Bedtime for a 9 year old

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 114 moms have responded )

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I would like to know the average bed time moms are putting their 9 year old's to bed. I have a 5 and 9 year old who share a room so I put them both to bed around 8:30. I would like to give my 9 year old (10 in July) a later bed time but what would the best bedtime be for a 9 year old?

Thanks for your help :)

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Kelly - posted on 05/15/2010

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9PM on school nights. On the weekends she doesn't have a bedtime but she's ususlly in bed by 10PM on Fridays and Saturdays.

Stephanie - posted on 05/12/2010

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What time do your children need to get up in the morning? Mine have to be up by 6:30 to catch a 7:10 bus everyday. The best bedtime is one that will allow your child plenty of sleep to feel rested and to perform well in school. We have an 8:00-8:30 bedtime in our house. It seems to work well.

Bettina - posted on 05/12/2010

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Hi I have a 7 yr old and a 10 yr old sharing a room and they both go to bed at 7.30. My 13 and 15 yr olds go to bed at 10.30. They need to have sufficent rest for school, on a weekend the younger ones usually stay up to about 8.30 definitely no later! I have never had a problem with this

Sally - posted on 05/10/2010

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very interesting cos i have a 10yr old(just) and a 5 yr old in 3 weeks and they go to bed at 7pm and 7.30pm ......and some nights they are in bed at the same time! I must be a lucky mum!!!! but i have to get the kids up and out of the house some mornings by 6.30 am so it can be a very tiring day for them. we let the 10yr old stay up for half an hr longer or go to bed and she reads......

Rebecca - posted on 05/09/2010

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I have two children son 15 daughter 13. When they started school heck even before school they were in bed at 8pm. Bryan is now a freshmen in high school and has a 10 pm bed time.Dani is in 7th and bed time is 9pm. Bed times changed when they went to middle and high school. Otherwise 8pm.

Danielle - posted on 05/09/2010

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making sure she is still getting about 10 hrs of sleep at night...so if she has to get up at around 730 for school. ..u could maybe let her stay up til 930 but maybe back off gradually and say 9 to start with as bedtime for your 9 year old.

Julie - posted on 05/08/2010

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My seven year old goes to bed at 8:00pm everynight but she also gets up at 6:30 in the morning for school. I feel if she gets less sleep than that she is a bear in the morning.

Leanne - posted on 05/08/2010

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I have 3 children, 10, 8 and nearly 4. I start the bedtime routine at 7.30. Everyone has to finish up whatever they are doing and clean their teeth. The 8 and 10 year olds can read on their own while I read to the 4 year old. As my children have to be up by 6.30 at the latest, it's lights out by 8pm for the 4 and 8 year old and lights out by 8.30 for the 10 year old.
I have tried the staggered time arrangment but one didn't want to go to bed without the others so we all go upstairs at the same time and I allow the older ones to read until they need to go to sleep.
Children will put off going to bed even if they are really tired. By doing it this way, they can read if they are not tired or fall asleep when they need to.

April - posted on 05/07/2010

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i put my now 10yr old zack to bed at 8:30 as well as my younger boys that share a room. I use to put zack to bed close to 9;00 but he wouldn't go to sleep right away he would be still awake at 9:50 so he was whiny and grumpy the next day so he was hard to handle sometimes so i changed his bedtime it worked. For ur boy i would keep his time still at 8:30 and maybe put ur 5 yr old down at 8:15 or start getting him ready for bed at 8:00 and go from there. Does he fall asleep right away ur 5 yr old? if he does then that time should work or whatever u think would work to.

Gill - posted on 05/07/2010

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We have a 14 year old who goes about 10 most nights unless she is tired, an 11 year old and a 9 year old who go to bed between 8 and 8.30 weeknights and later at weekends. We have found it easier to get them up and ready for school if we stick to these times. Plus my Oldest and youngest share a room.

