Bowel Movement Issues

Stephanie - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 39 moms have responded )

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My son will be 4 at the end of the month - he has been potty trained since was barely 2 years old. for the past 4 - 5 months he has been holding his 'poop' he REFUSES to go! he will run and hide and do everything possible to let us see him trying to hold in his poop. he has had problems with bowel movments since he was born, but ive NEVER seen him do this. Everytime i ask he just says he doesnt like to poop! he has gone through so many pairs of underwears, im stressed beyond anything ever!

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Anna - posted on 12/27/2012

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hi everyone, my 5 year old son also has issues with going to the toilet, his main problem is that whenever he does something physical he ends up with a reasonable amount of poo in his pant, i dont believe he is meaning to do it. Hell only go purposely every coulpe of days however inbetween he goes through about 5-6 pairs of undies each day. its frustrating as he has to start school next year, any advise would be appreciated

Jaeda - posted on 11/17/2012

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My son has an issue with making bowel movements. When he was a newborn everything was fine. As an infant he began to not pick up in weight as much as he should although he was breastfed at his beckoning. Come to find out the Dr. failed to inform me that I needed to take pregnancy vitamins as I continued to breastfeed and as an end consequence he suffered from a rare (old) form of malnutrition known as Ricket's and from this he had an issue with making bowel movements. They referred him to a Gastrenterologist* at about 9 months who didn't properly do the procedure correctly which causes him to be able to hold his bowels in for months and makes it difficult for him to make a bowel movement. At one point, it actually caused him to have a rectal prolapse which no Dr. would touch, so I had to reverse it myself as the Dr. was telling me to do it, because as she stated, it was a malpracition lawsuit case that could be made against my sons GI Specialist. I never took him back there again and since then his pediatrician has placed him on Miralax and other medications like it. It's a tasteless, odorless laxative that comes in powder form. Given that you follow the instructions to a tee, he won't have any choice but to use the bathroom. My son would hold his in as well even to the point where he was crying, out of fear that making the bowel movement would hurt or be uncomfortable. What I did was, I purchased a bag of diapers, wipes, rash cream and a potty and although he was old enough to use an actual toilet. I would encourage him. Rub his back, turn away and even leave him on the toilet in the bedroom, with my cellphone or whatever I could promise to get him to sit still long enough for the bowel movement to actually process and bring itself down. After a while, he became more comfortable with going and allowed me into the room. Next, asking me if he could used the bathroom and then asking me to come into there. And as this was going on, i'd on a regular day give him small doses of the medication so that it was in his system regularly. By the time he was 5, he was too cool for me to assist him in the bathroom or even hold a conversation with him while he used the bathroom. It's all a matter of patience and time.

Kelli - posted on 08/18/2009

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My nephew had this problem till he was 8. Finally the doctor recommended the non-flavored fiber. Bowl movements were extremely painful and he often clogged the toilet because the poop was round like a baseball. The worse part was that the more he held it the bigger the problem. I would recommend talking to your doctor about anything you could give your child since he is still so young. Minimize dairy as it helps restrict bowl movements. I read in a homeopathic book that bitter agents help stimulate bowl movements, so you might try green tea since it has these and is naturally caffeine free unlike black tea. I too have problems with constipation from time to time and this helps me. A glass or two works for me so one should be enough for him. It can be drank warm or cold and sweetened with honey, though warm fluids tend to help with the flow more than cold, so if you can get your four year old boy to drink hot tea that would be better.

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Fiber isn't the only natural helper. Any fruits that have a single pit will also help with your childs stools. They help losen without being messy just as long as you don't have too many. Eg. Plums, peaches, apricots, cherries, mango, dates, etc...

Veronica - posted on 08/25/2009

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Quoting Veronica:

Ultimate Aloe Juice. I wont say it enough -- it will help re-regulate his digestive tract -- and its healthy - its not a drug. Works for my daughter who had the same problem - cept she would go in a corner, or by the furniture and stand on her tippytoes to squeeze it back in! Had bad times with that -- but now she is doing very well. And it tastes very good - esp. the Kiwi Strawberry -- my kids drink it right up.



