Bedtime for a 9 year old

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 114 moms have responded )

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I would like to know the average bed time moms are putting their 9 year old's to bed. I have a 5 and 9 year old who share a room so I put them both to bed around 8:30. I would like to give my 9 year old (10 in July) a later bed time but what would the best bedtime be for a 9 year old?

Thanks for your help :)

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Caroline - posted on 07/21/2012

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my 8 & 10 year old both go to bed at 9.30 on weekdays and much later on weekends.

Carry_on_net - posted on 06/07/2012

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When I was at school I went to a boarding school, and the day pupils were 'advised' to follow the same bedtime routine, we were woken at 7.30am

Ages 7-8, 6.45pm with lights out at 7.15pm
Ages 8-9, 7.15pm with lights out at 7.30pm
Ages 9-10, 7.30pm with lights out at 7.45pm
Ages 10-11, 7.45pm with lights out at 8.00pm
Ages 11-12, 8.00pm with lights out at 8.15pm
Ages 12-13, 8.15pm with lights out at 8.30pm

15 minutes later for everything on Friday and Saturday
15 minutes earlier for everything on Sunday (with the exception of 7-8 yr olds, bedtime same as weekdays)

Denise - posted on 07/28/2012

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Wow, it seems so many kids stay up so late! Mine are 9 and 6 and go to bed at 7:30 (during school). The 9 yr-old can read for a half hour.
I think it's important for two reasons, they need lots of sleep at this age and I need my day to end!

Melissa - posted on 07/21/2012

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Kids that age need about 10 hours of sleep. So count back from the time he needs to be up to figure out what time he should be in bed..

Katherine - posted on 06/26/2012

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I set up 9:00 for my boy when he was 9. But in the weekend I always left him longer for play.

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Claudia - posted on 04/25/2014

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My daughter has 30 minutes to get ready for bed/watch t.v. She has to be in bed by 9:30. This is the best time. Me and my daughter think it is the best time for bedtime.

Angie - posted on 11/19/2013

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My kids are 6 and 2 years old. my nine year old is in bed by 9:00 and the 2 year old at 8:00 weekends are 10: for both

Hermione - posted on 06/02/2013

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I'm a mother of 7, my just turned ten year old daughter goes to bed at 9PM on weekdays and 9:15PM on weekends. :)

James - posted on 08/14/2012

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Not a mom but was searching for answers. Just moved in with my fiance and her son is up until early morning hours watching tv or video games. I'm talking 2-5 am! Need advice. Please help! She only gets upset when I bring up the subject of an earlier bedtime.

Amy - posted on 07/21/2012

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We have a bedtime of 8:30 for our 9 year old, with occasional exceptions (weekends primarily).

Valerie - posted on 07/17/2012

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I have an eleven year old in bed my 9 PM and on weekends I let her be awake until midnight as long as she sleeps in.

Alberta - posted on 07/14/2012

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My 9yo went to bed at 8pm! so I am no help! My 5 yo goes to bed at 6:30 most nights but I will let her stay up to 7pm sometimes but only in the summer. My oldest is now 11yo and her bed time is still 9pm. She needs her sleep and is sooooo grumpy if she doesn't get enough sleep.

Veronica - posted on 07/03/2012

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When I was a kid, my mom gave me a book and a lamp and told me to get in bed and read. She really moniter when I should exactly go to bed, I do the same with my kids today both 11 and 6

Lisa - posted on 07/03/2012

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I try to get my 9 yr old in bed (during school) by 8pm but it's usually closer to 8:30pm. I get him up for school around 6:30am and he's very slow moving. I figure if he is asleep by 9 then he will get around 10 hrs of sleep.

