A Vacation without Kids... is it okay?

Angela - posted on 02/15/2010

ABSOLUTELY you should go. My boyfriend and I alternate years with my kids for vacation. One year we go on a "family" vacation. They next year we take an "Adult Only" vacation. Lots of single moms feel like they are abandoning their kids when the are really takihg necessary time for themselves. Trust someone who's been there you will be a better mother for your kids by taking some time for yourself once in a while. Angela

MARY - posted on 02/14/2010

it is not only a vacation for you but for them they will get to experience being little grown ups for awile. It taught my guys that mom does do alot to make a day go so smooth. they learned to resect me more. believe me it had been 14 years since I was on my last vacation I needed to get away from scout meetings sporting event and other activities to realize I am not just mom I am a great mom who is also a woman.

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2010

Everyone needs a break! When you have a break from work you actually get a break!
A full time mum who takes her kids on a holiday is still WORKING!!!
Leave them with someone you trust and have a great time, I've done it a few times now, I try to go away every few years.
I'm off again in June for a wedding and am planning for a big one in 2 years time.
I do it every few years, I am so grateful to have Grandma, Aunty, Nanna and a few fantastic friends in the same town as us!

Kevyn - posted on 02/10/2010

i'm so glad to see everyone here saying take it! I totally agree! :D Although I would have a tough time being away from my kids for that long, I still think it sounds like a blast! If you feel bad, you can ALWAYS call and talk them in to bed at night :P They are going to miss you but you also won't always be there and they will need to learn that at some point. This is a positive small step towards teaching them later indepedence, I believe. And do have fun on that trip!! We're all jealous :D

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2010

YES..YES...YES. I think that it is absolutely fine that you take some time for yourself...you had your family Vacation and your kiddies are old enough to understand that you need just a little time for you. and Girl...its Amstradam..you can call your kids,

Sharon - posted on 02/10/2010

we all need a break from our kids sometimes it actually makes them understand if u go to work or out for a meal with friends,speak to them over the fone or postcards lets them know u are comin bak u just going on a wee adult trip

Samantha - posted on 02/09/2010

Although my kids arent quite school aged (almost 4), I think it is very important for parents to have their space. If I takes a trip away for you to perk up, and feel good, and get out some of your frustrations, or even just to relax in a tub and read a book, you need your space. It will make you a better and happier mom. However first and foremost comes your child. As long as you have somewhere safe and reliable for your child to stay, I absolutely think you should go. Good Luck, and Have FUN!!!

Danielle - posted on 02/06/2010

You always need to make time for you, or you can't be the best you can for your kids. If you don't take time for yourself, you will get overwhelmed faster and stressed out. take the vacation!

Samar - posted on 02/06/2010

sour you can com............am wating for you

Susie - posted on 02/06/2010

YES...YES....Do it. You need some time by yourself, so u can enjoy them when u come back. Can i come....LOL

Samar - posted on 02/06/2010

I thenk you have you to go this vacation.and you allready do your jop twar your kieds and you have to tell them you will go to be fresh also to contenuo yorur hard work with them.........have anice time

Michele - posted on 02/05/2010

I was a single mom for several years so I understand the internal conflict you are having with this decision. But having been there and just being a mom I believe a vacation would be a great way for you to re-energize and take care of yourself. As important as it is to be a mom, it's just as important to have some time to yourself. I believe your kids are old enough to leave for that length of time, especially if you have individuals that are responsible and that you trust with your children. It's not selfish, Go for it! I'm sure even your kids will enjoy the time away visiting with others that they care about. Have fun!!!

Angie - posted on 02/05/2010

I think it's necessary for you as a single mom to take some time for yourself. As long as you won't be taking money out of the regular family budget I think it's a great idea.

Antoinette - posted on 02/05/2010

You must take care of you to be able to take full care of them. They will be fine and they may even enjoy the vacation from youi. I dont mean this as a mean thing. I thought the same thing when me and my husband wanted to do a vacation on our own so we sent the kids off to grandmas and when we got back they had such a great time that we were all relaxed. now we make it a yearly thing. every other year we all go together and every other year we do it apart. It also teaches them that while we as parents are away, we do come back. I hope this helps.

Kellie - posted on 02/04/2010

i think your kids are old enough to be without you for a week. Of couse they are going to miss you and that should make you feel good not guilty. Maybe to ease your sense of "guilt" you and the caregivers can plan some fun things to do that will get the kids minds off of you being gone and make it a fun experience for them too. Yes it's ok, yes its fair, and you absolutely deserve it. Just a side note and not to scare you or anything but you should get a Temporary Healthcare power of attorney for the kids. Just in case they catch a cold or need to see the doctor for something minor it give the caregivers authority to make decisions on behalf of the children. it's only good for the time you are gone. === Have a great time!!!!

Alicia - posted on 02/04/2010

i'm a single mom as well and i know how you feel. but i try to take at least one vacation a year without them. they have me 365. one week or one day never hurt any body. you deserve it! go have fun.just remember to leave the guilt at home!

Brittany - posted on 02/03/2010

yes i believe you do need a vacation! believe me vacations away from ur children will make you a better mom! i would go even thou i would feel bad but as long as there taking care of go and enjoy yourself!

Danielle - posted on 02/03/2010

Jen kuddos to you for being a single mom that is probably one of the hardest jobs that there is. You spend every minute with your kids and I think that this vacation is something that you deserve for yourself. It's not going to make you less of a mom if you'd take sometime out for yourself. So go and enjoy as long as you feel certain that you have responisble trustworthy people that would care for your children like you would want them to be cared for while not with you. Please enjoy your vacation and let us moms know how you enjoyed it.