6 year old still wets the bed. any thoughts.. or advice?

Melissa - posted on 05/24/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My 6 year old son still wets the bed but it is only at night. we cut off his liguid intake about 8 p.m to try to avoid this problem but he still ends up wet. Doctors have done tests on him for Diabeties and other things but they say he will have to grow out of it. Im frustrated and tired from the laundry and mounds of blankets that need to be washed. He is at the age where he wants to do sleepovers but with the problems i tend to say no. He is about 70 lbs and to big for pull-ups and really cant afford depends.. and i dont want to make his feel uncomfortable either.. open for suggestions......

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Elizabeth - posted on 08/06/2013

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I have a six year old who is still wetting his bed, I m worried about his self-esteem as he is very popular every child wants to play with him. it breaks my heart to see that I don't have a solution to help my baby boy....please help!

Jessica - posted on 08/29/2013

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Not sure how to handle this anymore. My son is 6 years old, and has been having accidents during the day a lot lately. He just started 1st grade, and he has been potty trained for some time now. So when he comes home from school with different pants on then I sent him with because he had another accident. It makes me wonder what is up with him. I understand he might just get nervous at school cause he is some what shy. I know he knows better though. We have talks about it every day that it happens. He claims he just forgets, he's also said it happens cause he doesn't want to miss anything wile being in the bathroom. No matter what I say to him, It doesn't seem to work. I've even come to the point of taking toys away when he does it. Please help. If anyone has any better ideas please share. I would really appreciate the advice. Thanks!

Megan - posted on 03/09/2013

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I remember so well how frustrating and helpless I felt to help my son stop wetting the bed. He wet every single night until he was 8 years old. He just used pull ups when he was younger. I kept a no big deal attitude. When he reached age 8 the bedwetting began to lower his self esteem. He worried that his friends would find out and he want to go to sleepovers. So I talked with him about using a bedwetting alarm and we read the book Prince Bravery and Grace-Attack of the Wet Knights. He wanted to try the alarm. I purchased the malem with alarm and vibration. He slept right through it at first -which is typical of a child who wets at night. Typically the childs brain does not recognize the full bladder signal while sleeping. The alarm trains the brain to react to the full bladder signal. So I would wake him. Sometimes several times in one night. But gradually he began to wake by himself. And in less than three months he went from wet every single night to dry every single night. I found a lot of positive information about bedwetting and alarm use at www.braveryandgrace.com
Also new medical studies have linked constipation to bedwetting, don't overlook this as a contributing factor. Ask you pediatrician to treat your child for constipation and see if this helps. If not, I would strongly recommend the bedwetting alarm.
Good luck and God Bless!

Also, I found the books, alarms and waterproof mattress pads at this webstore:
http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?...
hope it helps!

Shannon - posted on 05/30/2009

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I have 5 kids and so does my sister. Our dad wet until he was 12 and so did my sister and my husband. I have 2 children who wet until 12 -13 years. My sister had 3 who wet the bed but she used monitors that attach to the childs underware and make a connection when they start to pee, then a loud alarm goes off to wake them. It worked for her kids to retrain them not to sleep so sound. It did not work for us because all 5 of my kids were sleeping in the same room and when the alarm went off it scared my daughter so bad and she would scream in terror. I do think it would be worth a try for you. As you can tell from our family it is hereditary. It is actually very common. As long as the doctors have tested to make sure nothing else is going on. You could also ask your doctor about a nasel spray that helps lighten the sleep. It didn't work for us but also worth a try. I recommed you use the pull ups. They make them for bigger kids now. My kids both went to sleep overs and camps wearing them. They also allowed us all to sleep through the night and let them be incharge of their wetting. They could get up and take off the pull up and wash up without having to have mom involved. It was freeing for them and me. There were still time we had to wash bedding but not very often. We also used pads that went on top of the sheets. The most important thing is to NEVER make them feel bad about it because they can't help it. If you do send them on sleep overs besure to provide them with a descreet way to dispose of the wet pull up and if you might want to mention it to the mom and let your child know if there are any problems they can confide in the parent. Let your child know their are lots of other kids with the same problem, probably even someone they know. Its not fun but your child will grow out of it.

Brenda - posted on 06/13/2013

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i am having the same problem as you .Im not sure what else to do some people say good-nites work well?? idk im open for suggestions as well ....

