Casey - posted on 05/27/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
My brother lives here with us and he has 3 beautiful little girls that come to visit every other weekend. I love these girls, and let me tell you, when alone in my care, they are well behaved, good with their manors, and need very little discipline.
Unfortunately, I work over the weekends, and quite often, while the other half is busy doing work around the house, our daughter is in the care of my brother, as well as his daughters during this time (this is only during visits from my nieces).
The girls, and my daughter, with their dad are abusive to him, and each other, destroy everything in the house, back talk, eat everything they can get their hands on, break things, spill things. It's just absolutely ridiculous behavior for girls aged 9 (one niece and my daughter), 7 and 5. My brother will deal with this to the extent of telling them to knock it off, and all of them ignore him, then, he just lets it go because he "doesn't want to hear them whine anymore". He doesn't tell him no to anything, ice cream before dinner, then lets them just skip dinner and wonders why they aren't hungry.
Anyway, we don't allow for this type of behavior from our daughter. She is continually grounded all weekend when they are here, because they all act like this, while the girls are all just acting a fool, and not reprimanded. I've tried to explain to my brother that he needs to honestly deal with this situation, and let his girls know that this is unacceptable, but he just doesn't want to hear them upset and crying. Believe me, it's unbearable when they don't get their way with him. This results with him telling me that my daughter is, basically, an evil b-word, and his children are angels, which, turns into a terrible verbal fight. What can I do to get through to him, or should I go to the courts and recommend that his children not to be allowed with him anymore?