Fareha - posted on 12/27/2010 ( 49 moms have responded )
hi all, im in desperate need of some help with my 5 year old daughter. the thing with ehr is she has to have her way out which i understand isnt an isolated case. but the problem starts ebcause i am as stubborna s she is. also because i feel that i should have the upper hand when it comes to direction. i feel that she should know who's the boss because if i dont instill those values now she will get used to having her way out and end up a rebellious teenager. so ill give you an example - it starts on a simple decision on what to wear. and then once she starts to assert herself i start to yell. when i yell she starts to say youre being mean to me and cries loud. and she sone of those realllly loud kids.. like really reallly loud, and then sometimes i get so mad i hit her... i hate myself for doing that later but she just doesnt listen to me when i ask her politely. and then when i send her to her room she screams and yells sooo loudly it embarasses me so i tell ehr to keep it down which obviously she doesnt. and till sometime back when i would go in her room a couple of minutes later to give her a cuddle she would hug back. now she keeps screaming and tells me to go out of her room and says things like she doesnt love coz im mean to her and that it was my fault. i dont want her to resnt me. i wish she would understand that it happens because she doesnt listen. it really bothers me because i feel she will grown up hating me... blaming me for all the times we fall out. i know i should control my temper but shes just too loud! if i start taking a step back and let her have her way out of everything shell end up one of those horrid teenagers! please help guys!