Rosemary - posted on 05/07/2010

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about 10 to midnight on the 5 to 9 yr old. because the average number of sleep vs if the child is gonna be waking up or staying up past bedtime.
do you remember what its like being a kid? i do very much so. and due to that, i put my child into those shoes. so i allow my kid to go to bed by midnight sometimes 1 or 2am. if the child can function in school correctly then how is it hindering their education? sleep and what they eat for breakfast has a hand in their upbringing and education. then again if ya ask a question like what time should i send my kids to bed, then ya also need to think of what are they eating for breakfast, how long does it take for them to actually wake up, do they shower the night before or as soon as they wake up? all of these questions ya need to take into consideration. knowing my child, that is why she can go to bed at midnight and still get up at 6am, get ready for school and get good grades and not be called home for whatever reason.

Maia - posted on 05/06/2010

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My 10 and 6 year old get ready for bed at 8 for a in bed time of 8:15. They talk a little bit for 10-15 min and are quiet by 8:30(on a good day). We are planning on introducing a later bed time this summer for the oldest to see if the younger one can get used to it.

Izzel - posted on 05/06/2010

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Bedtime for my 9 year old is 8:30 during the week & doesn't have a bed time on the weekend.

Tisha - posted on 05/06/2010

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I have an 8 year old in 3rd grade. I put her to bed @ 9:00, but find that she is actually awake until 9:30 or so most nights. It has been harder since it stays lighter longer now.

Alexandra - posted on 05/06/2010

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Hello,
I have two children, one of four and a boy of six years old. When it is school, they going to bed at 19:30, but it is almost 20:00 before they sleep. In the weekends they may going to bed later. But in the week they have to wake up at 6:30 and they need their sleep. So i think it depends how much sleep de your children need, are they still tired if they wake up ?
greetings

Jana - posted on 05/06/2010

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My son is 10. I don't know when we started his bedtime, but he goes to bed at 9 on school nights and Sats. He gets one late night a week which usually doesn't go too far past 9 since he's used to being in bed by that time. He has no problems waking up in the mornings so I think 9 works for him. Try different times and if your child fights getting up in the a.m., then you'll know it's a not a good time.

Sonia - posted on 05/06/2010

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I remember going to bed at 9h00 when i was 12-13 years old, and hated it, thought i missed out on a lot. Then the next year my mom said i was old enough to decide when I needed to go to bed... Went to bed at 9h00 all the time, was too tired otherwise...guess parents know in the end ;)

Lidia - posted on 05/06/2010

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Hi Ashley , I have 2 boys who also share a room and they've had the same bed time (8:30) until this past Feb when the oldest turn 13 and was officially a teenager, he now goes to bed at 9:30 ,and there really is no best time , it has to be according to your son and how many hours a sleep he needs , some kids need more that others or they'll be cranky all day, so try different times and see what works best for your son and good luck picking a bedtime for your 9 year old.

Sonia - posted on 05/06/2010

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I have 7yr old daughter and she goes to bed around 7h30, i was 7h00 at the beginning of the year but we notice that she was staying awake in her bed anyway. On week-end she's normally in bed by 8h30, sometimes later if we go somewhere but pass 8h30 she starts to be sleepy and sometimes ask to go to bed. She needs at least 10 hours of sleep, she's up at 6h00 for school but sleeps in until 7h30 - 8h00 on week-end. Never pass 8h00, that's the time we allow the tv to turn on in the morning so she doesn't want to miss anything ;)

Joan - posted on 05/06/2010

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i have 8yr old boy and i let him sleep at before 8:30.. to give at least 8 to 9hrs of sleep a day

Melinda - posted on 05/05/2010

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i have a 5 year old and a 7 year old they go to bed between 830 and 9 on school nite and on weekends fri and sat between 10 and 11. the summer will be on weekend time except when they go to camp it will be school nite tmes. so a good bed time for a 9 year old is 9 or 930. or depends on how he gets up in the morning for school. if he gives you a hard time to get up then make it 9 if not then make it 930. good luck.

