C - posted on 05/13/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hello, so I've decided to join "Circle of Moms" out of sheer desperation and fear for my 4 year old daughter. To start off, she's not the only child and has a 2 year old brother. I am a young mother (28) and still happily married to their father (great man). I have a number of concerns about her recent change in attitude. Less than 6 months ago she was a well behaved (but not perfect ;)) normal 4 year old. In the last few months there has been a steady decline in her behavior, she's now bullying her brother, talking back (huge issue), walking off when we're out in public and telling the most bizarre stories that just in general make 0 sense. I'm trying my hardest to keep my cool around her, but I'm also very very busy (like most moms) and just dont have time for her nonsense! We dont really lead a normal family life as such, we have a permanent family home in the UK but often fly abroad for various reasons (next month will be her 15th flight to NY). My husband has a very demanding job (although a blessing) so I'm kinda on my own with the 2 little ones. The thing thats worrying me the most about her is the talking back, for example:
ME: "E. will you please pick up your toys."
E: "But im too tired." or "Ugh moooom you always make me do everything!" or "Im just a little tiny baby, you do it!" or the old random "My leg hurts!" (or some ailment that pops up from nowhere and has nothing to do with what im asking her to do.)
I often have to ask her to do tasks 10-15 times before ill either get her doing it (with my help usually) or she'll just look at me and say "you never asked me to do that" like the whole hour conversation I had with her never happened?! I would like to note that although shes never been formally tested, shes probably near genius and probably accounts for a lot of the trouble. No excuse. Shes also constantly living in "fairy-tale land" she cant get dressed cause the fairies are sleeping in her room or shes not eating her pasta cause mermaids dont like pasta?! Ugh child, just do what i say!!! Can somebody please tell me that this is normal behavior for a 4 year old girl.