Bed Time for kids?

Mandy - posted on 08/14/2009 ( 70 moms have responded )

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I have two sons, one starting middle school and the other Pre-K. I am re-evaluating bed time for the new school year and was wondering what time other parents put their children to bed on a school night?

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Merri - posted on 08/20/2009

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Quoting Mandy:

Bed Time for kids?

I have two sons, one starting middle school and the other Pre-K. I am re-evaluating bed time for the new school year and was wondering what time other parents put their children to bed on a school night?


I have Four kids ages 3, 4, 6, & 8. We tried 8pm last year at first but the now 6 yr old was a bear to get up so we backed it up to 7:30 and that seems better for the older two but 7pm is best for the younger two. Those two still get naps tho.

Kat - posted on 08/19/2013

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Im 9 and i go to bed at 9:45 - 10:00 for some reson I get up better i get up at 7:15

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2011

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well from ages 3-9 i would say 8:00 on weeks and 8:30 on weekends ( if your kids have schhol if not 8:30 for 10-12 i would say 9 or 9:30 and

Connie - posted on 08/31/2009

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My 10yo dd is in 5th grade (which is middle school in our area) so her bedtime is 8:30 instead of 8 pm last year. She reads for 1/2 hr before she has lights out. She gets up at 6:15 am. She has always been an early riser.

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Jenie - posted on 08/31/2009

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My daughter is starting 3 rd grade in a week, her bedtime since Preschool, has always been 8pm. She gets up at 7:15 no problem. Every child is different, give or take 15 minutes until you find the time that is right! :)

Tara - posted on 08/30/2009

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I have a son who just started 2nd grade and a daughter who started 8th grade... they both are in bed by 8pm. They have to be up by 5:30am to catch the bus by 6:30am. According to WebMD, children ages 3-6 Years Old : need 10 ¾ - 12 hours of sleep per day... and children ages 7-12 Years Old : need 10 - 11 hours of sleep per day. Hope this helps. :)

Cassandra - posted on 08/29/2009

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I have two boys. One in the 2nd grade and one in the 8th. My 7 year old goes at 8:30 and my 13 year old goes at 10:00. It works and we get up at 6:30am.

Brandy - posted on 08/28/2009

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School age kids, especially the younger ones need a minimum of 10 hours sleep. So, depending on what time you need to get her up I would start from there.

Shawnda - posted on 08/26/2009

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I have a 10 year old and a 81/2 year old and I put them to bed at 8:30 during the week. 10:00 Fridays and Saturdays.

Kelly - posted on 08/21/2009

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I have a 1st grader and an 8th grader. I make my 1st grader lay down around 8:30. This way we have time to read a story and say our prayers, by 9 o'clock he is sleep. My son in the 8th grade usually wants to hear story time as well so he'll make sure he's in the room, but he has to be in the bed by 9, because he has to get up no later than 6:15.

Tina - posted on 08/21/2009

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I put my four yr old to bed at 8:00. What good that does, he has so much energy it takes until 12 to 1 am to wind his butt down. That is my fight every night with him getting him to go to sleep.

Jeni - posted on 08/20/2009

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My kids are 4, 7, and 8 (Pre-K, 2nd and 3rd grades). All 3 of mine go to bed between 8 and 8:30 on school nights. However, becuause we are also shift worker, we also have to get the kids up at 4:30 am to go to the sitters when we both work on the same days. They always go back to sleep when they get there, but it still stinks!

Ginger - posted on 08/20/2009

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My sons who are 11 and going to be 9 this week go to bed at 8:00 now I might let might older one go at 9 but that depends on how he is getting up in the morning.They have always one this because they are not easy to get going in the morning my daughters however really don't have a set time around 10 I am like guys you need your rest but that is it ( they are in High School.)

Heather - posted on 08/20/2009

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Just remember that children need 10-12 hours of sleep a night. You can look that up on WebMD. See what time you have to wake your kids up for the bus. If you have to wake your kids up 6:30am, sending them to bed at 8:30pm would be 10 hours. Less than 10 hours and the kids aren't functioning fully in school and through out the day.

Heather - posted on 08/20/2009

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I also have two sons starting the same grades. My Pre-K son has a bedtime of 8pm on school nights and my Middle School son has a bedtime of 9pm on school nights. What I did was tell my kids that while they are in Elem. School their bedtime is 8pm and when the go to Middle School it will be 9pm.

Mandy - posted on 08/19/2009

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Thanks everyone for responding it really helped my decision, with my middle school-er having to be up early I will continue the 8:30 bedtime and I am going to try putting my 4 year old to bed a little earlier. ( I do feel bad though putting him to bed when it's still light out but like most suggested, every child is different and I will see what is best for him. Thanks again for all the help!

Jessica - posted on 08/19/2009

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I have a 10 year old daughter and her bed time is 9:30. It seems to work fine for me.

