3 year old regressing

Patricia - posted on 08/29/2009

Quoting Leah:

3 year old regressing

Hello, my 3 year old daughter, Mina, has started peeing on the floor and wetting her bed again. She has been potty trained for over a year. I know kids regress at times and wonder if starting preschool soon is the reason. I don't know how to stop it. If she keeps it up she won't be able to attend her preschool.

My 4 year old, Theo, has turned into a stubborn, non listening little terror. So not like him. I'm just not sure what to do with these guys. Any suggestions?

Leah.... I know that it does get a bit frustrating when we believe that all the necessary

taining has been well maintained for a year and suddenly the child pees and soils

his/her clothes or spaces... We must understand that just as we undergo certain pressure and tensefull moments the child is subjected to pressure even in school and anything can subject the child to hold back or release on themselves...

We also have to take into consideration that the child is still a child and they require constant

gentle reminders or simply asking them if they want to use the toilet... as children can get too

asbsorbed in their playing and then its too late for them to run to the toilet...

As for Theo he is probably just seeking some time out with you .... a little pampering to reassure him... It helps when you do notice that the kids are being a little stubborn.... to take note if it can be overlooked or to talk with him... asking his opinion, involving him in the little mum child conversation.... sometimes we tend to assume as mothers that the child understands everything we are putting accross....

All will be well ..... been there....Angel Hugs..

Kelly - posted on 08/29/2009

Yes, pretty normal to regress especially in kiddos who were potty trained on the young side. It could have to do with stress about preschool but I doubt it. I am a Montessori Toddler teacher and potty train 8-10 a day. They wear underwear and if they wet themselves they pick it up themselves with no humility. I don't believe in that. We just calmly say, "whoops, you have had an accident. Lets take care of that before our bum get sore." First, we go to the broom and they take off their own panties put them in a bag, wash themselves up and put dry ones on. Then we go to the spot where they had the accident. I pick up most of it with a cloth but then I spray down the spot and they help wipe it up. I never put a pullup on them. I set the timer for 20 minutes to remind ourselves to try to go on the potty so we don't have any accidents. Very frustrating and messy parenting business.

Amy - posted on 08/23/2009

We had my son in preschool while we were potty training him and it was the best thing. He was there 2 times a week and we worked together. When he would pee or poop his pant at home. I would spank himespecially when he was 3, 4, years. It did break him. When he went to the potty I encouraged him. Gave him a hug or high 5. Maybe gave him a new toy or treat not offten so he would not get used to it. We also gave him big boy pants and told him no more diapers you are a big boy and that helped too. Good luck