Anyone feel like they never get any time to themselves

Micaela - posted on 06/14/2011

I don't have any answers for you, sorry. However, I am a little concerned about my son having aspergers....for awhile now we've thought he was somewhere on the asperger's spectrum. He's too advanced to have autism, but he has some autistic tendencies I guess you could say. How does your son behave exactly? My son is pretty much average, but a little behind his peers. He was a late potty trainer and somewhat late talker, and has minor to moderate speech problems that get better with practice. He also has some OCD tendencies as well. Is this anything like your son. I will be talking about this at his next Dr. appt. but any info you can share would help too since you have experience. Sometimes it can be more helpful when you have knowledge from someone that's been there. Thanks, Micaela

Christina - posted on 06/12/2011

My son is 6 years old and also has Aspergers. I found that the most important thing for him was the routine. If I deviate, or its past his bedtime then we might have some issues. Dinner, dessert, 15 minutes to play quietly, bath and STRAIGHT to bed. I think the bath relaxes him. I tuck him and kiss him. I have no problem if he is not tired BUT he has to stay in bed. He has his stuffed animals that he has to sleep with. He has a nightlight. He goes to bed everyday between 8:15pm-8:45pm (which was just moved from 7:45pm-8:15pm). Once in a while he comes downstairs for a snuggle on the couch which I always will say yes to with the condition that its once in a while. Good luck!

Kim - posted on 06/11/2011

i have 4 and 3 of my kids share a room, an unfortunate necessity. it has made for madness at bedtime. we are beginning to see a change now that we increased the grounding-from one day to two. it still is not great but it is better. also, our son has adhd and is taking methylphenidate(ritalin) the psychiatrist took his trouble with sleep seriously as it can make a big impact on a persons behaviour and ability to cope. he takes benedryl, starting with 1/2 of a 25mg. tablet. we just began doing this and the dr. said after a couple of nights if he still was having trouble we can try increasing. my son took an hour before falling asleep so we will give him a whole 25mg. dose for a couple of nights to see if that will allow him to get a healthy rest. if it does than we can keep him at that amount. he is 13years old. maybe if you could talk to a doc about this they could let you know other options. good luck.

Bevely - posted on 06/09/2011

I have two kids, my son also has aspergers and adhd. We sometimes have issues with him going to bed, mostly he gets up and plays with the toys in his room instead of sleeping. I find consistency and routine works well for him. PT time, bathtime, tidy room time, story time, bedtime. And bedtime at the same time 8pm, now on weekends and summer we are more laxed with the times, but it is basically the same routine. He gets rewarded on his chore/behavior chart for doing everything correct and gets disciplined if he doesn't.

Karen - posted on 06/09/2011

I have the same problem with my kids. They don't have aspergers either lol. Mine are just bad lol. I try so hard to wear them out and all it does is wind them up. Once they wind up, it takes half a day or more for them to wind down. It became a habit for them to play till they got tired after i'd send them to bed. Even if they were falling asleep before they were sent. I've resorted to letting them stay up late and they pass out within 15 min. But this isn't going to work once school starts back up. And they don't sleep in either. I really wish we had some kind of magic wand we could use. I wind them up after lunch and let them run around outside until supper. Then we eat and it's back to walking, doing something sitting down (playing w/ cars, coloring, watching a movie ect..) Then i give them baths, read, kis/hugs/ and lights out. All that and they are up playing within 5 min. My 3 hr. routine used to work, but we've had a few minor changes (me becoming a stay at home mom and things). So now it's not working as well as it used to. i tried for 3 months and now since summers here I've given up for the time being.