Karen - posted on 08/19/2009

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My kids are 8 & 3, they both get a bath every night at 7.15 to calm them down, the wee one goes to bed at 7.30 and her big sister goes at 8 to give her some alone time with us, we usually read a story and she then goes to bed. My kids normally g'o to bed 8.30 latest even during the holidays to keep them in a good routine if there's nothing special to keep them up for it's less disruptive.

Alma - posted on 08/19/2009

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my oldest is starting middle school too...I also have an 8 year old in 3rd and a 3 year old going to school for speech services...I tell them all they have to go to bed at 7pm and if they've been good that day I let them have 30min. of tv time as long as it's not a very roudy show that will get them all excited again...

Sandra - posted on 08/19/2009

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My daughter is 12 yrs old and in middle school. I have her in bed by 9:30 for whine down time but try to sleep by 10 pm but when she was younger around the age of pre-k she had to be in bed by 8:30 for whine down time and 9pm was bed time. She does think she has a sleeping problem to were she can not sleep but most of the time she is sleeping by 10:30.

Brandi - posted on 08/19/2009

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My girls are 8yrs. and 5yrs. I will be starting to put them to bed at 8. My oldest is not the eastiest to get up in the am. Good luck!!!

Saloni - posted on 08/19/2009

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hi, i have a 4 year old who will be starting school this september. i put him to bed at 7pm and he wakes up around 6.30/7 every morning. i believe that they still need 12hrs sleep untill the age of 6/7. hope this helps.

Nicole - posted on 08/19/2009

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Wow, reading the other posts, I am very jealous! I put my 6 year old to bed by 9-at least I try to....it seems that by the time I get home from work around 430 or 500 and we go to activities-sports, etc and then dinner and showers and down time, it is later than that. He gets up around 6-630 for school. My 16 yr old goes to bed by 11, but usually doesnt fall asleep until later. The rule in my house for him is that at long as he gets up without any issues, he can stay up. (his bus comes at 640)

Breanne - posted on 08/19/2009

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When he started school last year we put him to bed at 7:30pm so he could have time to settle down because he's very active. He was usually asleep at the latest, 8:30pm. We still do the same time today because it just seems to work out the best and he's five now going into SK this year. Hope this helps!

Net - posted on 08/19/2009

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i put both my children to bed at 7pm and they are both asleep by 7.30 they sleep all night and get up at 6am they have time to eat and play before they go to school and are wide awake and ready to go to school by 8am

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8pm since they were young, and still 8pm, 12, 10 and 9, no questions, they are tired and so am i (.) period.

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My 4-yr old twins go to bed about 8 only if they exhausted from outdoor play. Sometimes on rainy days it can be as late as 9 since they have so much energy.

Cassandra - posted on 08/18/2009

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I put my 6 and 2 year old to bed at 7:30pm. That way you still have mommy time and they have no problem waking up in the mornings!

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I'd have to say it depends on your morning schedule. And how easily it is to get your kids IN bed.

Also on your evening routines... School age is hard. Factoring in homework, dinner, bath, story, your own time to relax, there's hardly any time left for them to be play.

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You have to know how much sleep your kids need in order to function properly in school...right now both of my boys ages 14 & 9 go to bed at 9pm...my oldest could easily sleep 12 hours and my youngest could function on about 5, but in order to keep the peace in my house and to insure that they are not irritable in school with their teachers they go at 9

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I have to sons. One is going to in kindergarten and the other is turning 3. I I am putting my sons to sleep at 8pm, and the nights of church they go to bed at 9. They are going to be waking up at 6am the more sleep the better

Roelien - posted on 08/18/2009

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My son is in 4th grade and goes to bed at 8:00 to 8:30. This seems to work well. He has no trouble getting up at 6:00. But boy do we struggle to get him going the morning after if he stays up later than 8:30. He has never been a child that requires a lot of sleep, so we experimented a bit with the bedtime, until we found a time that resulted in him waking up naturally at around 6:00. Initially we had him going to bed at 7:00, but then he was sometimes wide awake at 5 in the morning and waking the whole household. Not being a morning person myself, this was not a good situation. Going to bed at 8:00 means he wakes at 6:00 and have enough time to get everything done before school starts. And everyone is happy and relaxed!

Bethany - posted on 08/18/2009

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I have a first grader who goes to bed at 7:30 on schol nights (starts the routine, so the lights are out by 8) and 8 pm on the weekends. Any later than that and I have trouble getting him up for school. He gets up at 7 each day

Jessica - posted on 08/18/2009

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Our kids have always gone to bed 8:30-9pm We start getting ready for bed during the school year at 8:30 with four kids that takes sometime. So they all end up in by 9ish. My 10 year old figure skates and a couple nights a week we are at the rink till 9 or a little after. So she goes to bed right when she gets home on those nights.

Ann Marie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I have a 7 yr old who just entered the 2nd grade. His bed time for kindergarden was 7:30pm, first grade was 8pm and this year it is 9pm. As for my 4 yr old son and 3 yr old daughter they both are in bed by 7:30 at the latest Sunday through Thursday. Friday through Saturday we push it back to 8:30pm. It really depends on what their day is like, if they take a nap, etc. I hope this helps.