We also carry Isotonix Digestive Enzymes with Probiotics - helps aid in digestion -- very good product to help with bowels as well. And the Probiotics promote healthy bacteria in the digestive tract.



 



Take care,



Hopefully you will find something that will help your child out.



 



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Stacie Marie - posted on 09/06/2013

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My daughter is five and she poops in her panties 2-6 times a day and I get so aggravated, When I ask her why; shesays she just doesn't know she has to go. I made her a doctors appointment with a specialist because I didn't know what else to do.

Spring - posted on 12/01/2012

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adishia i know how you feel .. my daughters pre k teacher wont talk to me anymore.. she feels it is my fault and she is mad at me for not whipping my baby i guess.. it breaks my heart because she tells the baby shame on you when she has an accident.. this is not helping.. God bless you and i hope he helps you in the problem

Evie - posted on 12/01/2012

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Hi my son is 2 there twins. At one point it was just my son george and now they both do it. they scream and hold themselfs tight and also being preagnent with twins having a 1 yr old son and a daughter with downsindrome its really hard but i have my ways.I sit them on the potty hold there hands a tell them a made up story or talk to them about whatever pops into my mind.Both my boys have bowl movements since they were bad and take medication.Every week i buy hundreds of dipers for all my kids ands my 6 year old is disabled and weres pull ups and dry nites and i would live to just buy baby dipers and get them into pants it would be so uch cheaper.

Spring - posted on 11/30/2012

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thank you all so much my daughter still leaks poop in her panties.. i am at my wits end and her prek teacher is also frustrated.. i think the light has just dawned on me God bless you all

ADISHIA - posted on 11/19/2012

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i am in tears trying to write this post! my 8 YEAR OLD SON poops on himself! I AM SO BEYOND FRUSTRATED THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! he does it any and everywhere. at first i thought maybe since he's had a few febral seziures in the past that maybe something was wrong with him. when i ask him does he think there is something wrong with him he tells me NO he just didnt feel like going to the bathroom. at first the problem was only at home now its where ever he goes. and it happens whenever he is busy playing or running around! i am so tired of throwing away underwear because its so much poop i dont want them in my washer. I AM SO EMBRASSED I FEEL LIKE I AM A BAD PARENT AND I DONT KNOW WHAT I'M DOING WRONG please help i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 11/16/2012

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So how did you finally get your child to go #2 in the toliet ? Or are you still having issues. ?

Barbara - posted on 11/15/2012

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If he has been to the doctors and they tell you there is nothing obstructing him I too would try giving him lots of fruit and more water not juice. Mirlax and stool softner I would make sure you tell the doctor about this. Maybe its too hard for him to go on the toilet? Bring out his potty and see if this is easier for him. Good luck.

Tina - posted on 11/12/2012

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i totally understand how u feel. my son will be 6 on nov 21st, and he's been having this problem all his life. he was constipated as a baby, and now he's just terrified to go. he holds it in until he cant hold it in any more.about a week and a half or so. i get sooooo frustrated, i cant even tell you. i give him miralax to keep it soft, but he still has the fear of going anyways. and when he does, its huge. i try to tell him if he goes every couple days it wont be so big, if thats the reason hes so afraid, but i dont think he gets it. some say this happens alot, and eventually they will grow out of it. but im afraid of the long term effect this may have on his internal organs.

Louis - posted on 10/11/2012

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old post !! but guess things never change...my 4 yr old G-daughter is breaking my heart with her tears of pain.

Louis - posted on 10/11/2012

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old post !! but guess things never change...my 4 yr old G-daughter is breaking my heart with her tears of pain.

Louis - posted on 10/11/2012

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old post !! but guess things never change...my 4 yr old G-daughter is breaking my heart with her tears of pain.

Sarah Jane - posted on 10/10/2012

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Hi my son was and still is having these problems, I see a paediatrician for it and its best that you do the same, they put my son on movacole and see him regularly, have you seen if he prolapsed his bowel when he goes? My son now holds it in as he is scared to go and this is causing both him and me stress :(

Raquel - posted on 10/10/2012

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my son is 3months old he was born prematurely. he has a really hard time having a bowel movement since he was born, i have tried so many different things. it takes about a week for him to go and when he does push he starts screaming crying someone please help me

Sarah Jane - posted on 10/09/2012

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My son is also 4yrs old and has been having problems with his BM since birth, I found out when he was about 3 weeks old that he would prolapse his bowel (not sure how) but the drs put him on movacole (not sure on spelling) it kind of helped in the respect that it stopped the prolapse from happening.

