7 year old wetting pants

Aubry - posted on 03/27/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi, I could really use some help with my daughter. She is 7 and STILL doesnt make it to the bathroom on time when she is playing or watching TV. She waits till the last possible second to go and by then, its usually too late. She knows she has to go but chooses not to and hold it. When I try to make her go every hour or so, she flat out refuses to go and denies she has to go when I can clearly tell she does. I catch her all the time doing the dance and she still tells me she doesnt have to go. Thankfully, she doesnt have accidents at school so I know she can do it at home as well. What I dont get is that she could care less that she does it and more times then not, if she doesnt completely soak herself, she will continue playing as if nothing happened until I realize what she did. I dont know what else to do as I feel like I am chained to the washer with all the extra laundry I am doing because of it. Is there anyone else here that has an older child that still has wetting accidents during the day? She is still wetting the bed about 3-4 times a week at night but its the daytime accidents that really bother me. Thank you

Aubry

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Truepulse - posted on 03/29/2011

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Ok, so now since its based clear that she is medically fit and healthy, the problem is psychological, how is she when she is at home? How well you both get along with each other? Please dont mind my asking that, but you have to give it a try sitting with her while playing and enacting as if you have to go to the loo... " baby wait for a few seconds i have to take a leak break or what ever word you guys have for the thing...

then go to the loo, come back and try saying her that you did the pi -pi and washed yourself, then you washed your hands with soap... try communicting with her in the play....

when she soaks up do you shout at her, or punish her... are you working mom... do you spend enough time with her? This is one thing she is trying to get your attention... so try spending time with her... and ignore all the mess she is doing for few days no punishing and getting mad... i know its so painful for you to deal with... but sweety its really one way to give it a shot...

Dont show her you are getting mad at her... infact help her by being patient and try to be ignorant about the leaks for for few days without anger and punishment... keep reminding her to got to the loo... and give it a shot for few days... once she sees that she has your attention hopefully the problem will be solved... All the best... Hang in there..Hope it helps.

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Angela - posted on 08/02/2011

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Aubry and Dionne: Thank you guys so much. I am having a similar problem with my son, and I am going to impliment this advice soonest. I hope that it works! my son is younger, so it may be a bit harder to do, but (after the Drs Appt.) I am totally going to use Dionne's advice!
Thanks!!

Dionne - posted on 04/06/2011

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I have two children with Fragile X syndrome. Incontinence is, well was. an issue. I found someone to help my kids with this, they are 10 going on 11and 9. I found the place last year plus discussed this with the school they attend for kids with disabilities. First thing I tried and did and still does work is this. Make it clear when child has to go to bathroom they go before wetting the cloths, if the child wets the cloths no more of the activity they were doing for a length of time.My kids usually a game system or tv. It can be the rest of the evening, or two hours, what ever you pick. This did work but we still had problems with the incontinence. So I kept looking for help thats when I found the place to help. Secondly, look at the diet (which is what I learned from the place I took my son) dairy, caffeine, sugar can all be irritants to the bladder which can cause the I need to go now oops to late I had accident. Check the diet and when the child eats last. It is typical for a person to toilet 6 hours after they eat which could be why child is nighttime wetting. I have been working on changing my kids' diet and with the rule of you wet cloths for no real reason this is taken away. My two are in school so it is from after school to bedtime for losing there items. Weekends are harder when they have accidents for no reason. I keep an eye on the items that are bladder irritants and I do notice the urgency of needing to go after he has the irritant foods. Good luck.

Aubry - posted on 04/04/2011

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I hope its OK to give myself a bump. Are there other moms out there that are in the same dilema I am in?

Aubry

Aubry - posted on 04/02/2011

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Thanks true. We get along great and the only time she doesnt have "accidents" is when she is at school and or in front of her friends. I have many times told her that since I am going, she should try to go as well but she wont even try. The problem is that its a fight just to get her to help clean up her mess. I want her to be somewhat responsible for it...not as a punishment but a responsibility. She is old enough to know how to clean up her messes, just like she is old enough to clean her room or do chores. What it all boils down to is having to clean up after her and deal with the washing and scrubbing of the furniture she happens to be sitting on at the time. And it cant be good for her to walk around in wet pants either. I just want to avoid all that and hope she decides to start working on going when she feels the urge. Thank you!

Aubry

Aubry - posted on 03/28/2011

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Thank you teresa, I have taken her to her dr and have been assured that she is perfectly healthy and he can see nothing medically wrong with her. He concurs with me that she just doesnt want to stop what she is doing to go when she has to as she has no issues when she is at school. I do make her clean up the mess and bring her things to the laundry room but I do not trust her to use the washer just yet. I have tried to teach her but she has not got the hang of it as of yet. The big problem I have with it is the fact that she doesnt care and will walk around with damp pants until someone notices her. But, if she soaks her pants she will go ahead and change. Its getting harder keeping her off the furniture because and I dont want her ruining it. I cant tell you how many times I have had to scrub the couch. I just dont know what else to do....having accidents at night is one thing but during the day when she knows full well she has to go is something else. Thank you again.

Aubry

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Have you spoken to the doctor? My girls had a similar issue, but would just 'dampen' themselves. It has, for the most part, resolved itself and they are 9. There is a medical (possibly psychological too) issue that causes it. IF it is the same issue that my girls had (the bedwetting leads me to think it might be, but they didn't wet often past 6.5), there is a pill that can treat it, but we chose to wait it out.

Stop doing her laundry. She is old enough to learn how and take responsibility for her messes. Making them go every hour is actually one of the other 'treatments', but if you are trying that and she's refusing.... that is what is making me say to have her be responsible for her own laundry.

Hang in there! It DOES get better!

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