Debbie - posted on 08/17/2009

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Quoting Kim:

I have a 9th grader, a 2nd grader, and one in kindergarten. All of them have to be in bed by 8:30. We start getting ready for bed at 8:00 (pj's on, teeth brushed, clothes for the next day put out) and I let my 9th grader read with a lamp until 9:00 then it's lights out. No talking on the phone after 8:00. Hope that helps you some.


I have a 9th grader this yr & a 2nd grader also.   I was wondering what time your 9th grader went to bed & now I see.   I have been letting mine stay up till 10 in his room.  

TRE - posted on 08/17/2009

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I HAVE SCHOOL AGE KIDS 3RD AND 6 GRADE AND THERE BED TIME WAS 9 -930PM BUT AFTER READING THE OTHER REPLIES I'M GOING TO CHANGE IT TO 830PM. THEY GET UP AT AROUND 630AM THANKS

Jackie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I have a 2nd grader and a kindergartener. We start getting ready for bed at 7:30. This way after brushing, getting jammies on, and reading our books they are in bed by 8:00 and (hopefully) asleep by about 8:30 (they always need some time to chat and unwind when I put them to bed.
We used to start getting ready for bed at 8:00, but they were never asleep until 9:00 or 9:30 so I had a hard time waking them at 6:30 to start getting ready for school.

Amy - posted on 08/17/2009

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i have a son who will be 8 next month and a daughter who is 5 my sons bedtime will be increasing on his birthday from 7.30 to 8 but my daughter is in bed by 7 as she is an early riser and needs her sleep they almost always fall straight to sleep and they are only allowed late nights during the school holidays if they have been extra good and for special occassions like family parties when we dont get back till late hope this was of some help x

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Our bed time process starts @ 6:30 pm. Sounds early, but it gives plenty of time for showers, stories, and getting into bed by 7:15. Lights out @ 7:30. My son is turning five and my daughter is 6. I still feel at that age they need plenty of sleep do excell better throughout the day.

Shonna - posted on 08/17/2009

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I put my boys to bed at 8:00 when they were preschool and kindergarten ages but now they are in 3rd and 5th grades and it is 9:00 it seems to work well I have no problems getting them up.

Emma - posted on 08/17/2009

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No matter if their at school or not my children go bed at set times.Callum is 5yrs and goes at 7pm as does sienna who is 3 but adam being 2 goes at 6:30pm. Routine is everything i'd be lost without it.

Angie - posted on 08/17/2009

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We start bedtime routine at 7. The girls take showers and we try to say prayers at 7:30. They go to bed after that and read. My 3rd grader will have lights out at 8 and my 6th grader at 8:30 this year.

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Well, my kids tell me they have the earliest bedtime around, but I don't want them falling asleep in class. My middle school child goes to bed at 9:00p.m. My 1st grader and 5th grader go to bed at 8:00p.m., 8:30p.m. They will always try to renegotiate bedtimes, but I think there sleep is important....especially when they have to get up so early.

Erin - posted on 08/17/2009

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I have two girls, one in pre-k and one in first grade this year. They both go to bed at 8pm in order to get up at 7am. I've always heard that this age range needs a good 11 to 12 hours at night. Your middle schooler could probably be alright with less, but it probably all depends on what time they have to get up, start there, then work your way backwards to figure out a good amount of time for them.

Chelsey - posted on 08/17/2009

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I usually put my kids to bed starting the relax/calm down stage at 8:00 pm. Then at 8:30 I put my 2 youngest to bed and my oldest will get an extra 15 minutes of reading then to bed. But, my kids are 7, 4, 2.

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my oldest is in 2nd grade and my other 2 are still babies. the bedtime in our house has always been 8:30 on school nights and no later than 9:30 other nights (except when we have family movie night of course!).



we told my daughter that when she gets older her bedtime will be 9:00 instead, but we're still not sure when we'll make that transistion... maybe 9th grade or so...

Jennifer - posted on 08/17/2009

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I have 2 school age children. One started middle school and the other is in 5th grade. they both go to bed at 9:30, but sometimes opt for earlier if they are exausted from all their activities. We just moved to 9:30 last year.

Samantha - posted on 08/16/2009

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mine usually crashes around 7-7.30 pm but i try not to let go later than 8.30pm

Michelle - posted on 08/16/2009

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My children range between 5 and beginning kindergarten and 9 going into 3rd grade. My 5 year old and 7 year old go to bed at 9 and my 9 year old stays up until 9:30 unless she gets hard to get up in the morning which means she goes to bed at 9 with the other two.

Where we live they do not start school until 9 am and the bus doesn't pick them up until 8:30 and they get breakfast at school so they can sleep until 7:30. If we lived somewhere that they had to catch the bus closer to 7 or 7:30 they would be in bed by 8/8:30.

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