I had him 100% potty trained at the age of 2 (still on the meds) but noticed when he was about 2 and a half that he was trying to hold it in, at that age it was very hard to find out why, the drs thought it might be a pain thing so told me to give him more of the movacole, even though his bm were soft.

He is now 4 and holding them in for so long that his belly swells and its obviously painful, anyway today was day 7 of holding it (twice daily movacole and lactulose used for 4 days) I gave in and had to use a suppository (which both upset and frightened him, not something I wanted to do) however after about 20 mins he went (all over himself as it was to runny to hold in) I then had to put a pull up on him as I knew that wasn't the last of it. (He filled 3 pull ups)

I am so upset right now as I can't seem to do or say anything to help him, I have told him that holding it in like that will make him sick and give him pain. Have tried telling him that he will get something special if he can show mummy what a big brave boy he is by doing it on the toilet next time, he always tells me "next time when I wake ill do a big poo just for you mummy" but dosent and holds it in again. I hate to see him suffering, and I hate having to give him the suppository .

Please does anyone have any advice? He sees a paediatrician but all they are wiling to do is give him more meds

Jessica - posted on 10/05/2012

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my son has had on going issues with bowel movements since he was 5years old! not sure to this day why? he had just became diabetic type 1 so i thought it might of had something to do with this like hes diet ect but the diabetic team said no this would not effect it! he got reffered to a team that look at kids behaviours but they did not seem to know what was wrong either but thought that he behaviour needed looked it i always thought his behaviour was not good but just thought it was hard bringing a child up by myself & i was only 17 wen i had him so had nothing really to compare it with! So this went on for years nothing changed with my son he still soiled & his behaviour was irratic! never really had much support from the school infact they reported me to social work!! i was constantly asking for my son to be tested for ADHD, my son has been in hospitail 3 times for toilet trainning that would work fine for a very short time wen he would get back home :( more so wen he would have to go back to school he would do the same stand in corners not move as he was trying to stop a movement, he would do it at school i used to have to go in & change him, he would do it in other peoples houses & i would have to make up reasons for leaving so no one would notice! finally wen my son was in 2nd year aged 14 he got medicated for ADHD better late than never i guess well maybe! but unfortunately hes still not useing the toilet!! hes now 15! so badly constipated that he just has an over flow all the time! he has been given movicol to help soften the stool but he hates it i& will not take daily then wen he gets really bad i have to up the dose eveyday to empty out his tummy this takes a long time & is really not nice if it works my son has had so much time off school because of this & his other medical probs! i really just dont know what to do or try next? i have to other kids one 8 & one 3 they dont have any probs like this! this affectes our life so badly we cant take our kids swimming, on holidays around people wen it gets bad ive tried to be calm about it in the passed but its now been 10 years & am loosing the will he wont seem to try & help me help him we are always arguing about it he will leave his dirty pants in the bathroom for all to see he sometimes gets it on his hands/fingers & he will just wipe it on the walls & wen i say to him you need a bath son he says its not me! & would b happy just sitting in it!! someone plz help me from going mad!! x

Tina - posted on 06/26/2012

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im so glad to hear other moms are having this problem with their children. my son is 5, and has been holding his poop since he was a baby. he can go a week, if not more! it scares me,and makes me sooo angry! he'll be starting kindergarten this coming year,and i really hope he can get this under control before then! i give him miralax, and it does keep it soft enough, but he will still hold it till he cant hold it anymore! then when he sits and goes, he's terrified!!! it breaks my heart! im thinking about the pull up thing. maybe he wont like the fact that babys wear pull ups,not big boys! i guess i just have to try and be patient,and not get so angry with him. his pediatrician says he should grow out of it,just make sure i keep giving him the miralax to keep it soft. im just worried that holding his poop in so long, for so many years is going to harm him in the future!

Janet - posted on 08/24/2009

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I would talk to your doctor about putting him on benefiber. I have bowel troubles as well and so does my son. Benefiber has been wonderful, but I am unsure if it is apporved for children at the age of 4.