Tracey - posted on 05/05/2010

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I have 4 boys 8 6 4 and 4months. My boys are early rises no matter hat time they go to bed. On school nights they are all in bed bt 7.00 and they have 1/2 an hour to read in bed an unwind. Hubby n me will have a little talk with them an make sure all is ok, then lots of love n hugs to get them off to a good nite sleep.

Melinda - posted on 05/05/2010

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I have a daughter who is 8 1/2 and she goes to bed at 8:00 on school nights and 9:00 on Friday and Saturday. She occasionally stays up later on the weekends but not very often. She will come to me and ask if it's bedtime yet. She's a creature of habit.

Jasmine - posted on 05/05/2010

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Bedtime for my 9 year old is 8pm. Maybe you could let your 9 year old go to bed a half hour later. Not sure if this helps.

Sayida - posted on 05/05/2010

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Well, my 8yr old goes to bed @ 8:30..if I find that she is a little groggy the following morning, I'll move the bed time to 8pm..it all depends on your son..test out 9pm as a bed time..if he's slow in the morning routine, then push the time earlier....you have to adjust to how he responds, that's all...I hope this helps...Sayida

Tamara - posted on 05/05/2010

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I have 2 boys (8 and almost 5) who share a room and so far they go to bed at the same time - 8:30 p.m. (most nights)... They wake up at approx. 7:30 a.m. - weekends it's usually to bed around 10 p.m. and up around 8:30 a.m. - some say it is better to keep a steady schedule, but we are more relaxed on weekends so we aren't strict about bed time. I can totally tell when my kids aren't well rested as they are easily irritated and very emotional about even the slightest upsets... then I know they need a little catch up and they are in bed between 7:30 and 8 p.m. Hope this helps!

Sharon - posted on 05/05/2010

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hi, i have a 9 and 4 old boys and i put the youngest to bed at 6.30 and the eldest at 8.00 and he falls asleep about 8.30. but at the weekend they stay up later

Patricia - posted on 05/04/2010

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I have a 7 and 9 soon to be 10 year old who share a room right now both go to bed at 8pm but they start school earlier than most at 7:45 am. I will probably start letting the older go to bed later after he turns 10. But not too late as he is tired in the am and I have to wake him. I think 9 pm is a late enough bedtime for a 9 year old but will probably start with 8:30pm.

Amanda - posted on 05/04/2010

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i have a 4 7(almost 8) and a 9 year old they all have a 8pm bed time we did have them going to bed at 830 but by then they were so tired they were fighting going to sleep in our house @ 730 they have to start there rutine so by 8 there in bed but normally not asleep till about 830 our boys share a room and i know if one is in trouble and has to go to bed early they get really upset that the other is not in there so that is something to think about

Sharalyn - posted on 05/04/2010

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My 8.5 year old is in bed at 7:30, lights out at 8 after reading for 30 minutes, and is usually asleep by 8:30.

Julia - posted on 05/03/2010

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To get the best out of school, a schoolchild (including teenagers) usually needs to sleep about 10 hours every night. When deciding on a bedtime for a 9 year old, bear in mind what time your child has to get up and how long it takes him to get ready for school.

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2010

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My 9 year old daughters bedtime is 10 and she is up at 7 for school and she is fine, but every kid is different. Although, I think 8:30 is too early a bedtime for a 9 year old, my 2 year old goes to bed at that time. Good luck

Jaclyn - posted on 05/03/2010

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My advice is to make it later in 30 min increments. Try 9:00 and see how the kid does and take it from there.

I have a 10 yr old, 6 yr old, and 4 yr old and they all go to bed between 8 and 8:30. We have done trials for raising the bed time for the 10 yr old, but when we do we have problems in the morning, he won't get up and takes forever to get dressed etc. So until he can show he can handle the later bed time, it will stay at 8:30 on school nights for now. :)

Melissa - posted on 05/03/2010

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My 9yr goes to bed at 830 on school nights and 9 on weekends. He shares his room with his 2.5yr brother, and Ive never had difficulties with different bed times. Hope this helps!

