Bullies

Judy - posted on 08/11/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son is 7 and goes to a YMCA often times the bigger children there pick on him and oblivious to the staff. I told him to ignore them but i know its hard. What can i do?

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FreedomSmellsNice - posted on 08/12/2013

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Thank you. I feel your pain. Keep on top of them (the adults). Unfortunately, I had to. Some let the ball drop, and I wanted to let them know that I wanted a lasting resolution, not a Band-Aid for the problem, and I wasn't going to take it lying down. :)

Judy - posted on 08/12/2013

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Thank you i have notified staff, principle, aftercare coordinator . I did not take it lightly i was pretty mad. Your comments were helpful

FreedomSmellsNice - posted on 08/12/2013

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We had multiple problems with 2 bullies in his kindergarten class and aftercare. When you mess with my family, you mess with me. So, you better bring it, because it is on! This is what I did.

1. I got loud about it, but I was diplomatic, factual, and did not ignore the fact that they obviously saw a weakness in my son. So, he was part of the problem. I sent emails to the aftercare and the school. The teacher, guidance counselor, principal, and aftercare staff and director were informed.

2. I told my son that he needed to stop talking to these kids. Ignore them.

3. If they get in your face, then I want you to scream, "Get out of my face!" This draws attention to the bullies, which they hate, and gets the attention of the adults.

4. Tell an adult.

5. Use reverse psychology. "Is that all you got?!", "You are waste of time!"

6. Laugh it off. "Whatever!"

7. Safety in numbers. Hang out with your friends.

8. Realize that these boys will NEVER be your friend, and don't fall for their games.(These boys were manipulative, taunting, and downright mean. They would try to see if he would let his guard down and accept them as their "friend" and then the bullying would start all over again.)

9. Bully them back. Point out their weaknesses and tear them apart. Show no mercy.

10. Walk away.

11. If they lay a hand on you, deck them, and then run to the teacher.

12. Most importantly, I built up my child's self esteem and self confidence. It was a cruel eye opening experience for him, but their opinions don't matter. Only God's does.

Yes, these boys were in Kindergarten. It starts young. I will not be surprised if they are in trouble with the law before too long. It is sad. 1 boy moved away, but the other is still there. And, he is the meaner of the two. School starts back up soon, and we'll be ready! Good luck!

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