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Child struggling to get used to shcool

Lorna - posted on 09/28/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My eldest started school 3 weeks ago, he's one of the eldest in the recption intake (was 5 a couple of weeks ago) and is in a mixed reception/year 1 class. I've been called in several times already about him refusing to do as he's told and being disruptive. He's fine in a one to one setting and is quite bright, he definately knows how he should be acting.



How on earth do I get him to do as the teacher asks? His teacher feels it's a bit early to start on a behaviour chart, so all I can think of is pep talks every morning before school.

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Jacqueline - posted on 09/28/2009

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Okay, mr. I want my way. I have one at 4ys old, and it gets tiring. I'm very strict when it comes to rules, ther are no gray area. I was raised in the 60, and discipline really helped me understand I need to do what I'm told. My 4yr I really have to get creative, but luckly for me he like hot wheel cars, and luckly for him they only cost a dollar. this summer during swimming lessons I got him to listen to his instructor, and do what he's told by having a hot wheel car avaiable as an visual aid. Boy he worked for it, and is a good swimmer. Know this might be creating a problem for later, but I need him to listen know. LOL. So, any means necessary lorna.

Lorna - posted on 09/28/2009

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Thanks for that Jacqueline.



He is fine as long as he is doing what he wants to do. He will refuse to stop doing an activity that he is enjoying or start doing one that he perceives as boring. For instance he wouldn't get changed for PE today and was deliberately disruptive, he did have the option to watch but wouldn't even do that. He was similar when he was at nursery but they were less strict and there was a higher child to teacher ratio. The teacher has just asked me to talk to him about his behaviour so far.



I am not 100% sure that he doesn't have some sort of hearing problem as he often says pardon when he hasn't quite heard me. He has had a hearing test which came back OK but I wonder if background noise is an issue for him or is he just day dreaming? I am keeping a check on him and will ask for a referral if necessary.



I did observe him in his nursery setting 18 months ago but I found that he was behaving differently becasue I was there. The teacher is keeping a behaviour record which I can read at any time and they are praising good behaviour.



I feel I should be doing something but don't know what. I have used behaviour chart for specific things (eg potty training) in the past and they have worked well, hence why I lean towards them.

Jacqueline - posted on 09/28/2009

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Lorna, you may need to get more information about what it is he is refusing to do, and when he's being disruptive. Some students do well when they are active in a group at their comfort level, plus he's young, and new to the program. The teacher should have more suggestions for inclusion of students at different social levels. exhaust all other things behavior ally before you get to behavior charts with the school. His behavior is related to something, if he listens, participate, and is not disruptive in other settings. Sit in on a class and observe for yourself. Be proactive for you child not reactive.

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