Simona - posted on 04/23/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )
Hi, Im single mum with 4yo daughter. These days my child is accusing me of beating her. I know i dont beat her, I dont even slap her. She gets these temper tantrums now and then, i know she wants her way but sometimes some things have to be done as i want. Two days ago she felt down when playing outside, there was a little drop of blood on her injured knee. She got plasters on the knee. Yesterday as she was tired, she wanted to play not to eat, and went down under the table. The only thing i did was trying tu pull her from under the table, slightly, not strongly, and then i sat on the opposite end of the table waiting for her to get out eventually. she started crying, she was yelling ouch ouch ouch!!! mum you pinched me!! ouch!!! i told her to go to bed (it was her bedtime) and she sat by my laptop which i closed as she was yelling all the time and told her to bed. I went to her bedroom waiting for her, she stated ouch ouch!!! my leg hurts! carry me!! i told her to go to her bedroom by herself (5 steps and i knew that her knee cant hurt suddenly) she started yelling ouch ouch my leg!!! there is blood!! blood!! im bleeding!!! i took her to bed still yelling and set there till she calmed down and fell asleep. Today she got stubborn over her tshirt, tantrum again, then she wanted to make hair differently (still tantrum) and was pushing against me. well i said im leaving by myself (i wanted go shopping and she was dressing herself already an hour) and stood up. She fell on her bum, and started to yell mummmm!!! you punched me!!! ouch ouch!!! i asked her where i punched her, she showed my her bum and back ouch ouch ouch u punched me!!. i gave her shoes and jacket and took her out (where i met my neighbour who heard all this...) when we returned from shopping i sat down with her and asked her why she said i punched her when i didnt. she said u punched me. i asked where i punched her. she pointed to her bum, back and neck/back. i asked her why she was lying. she repeated i punched her. Im new in ths area, our neighbours dont know me much, and we live in block of flats. Im horrified what all can go through their heads. i wonder whether somebydy calls social services. im completly down. i dont know what to do. i play with my daughter, always her time for her, never beat her, punch her or anything. the most horrifying thing i do is "just" shouting. when we went out, on the way downstairs she was like "mum u punched me it hurts". we spend time togehter, we go out together, i try to offer her more activities (cinema, children theatre etc) she goes to dancing course etc i really do my best. but im so sad. i dont know what to do. ty.