Amy - posted on 07/21/2012 ( 64 moms have responded )
My 9 year old dd is developing but will not wear a bra. In tighter fitting shirts the soft roundness of her breasts is noticeable! She seems oblivious, however. Mentally and emotionally she's still a kid.
Before she went to sleepaway camp a few weeks ago, I took her bra shopping. She picked out two bras, and everything seemed okay. But now (post-camp) she refuses to wear them. She won't say why. She just cries and refuses. (Guess: she was teased at camp.) She also won't go with me to pick out different bras, so I bought a sports bra and a cami (with a built in bra) and put them in her drawer. She won't wear any of them. (She has always hated layers too.)
When I tell her she has to wear something underneath her top she always refuses and fights me. When she does wear something, she is constantly fidgeting, tugging, checking to see if the straps show, etc. I don't understand this, but she is more concerned about her bra/cami being noticed than her breasts being noticed.
I don't know what to do. She LOVES tank tops and bright/white colors. The uniform at her new school includes white polo shirts. I feel embarrassed when her "development" is noticeable, but she doesn't care. Do any moms have advice or experience that would help?