on here will pop a clue after reading this post. I encounter this kind of out of control behavior just yesterday at the park the mother was too busy chatting on her cell 1 child ran out into the road.

Cindy - posted on 04/17/2010

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I agree. And really I do not know why some parents do that. My sister in-law and her husband let their 2 kids that are 3 and 5 run wild and do whatever they want, they seriously don't do any kind of dicsipline, I know this because me and my husband used to live with them for a little bit until we got our own place. Both me and my husband agree that they need to discipline their kids! The younger one who is 3 he constantly is going up to other adults and hitting them and pushing them, Yes you heard me right he hits and pushes them. Like many times he would come up to me when I would be sitting at the dining table and try to push me off saying "This is my seat!" And his mom (my sister in-law) would be sitting right there and she would do NOTHING, only thing she'd do is say "Aiden dont do that." .....But that's it! Now I would only spank my child on the butt if the situation called for it and I think this would be a situation for it, seriously If my son was that age and I saw him go up to an adult and hit them and push them and have no manners or respect I would grab him and spank his little booty!

Seriously because she really NEEDS to teach that kid manners! Or else they are going to have a hard time with him when he goes into school one day. Then the older one who is 5 years old she , no joke, Lies alll the time, almost every word out of her mouth is a lie. Like one time I was sitting there and I saw her go up to her brother and beat on him! and then he of course went crying to mommy and she asked her "Kora did you hurt Aiden?" And she would of course say "No" and Of course she believes her because when that little girl is around adults she acts like the most well behaved angel in the entire world, and when people compliment her and say Oh she's so beautiful and well behaved I secretly want to let out a big laugh out loud and say "Yeah right."

Shalaina - posted on 03/23/2010

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I agree, I always see this! At the park the other day this mom was on the cellphone the whole time and watching her younger daughter but for the boy who was only a few years old she didn't watch him at all. He kept coming to our table. I always think about all of the child abductions.
A couple of months ago I saw this lady who had 3 young kids all a year apart and they were crossing the street and running around without her and she didn't say anything, she wasn't even paying attention! If she doesn't watch them better I'm afraid they will run in front of a car someday because of course they didn't seem to know better!
There is NO way that that will be happening with my son (he is only 8 months now), I am not going to take the chance of anything happening to him and it is rude for them to bother others.

Shayna - posted on 03/09/2010

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My guess is their not in control of them, I would like to think that anyway because there are soooo many horrible things that can happen to children when their not supervised in public places.



I never let my son leave my side or barley take my eye of him. He is 3 now and can take off in the blink of a eye. I'm very protective of him, maybe a little too over protective. I panic if he goes places with his aunts or grandparents. I even panic when his father takes him places, even though I know he is in excellent hand with them all I just always think, that their not thinking like I would. I always constantly remind them all to never let go of his hand, or take their eye off them & call them while there out lol. Yeah I guess I am crazy, but it's better then not caring at all!

Sharon - posted on 02/25/2010

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It is an interesting world we live in now. Many traditions of common sense have gone by the way side. I am not sure what most parents think about this issue, but some are letting their child explore, some are not aware of the dangers like injury or kidnapping, and some think it is cute. Some parents are upset with the discipline routines of their childhood that they do a complete reversal with their own not realizing that respect and moderate discipline is needed to raise good caring compassionate children. Routine and expectations of good behavior are not taught on a daily basis or with consistency. Hopefully this will change in the future.

Christine - posted on 02/15/2010

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I completely agree. Its even worse when its your friends kids. There is that feeling that you want to discipline the child, or say something to the kid or mother. None of my friends have kids, so I am guessing thats how they feel. Sometimes my son likes to run around stores but I just get annoyed at him and I drag(not literally) him out of the store because I don't want to be that mom that can't control my child. Its embarassing!!!

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