Tina - posted on 12/27/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )
Situation is, I woke up to a cold house. I was supposed to leave for work by noon and the sitter was being dropped off by her mom, so I called to let the 16 yr old sitter know to dress warm and explained to the mom what was happening. I told them the repairman would be there as soon as he got off another call and I did not know quite when that would be. We hung up and few minutes later she called back and said she was uncomfortable with her daughter being there with a repairman when I would be going to work. She wouldn't let me explain that the same guy has been here twice and was coming to install the part, she did not care about the circumstances at all, she was telling me that she thinks there is a law that says they have to be 18yrs and she called a friend and since the friend validated her concern,she told me that I could take my 7 yr old kid there or she would pick him up. ( I also have a 4 yr old daughter who was at pre-k at the time) It caught me off guard because it never occurred to me that would be an inappropriate situation. I would never put my kid or hers in what I felt would be a dangerous situation. I do not agree that this is a bad, dangerous, inappropriate or otherwise wrong situation. I do respect the right of this mother to make that decision for her underage child of 16 and I dropped him off on my way to work.
However, this is life, we have to deal with strangers every day, in this culture have we become so afraid of each other, that we cannot call a repairman in a clearly marked vehicle, with a name tag, to our home without fear for our children? So what if our kids are home alone and they call a policeman and he shows up by himself, do they not answer the door? What if they are out playing in the yard and the meter reader guy or the mailman pulls in the driveway, are they supposed to run inside or hide? Do you let your kid go back at the Dr/Dentist office alone? Are these scenarios different? How so? After all, he is not some guy that just showed up at random, I called him. I would not have if it was not necessary, such as the dishwasher repair guy...but it is winter out there! Am I the only one who feels like this?