Erin - posted on 05/23/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )
My 5yr old, almost 6yr old, was completely potty trained with a few rare exceptions where he'd get caught up playing or something or just not make it in time.
Lately, he is pooping his pants almost every day sometimes more than once a day.
I don't understand whats going on. Its been the last few months. I've tried being patient and not making a big deal out of it, I've tried talking, tried lecturing, tried yelling. I dont know what to do and he's my only experience with children so I dont know if this is normal.
Last year almost a year ago we moved to our new place were we currently are and he regressed in potty training for awhile and had tantrums again but things got better. Then I stopped having him wear pullups at night which only caused a few incidents of bed wetting and then has been fine.
Over the summer at his new daycare he did have a few incidents of both kinds of accidents. At the beginning of the kindergarten school year he started having accidents, often peeing because he'd wait too long, but occasionally pooping.
Seems like in the late fall/winter things were uneventful as far as accidents as far as I remember.
My grandfather died in April almost a month ago. Im not really sure how this effected Ethan. He only saw his greatgrandfather a handful of times. He did go to the funeral with us, Im not sure he understood what was going on. A few days after this I went on a long planned weeks vacation and the break in routine caused some problems at school, mostly behavioral stuff to be expected I suppose with an abrupt change in routine.
The last few weeks its happening more and more that he poops his pants. Whats the most frustrating is when it happens he'll just stay like that. I'll pick him up from school and smell it on him. It even happens at home so I know that it isnt just a convenience to the bathroom issue, or having to ask to go to the bathroom.
When asked about it he often says he didnt know it came out or that he did hold it back (even though its already in his underwear).
Could there be something medically wrong with him?
Ive thought about putting him back in pullups but I think it may encourage him to poop in his pants as poopy pants was never much of a deterrent when he was younger.
Any feedback is appreciated.
Update August 26th, 2012
An update, I'd forgotten all about this site! My son is now 8yrs old and unless he has diarrhea and doesn't make it he's doing 100% better. Wiping is still a challenge at times but nothing like it was. If I remember correctly 1st grade he had maybe a handful of accidents at school and a few at home, mainly when distracted. He actually got held back and last year for being socially immature mainly and there were 2 so it has definitely improved. Basically I think constipation and being busy were the main culprits. However at home he is 1000% happier it's been a year now since my now husband Andy came into our lives and my son now has a father and he's soooo happy.
Someone replied asking if he had anything traumatic happen around 18 months and actually yes he did. His biological father (whom had only started visitation at 6mos) stopped visitation, his visitation wasn't all that frequent that I think it would affect him. But I had to rehome my beloved dog so that I could afford to move out on my own as a single mom AND not long after that I moved out on my own as a single mom and he was extremely attached to my mother, his grandmother as she had always watched him when I worked or went to school and instead I enrolled him in daycare so there were some pretty big life changes then.
I want to thank everyone who took the time to respond to this post!