At what age do you think it is okay for a child to walk to school by themselves?

Jenn - posted on 11/13/2011 ( 54 moms have responded )

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Apologise ahead for longish post:) I have a five year old son (He just turned five yesterday and is in kindergarten) whom I walk to and from school daily. Along the way i have noticed a few other kindergartners walking to school alone or in groups of two or three. Although i am confident my son could get there by himself as far as finding his way, the thing that worries me is he would have to cross a crosswalk (without a guard, just the button you push and shows the walk/don't walk sign) on a very busy road. It is only down my street, across the crosswalk and then straight up another street to the school, but the street the kids walk up is the really busy one. Yes there are sidewalks but kids tend to horse around and stuff so it makes me nervous. I noticed there is a group of three that the mom walks across the crosswalk and then allows them to walk the rest of the way themselves straight up that one street, and they all hold on to each others backpacks like a chain. I thought it was actually a pretty good way to get them started walking alone but wasnt sure if i felt they were too young as obviously i don't know the type of children they are. I am not sure how i feel about it as i do see them dawdle and horse around sometimes and makes me a little anxious. However i have no issue with her for doing this as i don't know her situation, and I do want my son to be able to walk to school himself in the next couple years. Back in the day kids walked to school all the time from kindergarten up and it wasnt an issue, but now days with all the stranger danger and such people tend to trip out when young kids walk alone. I am not concerned with stranger danger or my son getting lost, it is the traffic that is my main concern. Anyways, my question is at what age would you/will you begin allowing your child to walk to school alone (or with friends)? I pride myself on being a pretty relaxed and "free-range" parent and i have a lot of confidence and trust in my sons abilities, he rides dirtbikes, skateboards, goes hunting with daddy with his own pellet gun, plays outside without me, etc but this is one thing i am not quite ready for yet. So what age do you think is ok? Why or why not? What age did your children start walking alone at?

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Sylvia - posted on 11/14/2011

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@Bonnie, if your 5-year-old can walk 3km in 15 minutes I'm really impressed! DD's school is about 2km from our front door, and it takes us at least 20 minutes to walk, when we walk (we usually walk down the block and then get on a bus, so it's about a 10-minute trip in total).

Sylvia - posted on 11/14/2011

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It depends on (a) the child, (b) the route to school, and (c) other circumstances. Some kids are more mature and responsible than others. Different families live closer to or farther from the schools where their kids go. And not everyone has the luxury of being able to make the choice based only on (a) and (b).

For instance, if DH and I didn't both work full-time, DD (who is 9) would have been walking before now. But we do work, and she's gone to before/after care since SK, and the child care centre's policy is that kids must be not just picked up but also dropped off by a parent or other authorized adult (I don't really get this: I understand why they need to be careful about who picks kids up, because of nefarious non-custodial parents and whatnot, but what exactly is the danger of a nefarious person dropping the kid off? o_O) ... which means she can't walk to school until she can reliably *not* sleep through her alarm in the morning :P So for now, I'm taking her to school -- on foot or on the bus; I'm not one of those drive-the-kid-

Bonnie - posted on 11/14/2011

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I also have a child in kindergarten. I drive him to and from school. We don't live that close to the school. It is about a 15 minute walk (probably 3 km). I have also seen really young children walking to school without an adult and it gets me wondering. It doesn't sound right to me. I don't think I will feel comfortable until my children are 10 at least. Maybe i'm being a little too overprotective I don't know, but I would rather be safe than sorry. If you can see the school from your home than I think it would be okay to have them walk alone as you can actually see them get there safely.

Kim - posted on 11/13/2011

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Hi Jenn- I am also the mom to a Kindergartener (she's an only child thus far), and I also question when it is okay for her to do certain things without me. Your question is a good one, and you will probably get many different answers. First, I have to say that the community/neighborhood he has to walk through to get to school plays a major factor in walking to school without an adult- I'm sure you have already considered this. Also busy streets and street crossings are a big deal- as you have mentioned. But honestly, in the world we live in today, I would not feel at all comfortable having my Kindergartener walk to school by herself or even with other children. I think kiddos at this age still have a real need for an adult to be nearby. Granted, they can typically play outside in the immediate neighborhood with other kids without too much worry (don't have to hover around watching their every move in that situation), but walking to school is a whole other animal. There are too many bad people out there, looking for trouble, too many kidnapping cases on the news. It's hard to find the right balance in allowing your child to learn responsibility and allowing him to have some freedom and being just downright overprotective. However, in this situation, I say it's much better to err on the side of being protective, given the possible bad consequences. Just my two cents...