Pennsylvania Dept. of Corrections

Stephanie - posted on 01/16/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Does anyone else have trouble with their husbands having a really bad attitude? My husband's temper is through the roof and he has absolutely NO patience with our 3 year old. He's been a C.O. for almost 2 years now and he's getting really mean. Just wondering if anyone else experiences this from their husbands? He frequently talks to me and the girls like we're inmates and the cussing is unbelievable. Any suggestions? He doesn't think he has an anger problem...I've already suggested anger management or seeing someone about stress reduction, but he won't do it. He just goes on the defensive and starts ranting and raving. Help, please.

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Beth - posted on 06/27/2010

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My husband has been a CO for 11 years. He doesn't have a temper or attitude or anything of the sort. He told me it is a lot of mind over matter. That he had to learn to keep work at work. Which I have learned to accept. I ask him how his day was at work, and if he had any problems. But as far as anything else, that's where I stop and he doesn't offer. Maybe he could talk to his superior at work... and just get the feel with how they deal with things at home. BTW I am also in Pennsylvania. I hope that offered some words of help to you..

Mary - posted on 03/13/2009

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hi Stephanie  my name is ann i live in montomery pa my husbad has been in corrections for 9yrs when he the first started it was hard he would talk to me & the kids like we where inmates. i just wont to let u know it does git better.my husband sometimes has bad day .just hang in there. feel free to right me

Jennifer - posted on 02/21/2009

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HI! I am new to this, but I am a Wife of a big bad prison guard Myself.  We are also in Pa, at the Albion State Pen. Where are you? 



My Husband Does have a very short fuse as well.  I have to be careful how I ask him simple questions sometimes..  Maybe it does have to do with babysitting adult crimals, I don't know.  But I am very proud of him.  I make sure i ask him How work went, and try to learn what is going on. Even though I could never do his job, I take interest in it for him. I think this helps.



It is a tough Job being Married to these guys, I am here if you wanna talk more, It would be kinda nice since we are both Moms and in PA!!  :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/18/2009

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Wow - it sounds like you've got a real problem on your hands, I am so sorry.  It sounds to me like some marriage counseling would really help you, but if he is not responding to that idea,  maybe something else is going on as well.  Someimes they need an ultimatum to put things in perspective.  You and your chlidren shouldn't have to live like that.  Good luck.

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