Kristie - posted on 07/03/2012

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Summer time I usually let them stay up late. Normally during week 10(if they haven't really ticked me off), maybe 11 on weekends. Son will just wander off to his room when he gets tired. The girls will fall asleep in living room sometimes. On occasion they are up till 12 or later. Even during school year on weekends they are allowed to stay up late. Son will get up early no matter what

Kristie - posted on 07/03/2012

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All three of mine(9,7 and soon to be 5) go to bed at 8:30, it has always been that way. The girls share a room so occasionally I would keep Susie up for about 1/2 hr longer since she's a kindergartener now, no more staying up late.

Chaya - posted on 07/02/2012

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It depends on when he wakes up, or you want him to. As long as he gets 8 hours of sleep, and he does well with it, whatever works for him.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/30/2012

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Our son who is 9 is in bed for 9o'clock! That is after having quiet time
And a snack!

Tracie - posted on 06/25/2012

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Our 7 year old goes to bed at 8:30 and 9:00pm worked for us when my daughter was 9. She's about to turn 11 and we're moving it to 9:30.

Jill - posted on 06/24/2012

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My 10 and 11 year olds have a 9pm bedtime during the school year. They wake up at 7:30am.

Granny - posted on 06/24/2012

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When my now nearing 11 year old (July 7) turned 9 years old his bed time became 9PM...it was the same for my other children when they were his age...If your guy is not still sleepy in the morning upon waking ( at his routine time) then he is ready for the change....(you may want to give his lil' body a good week to adjust...LOL

Kim - posted on 06/23/2012

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When its school time they all go to bed at 8pm. That is my 12, 9 and 5 yo. My 12 year old does his required reading when he goes to bed, my 9 yo does that earlier with me, but she does read a bit and is usually ready for bed around 8:30. Now summertime, bedtime is 9pm for all. My oldest does still reads and sometimes I have to take his book when I head to bed.

Lori - posted on 06/22/2012

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My 8 year old daughter goes to bed at 9pm on school nights and between 9-10pm on the weekends....and my 13 year old goes to bed at 10pm on school nights but we let him stay up till 11pm or a bit longer on weekends especially if he wants to watch a movie or whatever. They are both early risers regardless the time.

User - posted on 06/21/2012

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well my 13yr old goes to bed between 9.00 and 9.30 depending on how tried she is that day xx

DENISE - posted on 06/18/2012

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WELL ASHLEY IVE A NINE YEAR OLD BOY 2 SO I PUT HIM 2 HIS BED BETWEEN 9-11 I DUNNO IF THATS A BIT 2 LATE BUT ITS MORE 10 HE GOES 2 BED HOPE THIS ADVICE HELPED

Rebecca - posted on 06/18/2012

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Hi there i have the same problem with the lighter nights. mostly with my 9 yr old son. its harder getting him 2 whine down. when the dark nights are here, i dont seem 2 have a problem. the clocks going forward and back really mess them up dont u think.

Amy - posted on 06/08/2012

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My children are 10 and 8. They go between 830-9pm. I would put my 8 year old to bed at 8pm but she plays up as she insists on going to bed the same time as my 10 year old. Personally I think you should go on your child as when they feel tired. Any later then 9pm I think is far to late and before 730pm is to early.

Melissa - posted on 05/24/2012

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1. I have my kid have two different bedtimes. On TRS he goes to bed at 8:00 but may read until 8:30. On MWF he goes to bed at 8:30. My kids have an early bus so we get up at 7 during the week and usually 6 am on Weekends.

2. You can always alter the bedtime based on sleep and mood. When they have been grouchy I will send him to bed earlier because I tell him he must be tired to be so grouchy.

3. You can change the bedtime based on special events where they need more sleep.

4. You can also have a special night where they get to stay up longer, say 9 ish to watch a movie with you or something.

Jurnee - posted on 05/21/2012

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I put my 9 yr old to bed at 830, he can watch tv or read till 9, then its lights out. Hes usually asleep before that though, it just makes him feel like he has a later bedtime! it seems to work,hes up by 7 for school. Weekends Im a bit more lax and dependong on what were doing its anywhere from 9-11.