Christina - posted on 08/19/2009

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I had issues with my son and his bowel movements until I found a wonderful flavorless probiotic (Florify) that you can let the kids sprinkle on their food. It helps to regulate their internal system. Please let me know if you want more info on where to get it.

Tania - posted on 08/19/2009

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Pear juice is also very good. We used that for my 8yr old daughter when she was constipated.

Kim - posted on 08/19/2009

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My son was holding it too and we had the leakage problem. We didn't realize what was going on, just that he kept pooping his pants. he is on Miralax and it has helped a lot. His rectum was enlarged so it took a long time for it to shrink and for him to get the feeling back. You don't want this to happen to your son. If he is more comfortable pooping in a diaper maybe you should go that route until he is comfortable pooping again. Then start the training process again.

Kimberly - posted on 08/18/2009

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My son has had bowel problems since he was about a year old. He has a condition called "functional constipation" which he is on MiraLax for to help him stay regular. He has never done what your son is doing (holding it in), however I know that MiraLax helps with keeping the stools looser and moving (which may help since it sounds like your son may have had a hard bowel movement that scared him). I wasn't a big fan of having my son on "medication" however our specialist assured me that MiraLax is not something that stays in the system like a medication but helps create water in the bowel to keep things looser and moving. Also, our specialist recommended increasing his daily fiber (10 grams per day for our 6 year old) to aid in keeping the stools moving. Hope this helps. Good luck!

Lori - posted on 08/18/2009

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My son is 6 and has struggled with BM issues for a long time. We haven't given him any medication because he's not constipated. He just doesn't want to go. We think he doesn't like the sensation and feeling of passing a BM. He's gotten much better as he's getting older, he still won't go everyday, but we can usually get him to go every other day or so. We notice he has to pee more when he really needs to poop, so when he starts running to the restroom every half hour we just tell him it's time to go. I let him take a "friend" into the restroom to keep him company, he uses his step stool to rest his feet on so he won't feel like he's falling, and I stand just at the door for encouragement just until he can get the first bit out. After that he is fine on his own. Maybe trying some encouragement or other distracting tactics like that will help.

Melanie - posted on 08/17/2009

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Can his feet touch the ground when he is on the toilet? It maybe that he is getting pins and needles in his legs and feet when sitting on the toilet for a long time, so is avoiding that. Of course constipation then becomes an issue...

Veronica - posted on 08/17/2009

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Ultimate Aloe Juice. I wont say it enough -- it will help re-regulate his digestive tract -- and its healthy - its not a drug. Works for my daughter who had the same problem - cept she would go in a corner, or by the furniture and stand on her tippytoes to squeeze it back in! Had bad times with that -- but now she is doing very well. And it tastes very good - esp. the Kiwi Strawberry -- my kids drink it right up.

Angela - posted on 08/17/2009

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My son is now 9 years old and has had problems since he was born. They found that his digestive system processes slower than usual. We tried everything, Miralax, mineral oil, fruits, fiber. IT has been frustrating. It was so painful to go that he now is so afraid of the bathroom. We are working hard to help him change his outlook and finally found a gastroenterologist that helped him keep going on a regular basis. Meaning, we finally found the right amount of lactalose, fiber and food to allow him constant bowel movements. I recommend that you don't take this lightly and get this before it becomes a bigger problem. Being upset with the child only makes things worse. It isn't their fault.

User - posted on 08/17/2009

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I just read a few of the previous posts. We used miralax only at night and it seemed to work. We also tried to add more fiber, water, etc to her diet.

User - posted on 08/17/2009

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The red flag for me is that he has had problems since he was born. Has he been checked out by a pediatric gastro-enterologist? He may be holding them because he is fearing pain. Does he eat lots of fruits, veggies and fiber? Is he constipated? My granddaughter had issues and when she was finally seen we were told she has an unusually long bowel and that this is something she will grow out of. They put her on Miralax, which is now over the counter, and no moor problems. This is not a stimulant and can be taken indefinitely. I guess I would rule out any physical causes just to be sure. Some kids just do this as a control thing too. Good luck.

