At what age did you let your kids go to the park by themselves?

Michelle - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I live in a very small town and I was just wondering what age you let your kids go to the park to play by themselves.

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Chrystal - posted on 07/26/2011

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I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. I just started letting my 10 year old daughter and 6 year old son go to the park (3 blocks away) if they are together. They are only allowed to stay for half an hour at a time. I'm still a little nervous but I know she has lots of friends who stay at home by themselves during the summer and I'm the only mom I know who has waited this long to allow children out by themselves. I have to say, I still worry and sometimes will follow them (but don't let them know I'm there.) I love them too much to not watch out for them. I agree with some others who say it's a personal choice. Do what feels right.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/20/2011

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Recently I heard some comments made by professionals that say kids should never, no matter the age, go alone pretty much anywhere! Always have a buddy. The most dangereous places are the nice quiet neighborhoods, that is where we let our guard down and perpertrators make their move. Please make sure your kids are safe, no matter the age. I have raised 7 kids, two still at home at ages 6 and 15, neither goes anyplace alone.

Teresa - posted on 07/11/2011

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I guess I watch too much tv. Kids have been abducted from their FRONT YARD! live in the country so it's not aquestion for me, I have to drive to a park. But we have alot here for our 7 year old to do. STill I don't let him play in the yard without one of us being there with him. Plus he likes us to hang out.

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Valerie - posted on 05/24/2013

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Wow, it sounds like you all are a bunch of worry warts afraid to let your children become independant and venture off into the world. Kids need to learn responsibility. My kids are 10 & 7 and this is the first year I let them walk to School without me. They have to cross 1 busy street (with a button light) but then it's a straight 2 blocks to the School. I walked them to the street corner to cross them the first week. After that, they have been leaving the apt themselves. Today they were hanging out with their 2 friends (Sisters) that are the same age as them (10 & 7) and the group of them (4) went to the big public park that's right behind our apt building. I told them what my Parents told me, (seeing how it's already almost 7) come back before it gets dark. I trust my kids, and I understand you can't trust other people, but you also can't instill fear into your Children either, or it will effect their whole life. Have some FAITH people!

Valerie - posted on 05/24/2013

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Wow, it sounds like you all are a bunch of worry warts afraid to let your children become independant and venture off into the world. Kids need to learn responsibility. My kids are 10 & 7 and this is the first year I let them walk to School without me. They have to cross 1 busy street (with a button light) but then it's a straight 2 blocks to the School. I walked them to the street corner to cross them the first week. After that, they have been leaving the apt themselves. Today they were hanging out with their 2 friends (Sisters) that are the same age as them (10 & 7) and the group of them (4) went to the big public park that's right behind our apt building. I told them what my Parents told me, (seeing how it's already almost 7) come back before it gets dark. I trust my kids, and I understand you can't trust other people, but you also can't instill fear into your Children either, or it will effect their whole life. Have some FAITH people!

Shannintipton - posted on 07/26/2011

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Not until he hits puberty and he is buff and can kick some butt. Seriously. :)

Katrina - posted on 07/20/2011

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I also live in a small town, but last year we had a series of attempted kidnappings. The kidnapper even tried to grab kids from the bus stop when there were parents there. I keep a very close eye on my 9y/o.

Lisa - posted on 07/19/2011

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I think it comes down to personal choice but I have two young children who are only 6 and 4 and we also have to drive to a park but I don't think I would let them go on their own with friends until they are around 13 and certainly not all by themselves they would always need to have company.

MaryEllen - posted on 07/12/2011

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my girls are 12 and 13 and I just started letting them go to the park with friends this year ..never by them selves only if there is at least one other person with them

Angela - posted on 07/11/2011

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it all depends on how far away the park is really i used to live across the road from the park (i could see from my livingroom window) and at first i took him across the road and watched him play from my window (he was 9) sometimes you have to let ur kids have some independance its good for them but since we live in a very cruel world it can be difficult

Laurie - posted on 07/11/2011

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I have been wondering the same thing. My 10 (almost 11) year old has been asking to do things on his own. We are also in a very small town where everyone knows everybody else but again, those passing through worry me. I bought a cell phone for my son and we have been discussing stranger danger alot lately but I still can't let him go. I am still so worried. I was thinking about waiting until he is actually in 6th grade next year.

Bev - posted on 07/07/2011

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I live in a small town of approx 3500, we have a park only a block away and another about 4 blocks away. My girls 12, 9 & 4 are allowed to go to the park closest to home whenever they want. The other is only with permission and only if the oldest is going as well. The older 2 girls have been going to the park closest to the house by themselves since the oldest was 10 and the younger one was 7.

Sylvia - posted on 07/06/2011

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I haven't let DD (who is almost 9) go to the park on her own yet, but if I can talk DH into it, this will be the summer she gets to do that. There are 3 playgrounds within a 20-minute walk of our building. Unfortunately the two closest ones aren't very busy, and it's not that much fun going to the park if you're the only kid there. Playground #3 is the farthest away -- 20 minutes on foot, about 5 on the bus. What I need to do is get DD a watch with an alarm on it so she knows when to come home and I don't have to go retrieve her LOL.

Jakki - posted on 07/05/2011

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I let my kids go to the school park near our house together (they're 6, 8 and 10) but the school park has a great big fence around it and code on the gate that only the neighbourhood families know! Ok this is obviously an unusual situation but it's nice to give them some freedom with very little danger. NB the school is in a quiet residential neighbourhood.

Tamara - posted on 07/05/2011

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Me personally didn't let mine go to the park alone until they were 15ish. We also live in a small town but I don't know who is passing through or what not So i am not comfortable with them there with out someone I know and trust right there with them.

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