Rachel - posted on 09/21/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am a new parent (almost 9 months), and I am very happy that I was given this opportunity, however I am at my wits end.
Madison (5) is in the middle of a very difficult situation where his mother has been gone since he was less than 1 year old. She left her child with his father for almost 4.5 years, She had ran away with a random homeless man and gave birth to her second son (age unknown) in Kentucky. Until recently Dad had been the primary care provider for his so, till she (mother) returned 8-9 months ago and filed to have Sole and legal/primary custody.
Before She (mother) had left Madison (son) had been removed from his mothers care on the grounds of abuse/neglect (he was 6 months)
Current issue 1:
Grandparents (maternal) whom mother lives with are causing trouble through expressing their concerns/fears near or around him when they may think he is unable to understand or hear them...
Current issue 2:
he is still having to visit his mother (every other weekend till custody is resolved). His mother has to be prompted to spend time with him, and say good bye or hello when he arrives.
Current issue 3:
Madison (5) when he comes back home he always is returned sick: Staying up till he is 'tired' (11pm-12am), being feed inappropriate food (uncooked noodles), candy, all the french fries he can eat (which is a lot) deep fried food, and Undercooked meat (chicken pork, ground beef)...
so as a result on those Mondays he has sever accidents where he poops himself, some times multiple times.
Current issue 4:
I had him potty trained, and it keeps getting undone- how I don't know other then the fact his Grandmother (maternal) wipes his butt, and does everything for him like he was an infant.
WE CANNOT say mother can not see him, it is part of the parenting plan until the divorce and custody has been solved. Any ideas?