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behavior issue with my almost 4 year old son

Faiza - posted on 04/13/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my son has speech delay. We are going to conduct speech therapy for him from next month. He understands almost everything, but is very reluctant to speak, and even more reluctant to learn from us. He starts shouting and crying when we ask him to say a word. A very picky eater, eating only 2 dishes. It's impossible to make him eat something new.

He's a very sharp kid, but his speech delay is a big hindrance in communication and makes it difficult for us to work on his behavior problems. I don't know how to deal with him.

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Jane - posted on 04/18/2010

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your speech pathologist will have the answers or will refer u if she thinks you need more strategies than she has to offer, good luck and remember it's a time when all four year old boys a testing the boundarys set by their parents, your boy has extra reasons to feel frustrated. help is not far away it will be easier before you know it. jane

Lynsey - posted on 04/14/2010

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Hi , My mother in law told me that my partner never spoke just pointed and grunted untill he got into full time school . He made his point and just didn't bother (nothing has changed much). Trying to force the issue could make him more determined not to do it or put up a mental block . As for the food issue , my house rule is if you don't eat it you will go without . I try to introduce new foods in a fun way . Carpet picnics or finger foods .
Hope this will help but so what if he wont talk , you got a very happy and bright boy enjoy the good .

Kimberly - posted on 04/13/2010

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1st - take care of yourself. As a parent, it's hard & frustrating & exhausting when there are obstacles in the way of behavioral issues. The speech delay is probably feeding into the behavioral issues.

You didn't mention if he had any hearing difficulties, so I will assume that he hears fine. I think that all kids respond best if they have consistency and know what is expected of them, and then have follow-through with consequences when necessary.

If you ask him to put his toys in his toy box, for example, and he doesn't, you give him a choice. If you pick it up, his toys become yours for 24 hours... or he can pick them up like you asked him to.

My 4 1/2 year old son has had some severe behavioral issues and has sensory processing disorder issues (it looks a lot like ADHD, but isn't). For a while I struggled with having consequences for some of his behaviors, but come to find out, it actually helped him and made him feel safe and secure.

I hope that this is helpful and makes sense.

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