Anyone been in a abusive relationship?

Sharon - posted on 11/06/2008 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi there, I just thought i would stop by and introduce myself. I am Shaz. I am a 25 yr old single mum to 5 yr old Nichole. We live in Adelaide SA, Australia. I have been a single mum for just over a year. I left an abusive man and i must say it's the best and hardest thing i have ever done. I didn't have much support when i left him but am building up my support network. I have just started a group for other's in my situation if you are interested the link is http://apps.facebook.com/circleofmoms/gr... I hope to make this a haven for sufferer's ad survivors of DV, a place for them to come, get advice, chat and make new and valuable friends. I do hope to see you there.



I would like to touch base with others who have been or are still in abusive relationships. My ex is still controlling and abusing me.....I need help!



Shaz xx

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Nikki - posted on 11/11/2008

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Shaz-Good for you. Once your daughter gets old enough to under the whole situation she won't resent you. As far as still controling you... take back the power. It's your's! Good luck to you. Strong and continue to be the strong person that you know you are.

Dina - posted on 11/11/2008

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You are a brave woman for having taken such huge step.....your right is to live a descent life,most importantly respected coz the worst feeling in the world is to live with some one who abuses u and treat u bad. This makes you hate yourself, hate others and lose your self-confidence which will be reflected negatively on the way u raise ur daughter. By deciding to move on, you spared her a lot of pain.Once she's older, you can explain to her that you did this to protect her, I'm sure with time, she will know how great you are as a mother. However, u should be careful of not becoming too protective with her (after what u went thru), watch over her while giving her space to live her own life with confidence and no fear......the best of luck dear Shaz

Sharon - posted on 11/06/2008

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Thanks guys,



This is indeed one of the hardest things but will end up most rewarding. I am fearful that my daughter will grow up angry that i left....but she still does have the contact with him. I want her to grow up and know that this kind of behavious against another person is not acceptable.

Unfortunately my ex is still very much trying to control me and constantly texting me and asking 100 questions. I need to break free but i dont know how to without it turning ugly.



Thanks for your responses.



Shaz

Becky - posted on 11/06/2008

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I have not ever been in your situation. Stay strong! Nobody deserves to be treated that way! You also need to be a strong role model for your daughter. Everybody has GREAT qualities to them. You need to believe you are a good person and deserve the best things life has to offer! You can do this!

Amanda - posted on 11/06/2008

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Good for you Shaz. That was the bravest and best thing you could of done for your daughter. She will know one day what an incredible mum she has. Take care.

Michelle - posted on 11/06/2008

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Shaz, I have not been in your situation, but I think you are very brave for taking the steps you have taken!! Stay strong!! You are doing a wonderful thing for your daughter. Well done!! Good luck!!!

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