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Megan - posted on 08/30/2013

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Jessica...sounds like he is nervous to leave the classroom. You might want to touch base with his teacher and ask about the bathroom policy. Most 1st grade teachers are very familiar with kids and wet pants. maybe a little extra reminder from the teacher is all thats necessary. Your teacher is a professional, thank her for all she does and ask for her help.
If it continues, you could just get some washable waterproof boxers for your son to wear to school. http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?...
And take a no big deal approach. You might also play school with him... he is the teacher and you are the child and pretend you have to go to the bathroom while in class. See what he tells you to do.

Annie - posted on 03/08/2013

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Yea bedwetting can't be helped but for some reason bribery or rewards seem to help. I did it when i was a kid Ans i got a dollar everytime i didn't and i quit within 2 wks. My 7 yr old got a chart in which we put stars everyday for a week with no accidents. If he succeeded he got a toy. No need for the chart after 2 weeks. I know he was not intentionally wetting the bed but the idea of a reward may have made him sleep lighter or become more aware of the urge to go. You know-how we adults can sometimes force ourselves to wake up at a certain time when we have an important or highly anticipated event coming. Couldn't hurt to try it. Best of luck!

Allison - posted on 03/08/2013

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I think kids get lazy about going to the bathroom. My 6 year old son just started recently wetting the bed and now it's getting worse. Cut liquids off at 6 pm and made sure he uses the bathroom before bed and he still manages to pee the bed not once but twice a night every day. I'm tired and sick of this all. Think he's just being lazy. I'm really lost at this point don't know what else to do.

Anshu - posted on 09/07/2012

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I am completely satisfied with Melissa's problem. My son is almost 6 years and I have the same problem. Can anyone suggest me any solution for this.

AFB - posted on 04/17/2012

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My 6yr old wets the bed only when shes home. Or when shes promised a toy the next day.. we went on vacation for an entire week and she dont wet the bed not one time.. the night she came home she started all over...so I believes she knows what she's doing. I'm beyond tired of the laundry, the smell the headache of it all.. she feels bad and embarrased as I recently made her wear pullups.. I'm soo at my end with this.. I need help PLEASE!!! Do I let it go, or she being lazy or what. .

Michelle - posted on 05/30/2009

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I can't give you any advice because we never found any solution to this problem, other than waiting for my son to grow out of it.... which he finally did at the ripe age of 13. No kidding! My mother-in-law managed a urologist practice for 20 years, and she always told me "We don't see many college-aged kids with a bedwetting problem." (Translation, he'll grow out of it.) If yours is a real sound sleeper, it may take even longer. You can try waking him up at around 2am to save yourself some laundry, but it won't "train" him to get up on his own.

Lisa - posted on 05/30/2009

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Lindsey Caskie is right! The body can still produce fluid. It just leaches it from other places in the body. Like your bowels, which leads to constipation. It can also take it from the brain & muscles & fat tissue. With-holding fluids is a great way to ensure a toxic back up.

Mikesha - posted on 05/30/2009

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I have dealt with that with my oldest. He stopped at 11. I tired everything from cutting back his liquid intake, not letting him drink after 6 cause he goes to sleep at 9 and they say the last drink should be 2-3 hours before bedtime. I've tired bed wetting alarms and even nasal medication that his doctor recommended. I talked to his doctor constantly and I was told that he would grow out of it which he did.

I found out that Enuresis, the medical name for bedwetting, is a common problem in kids, especially children under the age of 6 years. About 13% of 6-year-olds wet the bed, while about 5% of 10-year-olds do.

Bedwetting often runs in families (hereditary): kids who wet the bed often have a relative who did, too. If both parents wet the bed when they were young, it's very likely that their child will too. I was a bedwetter till the 5th grade which is around the same age my son stop.

I also found out that bed wetting can be due to the child being a hard sleeper, the child may have a small bladder, or there is a communication problem between the bladder and the brain.

Try setting your alarm and getting up throughout the night to him to the bathroom. Also, they have Goodnights for kids who have this problem. They are kind of expensive but at least this way you have some for of protection on him at night.

Good Luck!

Rosa - posted on 05/30/2009

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my daughter is 4yrs.and 5months now but she never pee in her pants.when she was 2yrs.old i already trained her to do her"weewee" at the toilet,it was so hard for me because i have to bring her 10-15times a day(toilet).before she turned 3,i stopped using diaper unless if we go on a long trip,at night time ..even in the middle of the night i wake her and brought her at the toilet.Waking up the kids at night just to "pee" is not bad (i think),..if you do this every night ,you will stop washing blankets also..i know it's tiring and seeing your son ends up wet in bed is upsetting.god bless you and i hope this advice will help.

