6 yo going back to school after failing 1st grade.

Vickie - posted on 08/16/2012

My little grandson started school Tues. His mom is a counselor and she held him back. He is so sad and it makes you wonder if you did the right thing. He misses his friends but he is such a friendly little guy. He has a June bday so he is still not the oldest little guy in his class. I hope he will be okay. Poor baby...I just hope he can learn to read. That's what he struggles the most with.

Mary - posted on 08/10/2009

i know how u feel...as a mon we want the best 4 our children always and always want them to excel in everything. my daughter was held back in the first grade 4 reading also. i felt bad 4 her but it did not seem to have any major effects on her the startup of the next shcool year. she made new friends and did really well the 2nd time around. i feel it was better in the long run for her to have to repeat that level than 2 be promoted 2 the next level and not really prepared 4 it at that point. if behind in first would have been really behind & struggling in 2nd. lol.

Kim - posted on 08/09/2009

To answer one poster He turns 7 on october 26th. He actually started kindergarden when he was 4 (almost 5) School starts in August. I thought that was kinda young seeing as how when I was little I had to wait a whole other year (i also have a b-day in october) to start after I was 5! Maybe he is right where he needs to be age and grade. Thanks evereyone I feel alot better especial knowing he wont be the only 7 year old second grader! :)

Kathleen - posted on 08/08/2009

I know exactly how you are feeling.. Both my daughters were held back for their reading in the first grade.. It didn't have any effect on them because they knew they needed extra help in reading.. Honestly don't beat yourself up about it cuz at the end of the year you will see that it helped your child out for the better..

Julie - posted on 08/06/2009

My son is almost 7 and going into first grade. We were advised when he was very young, by pre school teachers and his peditrician that we should just wait to send him until kindergarten until he was 6 because he has a very late summer birthday. (aug 23). We are so glad we did, he has just excelled! Just explain to him as best you can, don't make a big deal out of it, chances are he will adjust just fine and be much better for it. Being a parent and making hard decisions can be heart wrenching, but trust that you made the right decision for your child.

Christine - posted on 08/06/2009

i have a son that i held back in the 6th grade. It has not efted him in any way. If anything i think that he is more confedent in him sef. He use to be the youngest in his class now he is the oldest. Their is no reason to fill bad about. Some kids have a harder time learning things and learn differently. You might see if your chids school has a program to help him with his reading.

Renae - posted on 08/06/2009

don't feel bad, you made the best choice for your son. He is young enough to weather this just fine, and will be more mature compared to his classmates. Kids don't think about things like adults, so they won't "all know he failed" in fact as they get older they will be jealous because he gets a drivers license first or has facial hair or is a better athlete or whatever!

Jennifer - posted on 08/06/2009

When is your childs bday? My son will be 7 and a half when he enters 2nd grade. When I read that your 6 year old was going back to 1st, it didn't sound odd to me, it sounded like maybe he was too young for it the first go.

Laura - posted on 08/06/2009

My mom held me back because it took her 3 years to figure out that I am hearing impaired. I stayed in Pre-school for another year. I was always one of the top oldest kid in the class even thoughout HS, unless someone failed a grade in HS. I didn't mind. I know my son's 2 schools encourage parents to read to their child, with a chart every month, that you read to them for 15 mins everyday, but only write down one book that they read with you or you read with them. Maybe his cousin can help him somehow to deal with it? Encourage him to do his best in school.

Laura - posted on 08/06/2009

My mom held me back because it took her 3 years to figure out that I am hearing impaired. I stayed in Pre-school for another year. I was always one of the top oldest kid in the class even thoughout HS, unless someone failed a grade in HS. I didn't mind. I know my son's 2 schools encourage parents to read to their child, with a chart every month, that you read to them for 15 mins everyday, but only write down one book that they read with you or you read with them. Maybe his cousin can help him somehow to deal with it? Encourage him to do his best in school.