Julia - posted on 02/16/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )
Ok so I need a little commiseration. My little person goes to a small school with only one class room for each grade. I am one of the room mothers and overall I love the parents if my child's peers. However one if the other room moms is making me crazy. She was new to the school and at first we hit it off nicely but as I got to know this individual better there are some serious issues. First she started telling people we were like sisters after about the first month if school. I was uncomfortable with this, but didn't want to be rude so I just let it go. I have a group if life long girlfriends who I don't even refer to as like sisters, because well they aren't my sisters they are wonderful friends. I feel like this woman has developed some type of weird competition with me and it is totally uncomfortable. We have had some weird single white female (remember this movie) moments where she copies things then acts shocked they are the same. She also is a disorganized mess and regularly texts me in the am asking about what is going on at school that day. She lost the sign up sheet for the class parties. She also demands very personal information from me. We are both single moms and she insisted repeatedly after I politely deferred her question to know how much child support I get. One day we had a play date with another child and when I politely said we had plans that say she asked repeatedly what specifically we were doing and when I nicely said we just had commitments that day she then asked when my child was there to see if she could get the info from him. I believe the woman has some mental health issues to be frank. I can't totally cut her off due to the small size of the school but she makes me exhausted. I've had other parents ask me probing questions about her because I think they are sensing that she has some issues too. I'm trying really hard to rude above and not be gossipy but I'm so frustrated with the situation that it is really difficult trying to balance trying to make her feel like a welcome new member to our community while trying to distance myself from her and draw clear boundaries all the time trying not to say anything negative to the other parents. I'm exhausted! What I have said here is only the tip of the iceberg really. I feel uncomfortable enough about this woman's level of inappropriateness that if there were a field trip that she was chaperoning and I wasn't I would need to tell the teacher I don't want my child in her group. I'm trying so hard to be nice and fair to her but I'm feeling frustrated and snippy.