User - posted on 05/21/2012

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My daughter goes to bed at 8:30 but she doesn't usually fall right asleep. I always had a hard time falling asleep as a kid, so I understand and I let her read or color in her room but she's usually asleep before 10. In the summer I let the kids (will be 9 and 5 this summer) stay up till 9 or so and they get to sleep in. My daughter's ADHD social worker said sleeping by 10 p.m. (if getting up at 7 a.m. for school) is plenty of sleep. I hope this helps.

Michella - posted on 05/20/2012

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My son is almost 9. We have him in bed by 9, no later than 930. In the summertime I let him stay up as long as he wants, but he usually conks out by 10 so it's not an issue :)

Ange - posted on 01/03/2012

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We do 8:30pm for our 7 year old daughter from Sunday night to Thursday night for school nights and non school nights she is up until 10pm when we all go to bed.... and sometimes things happen when she will have to stay up later on a school night and she is tired the next day but she still manages and those are the days I am super glad she is gone to school cause she is crabby lol

Melissa - posted on 01/03/2012

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I have an 8yr old who i put to bed between 730 & 8 pm. Normally she is asleep by 830pm. My daughter needs to be up at 6am ( morning care, as i work), so this bedtime suits our family. She need to sleep, so no 9pm bedtime for her, at the moment......

Sue - posted on 11/27/2011

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I have 9yr old twins - and even though they complain they still go to bed by 8:00. Once they get over the fact that I am not going to give in they go to sleep peacefully.

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2011

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i would say on a school night be in bed lights out at 9:00 and weekends 9:30

Amanda - posted on 09/13/2011

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My 9 year old goes to bed at 7pm and reads for half an hour but at weekend it is around 8.30 sometimes 9 before she goes to bed.

Kristin - posted on 07/25/2010

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I have three children, bedtime for my 9 year old is 7 pm. On saturdays she may stay up until 8 pm.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2010

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I let my 9 (almost 10) yr old stay up until 9. I moved it from 8:30 to 9 a few months ago when he asked. I let him know that it was a privilege and he had to show me he could handle having a later bed time. He manages to wake up at 6:45 and get everything done in the morning so the bed time has worked.

Tisha - posted on 06/10/2010

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My daughter will be 9 in July. During the school year we make her bedtime 9-9:30. It seems like an ok time for her. She seems rested in the morning and not too tired/crabby.

Crissi Lynn - posted on 05/21/2010

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my older two kids are nine and ten... they lay down for bed at around 845 and are allowed to read in their beds until 915. this lets them stay up lil later than their younger sister and also the reading makes them very sleepy :)

Kat - posted on 05/20/2010

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A good bedtime for a 9 year old is 9:00 p.m. if they are exspected to be awake at 6:30 a.m. for school; They need 8 to 10 hours of continous sleep for optimal rejuvenation while they rest.

Rhonda - posted on 05/20/2010

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Honestly when we get everything done....I prefer them to go to bed at 8:30, but that is in perfect worl. We don't get home until 6:30...It depends on the child. My oldest can stay up and wake up ready to go. MY youngest that is a diffrent story. I could put her in bed at 5:30 and still have a hard time getting her up. I would just try extending the bed time for a couple of days to see how each on adjust. Mine share a room and are the same age as yours.

Tabitha - posted on 05/15/2010

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as a mom and a teacher. I prefer the 8:30 to 9:00 bed time for all school age children up to high school age.The more sleep they get the happier healthier they are. they also learn better on more sleep. what I do with my children is who are 7 and 4 is 8: 30 Monday thru Friday and then on Sat they get to stay up till 10. good luck with what ever you decide should be the bedtime for your 9 year old.

Kelly - posted on 05/15/2010

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9PM on school nights. On the weekends she doesn't have a bedtime but she's ususlly in bed by 10PM on Fridays and Saturdays.

