Deanna - posted on 12/04/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 11 year old boy is causing me so much grief and heartache lately I just don't know what to do. His dad and I have been seperated since he was 2. His father lets him swear and I don't think it is appropriate. He is 160lbs and also knows some karate and wants to test me all the time. He will not take a timeout when I ask him to. I can't physically discipline him and I am not sure what else to do. He doesn't really have much that I can take away because he will leave it all at his dads house. More than anything he is extremely disrespectful. He puts me down in any way he can think of. He was never this way until I gave his father the majority of joint custody. His dad disrespects me and tells me I need to deal with my parenting issues on my own. He will not back me up or tell James to watch the way he talks to me. I love him with all my heart as he is my first born. I cherised the very ground that kid walked on because when he was born he saved me. He honestly gave me a reason to change my ways. And now, I feel like I don't even like the kid anymore. HELP! What do I do. He won't go to counseling. He absolutely refuses to go. I want to get full time custody back, but he loves his dad so much that I know he won't go for that. I just don't know what to do.