7 year old son with autism- need help

Renee - posted on 09/16/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son is still non-verbal and has recently become very violent. Its so bad that he's become physical with everyone in our family. I'm hoping I can find moms out there that might have gone through this or going through this now. We are taking him to his developmental pediatrician next week and hoping to try some new meds for him. I hate medicating him at all but he can't continue to hurt himself or others.

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Crystal - posted on 05/16/2014

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My son is 7 also. I love him to death but now I have a one year old child they play great together and are so loving to one another... But sometime my son act out he love to throw thing and break stuff around the house really doesn't know danger.sometimes I feel hopeless and overwhelmed

Lauren - posted on 09/17/2012

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Renee, I have a friend who has worked with autistic children across the spectrum and has shared her tips and tricks with me. I have also cared for children with asberger's and mild autism when younger. I'd be happy to put you in touch with her if you want some ideas...email me at adverbs227@gmail.com.



Otherwise, be patient! That's huge. If you get frustrated, your son's behavior will be reinforced by this action. It can be extremely difficult to try to hold him to a requirement when he may not fully understand, but you have to work very hard to reinforce positive behavior and demonstrate that negative behavior will not earn him attention. I recall my friend saying often she would not respond verbally or change what she was doing when the child started to act out. You obviously need to ensure they aren't hurting you or anyone else, but if they hit her, she would ignore it (having explained to him after the first time how to properly act). Then when he colored again (or did something positive instead), she would immediately acknowledge the good behavior.



I know she has other tricks up her sleeve, as all of the children she works with daily are autistic, so I would love to put you in touch with her. Regardless, remember to acknowledge and pay attention to your son's needs. I've seen so many situations where parents ignored that their children needed different direction, put them in regular school or daycare and have simply written them off as a "case to be cared for forever." You child needs your help, your patience, your love--even if he doesn't show it. You are already a great mom for reaching out for help. Ask the pediatrician if he/she knows of autistic counselors in the area. My friend does just this--works with autistic children one-on-one each week and integrates the parents in behavioral training. You are strong and can help your son one step at a time. Be patient with progress, diligent about routine and allow yourself to enjoy the little milestones--and take time for yourself once in awhile! :)

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