Stephanie - posted on 05/12/2010

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What time do your children need to get up in the morning? Mine have to be up by 6:30 to catch a 7:10 bus everyday. The best bedtime is one that will allow your child plenty of sleep to feel rested and to perform well in school. We have an 8:00-8:30 bedtime in our house. It seems to work well.

Bettina - posted on 05/12/2010

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Hi I have a 7 yr old and a 10 yr old sharing a room and they both go to bed at 7.30. My 13 and 15 yr olds go to bed at 10.30. They need to have sufficent rest for school, on a weekend the younger ones usually stay up to about 8.30 definitely no later! I have never had a problem with this

Sally - posted on 05/10/2010

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very interesting cos i have a 10yr old(just) and a 5 yr old in 3 weeks and they go to bed at 7pm and 7.30pm ......and some nights they are in bed at the same time! I must be a lucky mum!!!! but i have to get the kids up and out of the house some mornings by 6.30 am so it can be a very tiring day for them. we let the 10yr old stay up for half an hr longer or go to bed and she reads......

Rebecca - posted on 05/09/2010

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I have two children son 15 daughter 13. When they started school heck even before school they were in bed at 8pm. Bryan is now a freshmen in high school and has a 10 pm bed time.Dani is in 7th and bed time is 9pm. Bed times changed when they went to middle and high school. Otherwise 8pm.

Kristin - posted on 07/25/2010

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I have three children, bedtime for my 9 year old is 7 pm. On saturdays she may stay up until 8 pm.

Kat - posted on 05/20/2010

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A good bedtime for a 9 year old is 9:00 p.m. if they are exspected to be awake at 6:30 a.m. for school; They need 8 to 10 hours of continous sleep for optimal rejuvenation while they rest.

Tabitha - posted on 05/15/2010

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as a mom and a teacher. I prefer the 8:30 to 9:00 bed time for all school age children up to high school age.The more sleep they get the happier healthier they are. they also learn better on more sleep. what I do with my children is who are 7 and 4 is 8: 30 Monday thru Friday and then on Sat they get to stay up till 10. good luck with what ever you decide should be the bedtime for your 9 year old.

Danielle - posted on 05/09/2010

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making sure she is still getting about 10 hrs of sleep at night...so if she has to get up at around 730 for school. ..u could maybe let her stay up til 930 but maybe back off gradually and say 9 to start with as bedtime for your 9 year old.

Izzel - posted on 05/06/2010

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Bedtime for my 9 year old is 8:30 during the week & doesn't have a bed time on the weekend.

Lidia - posted on 05/06/2010

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Hi Ashley , I have 2 boys who also share a room and they've had the same bed time (8:30) until this past Feb when the oldest turn 13 and was officially a teenager, he now goes to bed at 9:30 ,and there really is no best time , it has to be according to your son and how many hours a sleep he needs , some kids need more that others or they'll be cranky all day, so try different times and see what works best for your son and good luck picking a bedtime for your 9 year old.

Jasmine - posted on 05/05/2010

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Bedtime for my 9 year old is 8pm. Maybe you could let your 9 year old go to bed a half hour later. Not sure if this helps.

Patricia - posted on 05/04/2010

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I have a 7 and 9 soon to be 10 year old who share a room right now both go to bed at 8pm but they start school earlier than most at 7:45 am. I will probably start letting the older go to bed later after he turns 10. But not too late as he is tired in the am and I have to wake him. I think 9 pm is a late enough bedtime for a 9 year old but will probably start with 8:30pm.

Julia - posted on 05/03/2010

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To get the best out of school, a schoolchild (including teenagers) usually needs to sleep about 10 hours every night. When deciding on a bedtime for a 9 year old, bear in mind what time your child has to get up and how long it takes him to get ready for school.

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2010

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My 9 year old daughters bedtime is 10 and she is up at 7 for school and she is fine, but every kid is different. Although, I think 8:30 is too early a bedtime for a 9 year old, my 2 year old goes to bed at that time. Good luck

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