Anyone else have a emotional 7yr.old girl!!!

Sally - posted on 01/13/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am just wondering if its our daughter or is this a phase. Our 7r old daughter gets very emotional usually involves crying. She will cry really for no reason. I have thought maybe its just her way of relieving stress but not sure. Some of the simpliest things make her cry. She is our more sentitive child. She really will cry for no real reason and want ideas on how to help her so she doesn't cry over the small stuff all the time. Thank You for anyone who helps

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Laura - posted on 01/15/2011

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I have to say i laughed a little to myself at this conversation bc my 7 yr old stepdaughter does the same exact thing! ( No I didn't think it was funny, I was amazed someone else's girl does the same thing!!!) We have dealt with her boughts of crying for apparently no reason for ever. Literally years. I met her when she was 4, and she is almost 8. It has been like this since I've known her. Her meltdowns usually occurred at night, when she was about to go to sleep. She would cry and cry and cry and cry. (Crying for her mom mostly, she's always lived with her dad so I started wondering if her crying for her mom was an emotional outlet bc it's a legitimate reason to be upset? Not to impune her insecurities by any means it was just a thought that had crossed my mind) Anywho, I have recently figured out that her crying occurs almost always when she's tired. Which is why it happened at bedtime. She is very emotional when she's tired. So I worked with it and gave her earlier bedtimes, etc. One night I did say to her, now you've cried yourself to sleep for at least 4 years. It's not good to cry yourself to sleep. Think of happy things, focus on something on the wall, think about your day even. Then I started some yoga excercises with her at bedtime and it helped her relax not to mention stopped the crying (as well as talking with her that we don't want her to cry herself to sleep anymore because it's not healthy so between the two it worked). So I did figure out what was contributing to her crying hysterics. I also try to keep a journal of her daily life, what she did, how did she react, how tired is she etc., to help me figure out where her limits are and how much is too much. I have an awful memory which is why I write it down, but it also helps me pin point days where she'd cry and I have figured out quite a bit using this method :) I've also found keeping her brain occupied as much as I can helps to keep it from wandering to unpleasant thoughts :) I hope you can use my ideas!

Rachel - posted on 01/17/2011

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I think girls are just overly emotional a lot of the times anyways, my expirience with them is their touchy, short tempered, and very easily offended. I have a little girl myself, and she just started more of the emotional stuff. Its definitly not as extreme as your child, but every child is different. I would try earlier bedtimes, make sure you have very strict eating guide lines, nutrition and vitamins are waay more important then most people think. and maybe another after school avtivity, possibly gymnastics, piano lessons, something that interests her may help. extra attention may also be the key, I dont think little girls can ever have too much attention =) but most importantly, I would make sure that maybe theirs nothing bigger thats upsetting her that you may not know about. I do notice with myne, when shes a little more emotional then normal over nothings at home, that maybe a kid bugged her at school or something, and then shes extra sensitive at home.

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My 8 year-old daughter does that. She'll just start crying for no reason and all I can do is sit with her. I really honestly think it's the very early stages of puberty (especially since she's never been this emotional before about 6 months ago).

I'm sorry I don't have any advice, but I know how hard it can be to comfort your daughter when she's like that!

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Krissy - posted on 02/14/2011

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there are times I don't know if my eldest is using manipulation or not. I don't even think SHE knows for sure.

She is irritated about one thing and blows something else out of proportion because she can... LOL! and by the time she does, then she's feeling bad about BOTH things.

Allison - posted on 02/14/2011

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Didn't sound heartless at all. I think all parents have witnessed such behavior. I know I have. Lol It's a point worth consideration, like me, I think some of these mothers are able to tell the difference between an manipulation fit and something abnormal. I do love that someone else shares my way of thinking. Many parents I know tend to coddle their children emotionally and refuse to admit, to themselves or their child, that the child is not 100% perfect.

Krissy - posted on 02/14/2011

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just curious... and not trying to be mean, but has anyone considered the thought that girls are very emotionally manipulative? LOL!

I have two girls, and I happen to be one. I know that my just turned 9 year old will cry and bawl over not wanting to wash the dishes, but instead of saying that's why, cuz she knows it won't work... she will instead come up with something to cry about instead.

Just a thought... maybe giving attention and such for crying isn't the solution...maybe it's just the reward.

((not trying to be heartless!!! LOL!))

Allison - posted on 02/13/2011

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Has anyone consulted their family physician and consulted with a Psychiatrist? Please do, if you haven't already,
an emotiolal child is such for a reason. Emotions are determined by either external or internal stimuli. Your children are being upset by something, perhaps it's something they are afraid to say, don't know how to verbally express, etc. Most likely, due to the gender and age of the children mentioned, hormones can play a factor. Please, if this behavior has alarmed you enough to discuss it here, then your wonderful mothers who should trust your instincts. Insist your pediatrician run a complete blood work up, to check for hormonal imbalance, which could result in cancer later. Trust me. I know first hand!

S - posted on 01/16/2011

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MIne is 6 and she does it too. Like Laura's girl mine does it mostly when she is tired, or hungry or her feeling have been the victim of a perceived injury ( her 2 yr brother doesn't want to play with her). The mommy time sounds great but tends not to work with my girl. I figure out which one it is and give her yogurt when she is hungry, some alone time when she is tired (claims she doesn't want to sleep), and a hug when she wants to talk about it.

Lisa - posted on 01/13/2011

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Are there other siblings? Is there an attention issue. What types of things upset her. Are there commonalities to the things she gets upset about? My 6yo will get upset if someone hurts her feelings or if she thinks they are going to hurt her feelings or if one of her brothers tells her that someone doesn't want to be her friend. The list goes on and on. But it always comes back to her feelings being hurt. When I try to tell her she is making too much of it she gets upset. The only thing that helps is when I apologize for whatever it is that is upsetting her.The mommy one on one works at home. This does not work in the middle of wal-mart when you are trying to keep track of three kids and figure out what to have for dinner and your 6yo is having a melt down. But I have sat down with her on and end cap for just a minute to try to get her to calm down. I now bring along a doll and tell her that when she gets upset and mommy is busy she can talk to her doll(sophie) about it and when we get home she and Sophie and I will talk about it. A friend suggested the doll or a favorite toy. She thought it might be a security thing or rather insecurity. Can't afford a shink so I do what I can.Good Luck.

Nicole - posted on 01/13/2011

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Mine does the same thing. I think that it really is a phase. I am kind of winging it at the moment but what seems to be working for me is having some mommy daughter time each day to just talk about things. Mainly about how her day went and about the things that happened at school and things like that. That seems to be working so far. I am also going to try having some "girl" time with her during the weekend. Hopefully that works. I am looking forward to seeing everyone elses response because I am always up for new ideas. Good luck!

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