7 yr old son who hates loud noises...

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Anyone else have a son/daughter who is scared of loud noises? I noticed it started in Kindergarten when he wouldn't go to the gym because of the bell. It was extra loud being in the gym. It went so far that the teacher just didn't take him when the class went. They would leave him at the office til they came back. She finally came up with the plan of giving him a count down of days until he had to go. It worked and on the day he had to go back, he went and just covered his ears. Everything went fine after that. Then Gr.1 came and the same thing again. The gym bell was too loud. He pretty much had to suck it up and go. Cover his ears if he must. He's now in Gr. 2 and I think he said something when Sept came, but has been going no problem.

He just gets very anxious about it if he knows it coming. As with other situations. His after school daycare is going to have a fire drill this week, and he is upset about it. He doesn't know when but he doesn't want to go because it will be loud. He just thinks about things too much and freaks himself out. Same when he has to go to dentist. He had a bad experience once with a dentist when he as 3 or 4 (an abscessed tooth). He had a filling recently and just works himself up. He needs to learn to go with the flow (like me). Our dentist now is so awesome and totally understands our son. Now he wants to be a dentist when he grows up.

Just wondering if this is something he is going to live with forever, or if he'll grow out of it eventually. Anyone else??

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Lisa - posted on 12/19/2010

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My son has the same problem. He's 6. He also had a lot of ear infections as a baby/toddler. Tubes wouldn't have helped him, his ears always drained. But it also made his ears sensative. We took him to a baseball game and we had to leave early. He spent the whole time covering his ears and crying.

Shannon - posted on 04/21/2010

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Have you mentioned it to his Dr.? It may be a medical issue and it couldn't hurt to check. I wouldn't worry too much as he is 7 now and certainly won't be scared of noise as a young man, rest assured he will listen to music to loudly. (LOL) He will adjust eventually. I would talk to him about anxiety though. What it is and how to deal with it. He may need some guidance about his fears and how to cope with them. Hope this helps.

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Clare - posted on 01/30/2014

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A friend of mine just shared w/me that her 5-yr old son told her that it takes him extra time to do his work in school because he is distracted by the noise in the room which sounds extra loud to him, although they are just the normal everyday noises one would expect in a classroom. It's not just in the classroom, but elsewhere too. It's as if sound is amplified, his mom said, and he asked her if he could wear earplugs. She's trying to figure out the cause of this amplification and I suggested an ear, noise, and throat doctor.

We had a wonderful ENT doctor who treated our son when he was 4 for an ear infection that only responded to anti-biotics. Having been an ENT doctor for over 30 yrs, she shared that over 95% of ear infections are diet-related and showed us a list of the offending culprits which bother many children such as dairy, eggs, soy, wheat, chocolate, nuts, sugar, etc. I told her that our son could not do dairy as every single time he'd eat dairy, he would get an earache, especially so w/ice cream, which we did our best to keep from him. But there was the occasional b-day party he'd attend and within hours he'd be complaining. We managed to get him through these earaches w/o anti-biotics and using ear candles proved especially helpful. Amazing the stuff that can come out of a little 4-yr old boy's ears. He'd always be better after the candling except for this one time. He was prescribed Augmentin, a kick-butt anti-biotic, and the ENT doctor stated that he had to do pro-biotics in conjunction w/the Augmentin. He did the course and within a few days was back to normal. He is now almost 21 and can handle most dairy, although he doesn't prefer it. Neither he nor my daughter (age 24) liked milk and did just fine w/o it. Both are healthy and rarely sick. My son is 6'2" and my daughter is 5'8". Have to attribute their healthy immune system to not having vaccines either which in my case, created allergies and asthma in 1st grade which I'm still dealing w/many yrs later.

Lex - posted on 12/24/2012

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It sounds to me like he is more anxious about the surprise of the loud noises and their violent inevitable interruption of his peaceful life than he is physically pained or upset by loud noises.

Reassure him, that sometimes things will surprise you in life and might even scare you or be unpleasant, but we have to accept them as uncontrollable and choose not fear them. And sometimes, loud noises can just be tools to tell us that it's time recess or that school is out.

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My son who is 8, has always basically gone spastic over loud noises. At parades, hockey games, anything loud we have to take a pair of head phones for him. I expressed my concern to his doctor & he said some children just have really sensitive hearing & it can't be helped. My son is also I would say more sensitive all around then most kids. The thing that helps us the most is to prepare him for what he is going to hear or what might happen. So for example when he goes to the dentist, I run down what the dentist will do & what is going to happen. I let him ask me any questions he has & I ask him any fears he has and usually after he feels confident he knows what is going to happen he goes with no problem. I know you can't always predict when a noise will occur so we try to teach our son to calm himself down. If he is overwhelmed by all the kids being loud in his class, I showed him how to close his eyes, take some deep breaths & count to 10. But over all I guess he mostly needs to be reassured that nothing bad is going to happen. I hope it gets easier for you & you find a solution :)

Nata1980 - posted on 12/15/2010

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He may or may not grow out of it. Fear of loud noises can be mild, or can prevent him from joining activities with his peers. As for teacher to leave him in the office - not a good solution.
My son who is 6 struggles mostly with unexpected sounds, rather than loud sounds per se. I.e. his peers roaring like dinosaurs. Or dogs and babies. Dentists can also b unpleasant sensory experience. Sounds like he is showing progress, i.e. going to the gym class now. So unless his fears are lessening - he is ok. Also - sign him up for music lessons, hyper-sensitive hearing usually goes with musical ability.
In my son, his sound sensitivity prevents him from participating in things, so we are working on it through sensory activities (out-of-sync child series), and also have a listening program for him. But really - it changes year over year - and after the summer break it is usually harder to get back into a swing. Remember, schools today are much noisier than when we were kids, i.e. when I pick my son up (rarely - due to our schedules, it is usually my husband) - I am totally overwhelmed with the sound, kids yelling, parents talking, etc. Have a good musical ear, too.
Good luck:)

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