Gillian - posted on 01/15/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )
HELP! I'm beginning to get desperate! My 8yo has always been a good a good sleeper I remember having to do 'controlled crying' when she was about 9mths old Worked like a dream! Recently though (more like the last 5/6 months) going to sleep has become an issue. Wind down time, story and into bed not a problem but if she doesn't fall asleep within 10-15 mins she then seems to work herself up and NEEDS mummy to rub her head or stay in her room or sit on the stairs until she falls asleep or worse still to join us in our bed (or the floor in our room!). We've talked about it, chatted about what I can do to help her settle herself off to sleep, what she can do to help herself, (suggested she turn her side light on and read or draw or play on DS if she can't sleep- all of which she won't do!), tried star charts, instant rewards, threatened to lose privilegies (which I admit is more out of my frustration with the situation) Nothing appears to be any different in her life She is a fun loving happy little girl with many friends and doing well at school. Home life is settled infact her dad and I are getting married in May which she is thrilled about! I must add it's not everynight but more often then not. There are nights when she has herself convinced that she won't be able to sleep before we even start getting ready for bed! It's like she talks herself into it! I am beginning to dread bedtimes as I don't want to get angry with her but am beginning to feel VERY frustrated as she just won't help herself! At fisrt I thought it was insecurity/anxiety she's about the right age for a surge in hormones! but I'm beginning to wonder if it's just about control? Any suggestions? Anyone?