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maybe cut of his liquids earlier, approx 1 - 1 1/2 hrs before bed. doing this with my 4 yr old and getting results.

Lindsey - posted on 05/29/2009

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hi melissa don't worry he will grow out of it my son was the same he never slept out or went camping with school because of this problem we tried everything alarms stopping fluid intakes sticker charts nothing worked until he was 10 years old and it did just stop literally over night and in two years we have never had a wet bed since have you tried dissposable bed mats by pampers they are great saves on the washing just persevere he will grow out of it !! lol happy washing lindzi in liverpool x

Brandi - posted on 05/29/2009

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My six yr. old boy still does it but 2 weeks ago, I took his nite time pullups away. I stopped fluid intake at 6 p.m. and made him sit to pee(empties bladder more), made him go again b/f bed, then also woke him up around midnite to pee. He has had 1 accident in 2 weeks. One night I did have to put his pullup back on b/c he drank too late, and it was wet in morning. So it goes to show that if the pullup is on he will pee. If it is not, he holds it better. Patience is the key. Their bladders are just weaker and it will end some day!

Tyler - posted on 05/28/2009

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My son is 51/2 and is still wetting bed too. We are cutting of drinks around 6 or 7:00. That helps. Now we are taking him to the bathroom before we go to bed too. So the last thing he does before bed at 8:00 is go to bathroom, then around 11:30 we will take him again. We gently pick him up (sometimes he will walk) and go to the bathroom. This has givin us the best success. He doesnt even remember, but I hope that eventually he will be able to do on his own. But it saves alot of laundry. We are still using a pull up, cause I get to upset at doing a bed change at midnight. There are big boy boxers too, if you want to try a sleep over. It may be an option, you can see them here.... http://www.goodnites.com/NA/bedwettingba...

Melissa - posted on 05/28/2009

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thanks for all the input and comments. I never really considered the things he was drinking. Didnt realize the effect of o.j and gatorade which he drinks a lot of both! He does drink a lot of water. So I am going to be cutting him way back off the juices. Again thanks for the advice!!

Kara - posted on 05/25/2009

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hi, my daughter used to wet the bed until she was about 8 or 9. i took her to see specialists and she has scans and blood tests and all sorts but everything was normal. i was told that it is more common than we realise and nothing to worry about and she would eventually grow out of it. its basically just where they go into such a deep sleep and the switch in your brain that usually tells u when ur asleep that u need the toilet just simply doesnt work. i was given some good advice tho, cut out all fizzy drinks, blackcurrant squash and any drinks that are more concentrated, like orange juice or J20. i also used to "lift" her before i went to bed, which involved gently waking her and guiding her to the toilet, then putting her back to bed. she didnt really wake up properly and never remembered us doing it in the morning! but it really did help and cut down on the washing!

i hope some of this will help, i know how upsetting and frustrating it all is!! good luck, and really try not to worry!



kara x

Lisa - posted on 05/24/2009

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Hey Melissa I have 6 kids & have been through the same thing with my oldest son. He did grow out of it though. I have had five more kids since then & didn't have any problems with it again until my last child Brooke. She is now 6 years old & still wets the bed. I heard of a chiropractor that has treated successfully ( & corrected) children with this problem & that it was caused from the lower part of their back being out of alignment. I brought Brooke in for an exam & the chiropractor gave her an ex ray & sure enough we could see where it was off. So now she is going to start getting adjustments. My heart goes out to the both of you over this matter.
sincerely, Lisa

Elizabeth - posted on 05/24/2009

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My 7 year old son still occasionally wets the bed. I have spoken to his pediatrician, and he said that until my son is 10, then there is nothing to worry about. I spoke with him when it was a 5 to 6 nights a week thing, too. We cut off all liquids after 6pm (with the exception of a small sip when taking his Zyrtec. He is not allowed any caffene or anything with red dye in it. Oh yeah, and no Gatorade or anything else like that. He plays ball and has to have water only - the Gatorade made it a whole lot worse.



I have a mattress pad on his bed. I have bought three, and there have been nights when we used all three. It is a pain, but I couldn't think about having him wear the night time pull ups.



I hope that this helps! Good luck and keep us updated!

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