Martha - posted on 08/17/2009

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My oldest is now 18....she used to have huge movements....painful at times. She would also refuse to go. After one trip to the ER, a nice young resident doctor suggested giving her mineral oil (2 tsp) in orange juice daily to help things "slide" out LOL. I worked very well. Later we also talked with a homeopathic doctor who also recommended Acidophilus capsules. It is the live active culture found in yogurt that helps with the digestive system....makes things work better....yes it is a probiotic. I would also recommend a doctor of osteopatic medicine (spelling) DO they look at a number of different things. Oh, we did try pills for a while too.....mineral oil is SOOO much cheaper.

Stephanie - posted on 08/17/2009

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with my son we have tried it all.. he gets conspitition a lot (ever since he was a baby) well he was on mirlax 3 times a day but he was pooping 8 - 10 times a day with it so the doctor gave him more i think almost 6 times a day.. wlll after that problem we moved and now he holds it.. ive tried everything all over again... it doesnt solve the problem he will still try to hold it and once the meds go through him its back to the same problem again. also he CAN go and it doesnt hurt and he KNOWS it.. but he doesnt want to.. i dont know its really hard to deal with and explain. :(

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OH MY... I just went through this, kyler my 3yr old ended up going to the doctors b/c he was holding it for a few days and started getting belly cramps.. they ended up doing xrays to make sure there was nothing, just found that he was backed up, needless to say they put him on mirlax 3 times a day and once that kicked in IT KICKED IN.. there was poop everywhere and he had no choice, so for that 2 weeks he was in pull ups b/c it just came out, but after that we sat down and told him he can no longer hold it b/c it hurts his butt and belly... so when he had to poop we told him it was okay to do it (at this point i didnt care if it was in a pull up, i just needed him to go and be comfortable) so once he did that about a month feeling ok with the whole pooping thing THEN we started the potty training thing.. i got him a thomas potty seat and went with him when he had to go... even got him the ka do wipes to make him feel big boy about the whole thing and so far so good, he lets me know and we go.......another thing that also helped me was that i told him he needed to poop on the potty so he can go to school like his brother and sisters... it's a rough road believe me but there is light at the end of the tunnel.... so i understand 100% ,,, and there was times i cried b/c he would be in pain but try the mirlax that works....

Erin - posted on 08/17/2009

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I totally feel for you. I just went through this with my 4 year old daughter. She's always had a problem with constipation (she's lactose intolerant). She would only go every few days. It got to the point to where it was hurting her to go so she started holding it. Well, that led to leakage issues in her underwear. It was explained to me that there is a plug of poop in the intestines and there was fluids leaking around it and the plug needed to come out. What helped us is just making it to where it doesn't hurt her to go anymore. You have to be vigilant with this, but it cleared the whole problem up within a matter of about a week. Benefiber makes a children's powder. We add this to her juice in the mornings. Also at lunch she takes a pill stool softener. We taught her how to swallow it (it's a liquid gelcap and is nice and smooth and small). These things together have made her stool softer and easier for her to get out. Once she realized it won't hurt anymore when she goes, she does it more often now and we have no more leakage. I know how stressful this can be, I was in tears over it, I knew we had to get it cleared up before she started pre-k this year. We had lots of luck with this system and I hope my suggestions will help. Also, she happens to like prunes, so I give those to her as often as she wants them. I also read that this issue needs to be taken care of early in the onset. Holding the poop in can make that plug I was talking about and can actually lead to stretching of the intestines and rectum and can lead to surgery for them in severe cases. I wish you lots of luck. There's actually a lot of information on medical websites (WebMd). Let me know if you have any questions.

Tanesha - posted on 08/17/2009

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He could have had a big bowl movement that hurt and he is scared to go now because he thinks it will hurt.maby you can ask him if it hurts when he goes. just some thoughts good luck/

Chelsey - posted on 08/17/2009

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Ouch! I have heard that kids will hold it in and try their hardest to not go when they have had a painful experience while letting it out, especially when it's on the toilet. It is then supposed to make them afraid to have a bowel movement on the toilet again. I guess I would probably try taking it back to potty training days and have him sit on the toilet right around the time he normally would have a movement and make sure he eats lots and lots of fiber. I hope this helps. :) Good luck!

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