Larrissasharma - posted on 05/03/2010

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My kids are 9 and 6. Bedtime is 8:30.. Though she actually falls asleep closer to 9:00pm. Fridays and Saturdays they have no fixed bedtime.

Michelle - posted on 05/03/2010

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I have a 6 yr. old, 7 yr. old and 9 yr. old. The 6 and 7 yr.olds go to bed at 9 pm and the 9 yr. old goes to bed at 9:30. Of course, they do not have to be up until 7:30 to get ready for school. On weekends I am a little more easy and let them stay up until 9:30 and 10 pm.

I hope this is helpful.

SheryL - posted on 05/02/2010

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my boys r 7 and 9...going to b 10 this month. They both go to bed ar 830. I have changed that from last years 9pm bedtime due to them having a hard time getting up at 7am. I actually just spoke to the doctor about this because I let them stay up till 10 on the weekends, holidays and summer time. She told me that their bedtime should stay the same on those occasions as it pulls them out of a routine when changing bedtime for these things. The boys do better in the morning when they go to sleep at 830, I always have a problem otherwise. The later time I am still experimenting with because I do like to let them stay up later especially when they have been good all week.

Janet - posted on 05/02/2010

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8:30 is a good bedtime. I have an 8 and 9 (almost 10) year old, and they push it to 9:30 most nights. It works, but 8:30 would be much better. I would say 9:00 at the latest for this age.

Cecilia - posted on 05/01/2010

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I try my hardest to get my 9 year old to bed no later than 9:30pm especially during days that he has soccer practice. But then again, I only have 1 child.

Michelle - posted on 04/30/2010

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My son is 9 and goes to bed at 9 most nights of the week unless we have dance late and then he goes to bed at 10, we are up by 6:30 every morning and he is coping with it just fine

Seanna - posted on 04/30/2010

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Just my own personal opinion but i would keep the 9 p.m. during the week, and 10 on fridays and saturdays. During the school week children as much as rest as possible and the weekends is where i would ease up.

Sherri - posted on 04/30/2010

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I have a 13, 11 and 3 yr old. My 3 yr olds bedtime is 8pm. However, I still make my 13 and 11 yr old go to bed at 8:30pm during the school week and on the weekends I allow them to stay up till 10pm.

Stephanie - posted on 04/30/2010

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hi there, my daughter will be 10 in november. right now her bedtime is 8 but there are times when she gets in bed between 8 and 9. she's also very active so it may take her time to 'settle' for the night. i give her the 8 bedtime to allow for more settling time so by 8.30 or 9 i know she's fast asleep. perhaps like adults, children differ in how much sleep each one needs but i think 10-12 is recommended up to a certain age but i forget the cutoff age. my suggestion would be to not go later than 9 right now, and to possibly even try out 9 or 9.30 bedtimes to see which one works better. you can always have the weekend incentive of staying up later. i allow my daughter to stay up for awhile on the weekend, she loves it and most times gets in bed when she's ready, which is sometimes by 9.30! hope this helps

Roseann - posted on 04/30/2010

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i have a 8 year old son and a 5 year old daughter they both go to bed at 8:30 but by the time they fall asleep its 9:00p.m on no school days i let them go to bed at 9:00p.m i think that is a good bedtime for a 8 year old he never wakes up tired not even my daughter i dont think i will be extending it any later than 9:00p.m. good luck on finding a good bed time..

Shannon - posted on 04/30/2010

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If your oldest has no trouble getting up and ready for school on his own then give him till 9pm. Hopefully the 5 yr old won't complain and you can explain that once he's older with " responsibilities" he can stay up later too. Good luck.

Dawn - posted on 04/30/2010

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Mine still goes to bed at 8:30 except for weekends, when we let her stay up a little later.

