Daughter pretending to be someone else online.

Melissa - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am trying to figure out why would my daughter pretend to be someone else online. I have warned her and now taken computer time drom her for a week. I will only allow if homework involves the computer. Any suggestions?

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Lena - posted on 03/29/2014

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I just realized my daughter is 4 different people online. She actually carries on conversations on instant messaging with herself as 2 different people. She's 12. One of her "selves" is a guy. And she's always talking about her real self to others posing as whomever. Vulgar, sexual, mean language. Yes we will be finding a head dr.. but anyone have any ideas. She's been telling me full stories about her boyfriend now for 2 weeks. He doesn't exist. I had my son look into it (same school). Any ideas. I thought I was monitoring fine until I tried a new search today.

Karen - posted on 10/15/2012

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I have a teenage boy 16 teen and he is in lala land all the time pretends to be a WWE champion pretends to be the 2nd in command of RAW the wrestling thing on tv and he also pretends to be John Genia's best friend. My husband keeps telling me that's a serious problem. he is always talking to himself and acting out what these people do on TV. He pretends to have all these girl-friends. My husband refuses to have a conversation with him because its all BS that comes out of his mouth . he will say one thing that is factual and the rest he say's will be lies or made up

he has called him out on it. We are both afraid of hurting him his real dad is always putting him down. My new husband whose been with us for 12 yrs has no clue how to reach him. Sorry my English is bad

Sharlene - posted on 11/17/2011

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I would be very concerned, If she going on those adultary chat lines and face book and twitter , Do you moditor her computer reguarly? Or use Parental Control, all the best

Janella - posted on 11/16/2011

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This is no little matter. My daughter started this 6 years ago as a means of "escape" she is now 21 and we are still trying to pull her back from the world and characters she has created. Of course there are underlying issues but my point is that this can turn into a nightmare very fast. It is serious , very serious. Act now and get her therapy to get to the cause of her need to do these behaviors before you look back. Years down the road and wonder what you could have done differently.

Kryss - posted on 04/10/2010

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I have a ten yr old ..i allow him on my farmville in fb but, he is monitored..and if the occasion would arise i think i would have a talk and he would have the priviledge taken away but thing is if you monitor your child the problem should cease.

Louise - posted on 04/10/2010

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You don't say how old your daughter is. I'm slightly old fashioned on a few things. One it that my kids will not have mobile phones till they are 13 or allowed facebook etc till i know they are responsible about it. This is after when i was working in a phone shop and a mother came in and tore shreds off me for selling her a phone that her 13 year old was able to watch pornography on it. I pointed out that I had told her that it was a feature and suggested a phone that didn't have internet on it but she decided that was the one he HAD to have. Apparently I should have known what he was going to do and somehow prevented it.



Anyway my motto is better safe than sorry. My kids play in the enclosed back garden of our house even though there is other kids their age who play on the green in front. I know where they are and i know they are safe!!! To me that is wayyyy more important than what everyone else is doing!

Rhonda - posted on 04/09/2010

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how old is she? well i would continue to monitor everything she does online and when you are not around i would definetly have it password protected,,if she has myspace facebook yearbook i would keep track of all that and even make you a profile and view her friends and see what her friends are posting and wat and how she is responding...talking about the dangers of all of that is a good thing even pulling up stories real ones and showing her what happens to girls her age and more when they goto far with the computer and what it can do,,, proe your point in everyway and dont be afriad to keep track of everything and make her comfortable enough to where shes not afrad to talk to you about it

Patricia - posted on 04/07/2010

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You make the computer rules if she can't follow them no computer plain and simple.Stick to your guns its our job to keep our kids safe!

Steffanie - posted on 04/06/2010

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Put the computer in a high traffic area in your home, and let her know you will be monitoring her. You can also put child safety installed on the computer... I would limit her usage by putting a password yourelf, a caregiver, or your husband has so she can only be on line when your home and can monitor what she is doing online. Explain to her about sexual pretadors that prey on young boys and girls. If she had any accounts online such as Facebook, ect, make sure you have the password and can check on what she is doing. There are also dramas that explain about sexual predators... Being vigilante, making clear rules on internet use, and using passwords, ect should make it a little easier for all of you.

Karolyn - posted on 04/06/2010

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Have you sat down and explained to your daughter that the internet, although very informative and entertaining can be a very dangerous thing? We have a very strict rule in our house about internet. My children 13, 10, and 8 are not allowed to use the internet unless my husband or I are in the room to monitor what is being said. The BIGGEST rule we have is that we have all the passwords to all of their email accounts. This means being vigilante and constantly monitoring these sites. We, have sat down and talked to our kids on an age appropriate level about the dangers of the internet and we are the parents and our biggest job is keeping them safe. I suggest if your daughter cannot follow the rules, that she lose computer privileges until she proves she can be trusted. It is a tough stand, but my 13 yr old is ok with it all and our younger 2 know no difference.

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