Carrie - posted on 04/30/2010

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My 9 yr old son goes to bed by 8 on school nights and around 9 on Fri & Sat nights. He has a routine every night that starts at 7:30, which helps settle him down (shower, asthma meds, brush teeth, clean up clothes/toys). If he's been good and not too tired I let him stay up 'till 8:30 and read in bed. It works well for us!

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My kids are 4 and 9 (just had her birthday last week). They both head to bed between 7:30 and 8:00 PM on school nights. I allow my 9-year-old to stay up another half hour or so to read quietly in her room. Then she settles down and goes right to sleep. She's up by 6:30 AM, so getting to bed fairly early is important for her. A cranky tween makes for a cranky mommy and we don't need that!

Shannon - posted on 04/30/2010

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The National Sleep Foundation says that children ages 5 to 12 need 10-11 hours of sleep. My kids (ages 5.5 and 8.5) go to bed at 8 p.m. and wake up at 6:30 a.m. My 8.5 year old functions wonderfully on that schedule. My 5.5 year old needs more sleep and I try to send her to bed earlier than 8 p.m. if I can. Sadly, just waiting for daddy to get home from work and have time to interact with the kids makes it difficult to put them to bed before 8 p.m. We do allow the kids to stay up late occasionally when they can sleep in the next morning.

Kristin - posted on 07/25/2010

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I have three children, bedtime for my 9 year old is 7 pm. On saturdays she may stay up until 8 pm.

Kat - posted on 05/20/2010

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A good bedtime for a 9 year old is 9:00 p.m. if they are exspected to be awake at 6:30 a.m. for school; They need 8 to 10 hours of continous sleep for optimal rejuvenation while they rest.

Tabitha - posted on 05/15/2010

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as a mom and a teacher. I prefer the 8:30 to 9:00 bed time for all school age children up to high school age.The more sleep they get the happier healthier they are. they also learn better on more sleep. what I do with my children is who are 7 and 4 is 8: 30 Monday thru Friday and then on Sat they get to stay up till 10. good luck with what ever you decide should be the bedtime for your 9 year old.

Danielle - posted on 05/09/2010

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making sure she is still getting about 10 hrs of sleep at night...so if she has to get up at around 730 for school. ..u could maybe let her stay up til 930 but maybe back off gradually and say 9 to start with as bedtime for your 9 year old.

Izzel - posted on 05/06/2010

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Bedtime for my 9 year old is 8:30 during the week & doesn't have a bed time on the weekend.

Lidia - posted on 05/06/2010

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Hi Ashley , I have 2 boys who also share a room and they've had the same bed time (8:30) until this past Feb when the oldest turn 13 and was officially a teenager, he now goes to bed at 9:30 ,and there really is no best time , it has to be according to your son and how many hours a sleep he needs , some kids need more that others or they'll be cranky all day, so try different times and see what works best for your son and good luck picking a bedtime for your 9 year old.

Jasmine - posted on 05/05/2010

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Bedtime for my 9 year old is 8pm. Maybe you could let your 9 year old go to bed a half hour later. Not sure if this helps.

Patricia - posted on 05/04/2010

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I have a 7 and 9 soon to be 10 year old who share a room right now both go to bed at 8pm but they start school earlier than most at 7:45 am. I will probably start letting the older go to bed later after he turns 10. But not too late as he is tired in the am and I have to wake him. I think 9 pm is a late enough bedtime for a 9 year old but will probably start with 8:30pm.

Julia - posted on 05/03/2010

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To get the best out of school, a schoolchild (including teenagers) usually needs to sleep about 10 hours every night. When deciding on a bedtime for a 9 year old, bear in mind what time your child has to get up and how long it takes him to get ready for school.

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2010

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My 9 year old daughters bedtime is 10 and she is up at 7 for school and she is fine, but every kid is different. Although, I think 8:30 is too early a bedtime for a 9 year old, my 2 year old goes to bed at that time. Good luck

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