Vicki - posted on 06/23/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
I have two daughters, ages 7 and 5 years. My 7 year old looks a lot like me and people often comment on how alike we look. My 5 year old looks absolutely nothing like me and nothing like her sister. They are both beautiful, but I can't even stretch my imagination to find something about them that looks similar. My 5 year old looks like my husband when he was little, but not much like how he looks now. People also comment on how my little one looks nothing like me and nothing like her sister. These comments seem to upset her, although I know they are in no way meant in a negative way. She worries that people will think she's not my daughter or that she's adopted.
I've tried a few things. I've told her that everyone knows she's my daughter, but also there wouldn't be anything wrong if someone who didn't know us thought she was adopted. I've said that mommies who adopt babies love them every bit as much as mommies who grow them in their bellies and they're every bit as much 'family'. I've said that I wouldn't change a single thing about the way she looks because she's beautiful. That I love that I have two girls who look so different and unique but are both so beautiful. Still, occasionally she curls up on me and tells me she wishes we looked more alike.
Any ideas? I don't want it to upset her, but I can't stop people commenting on it, it's natural. It's a bit unusual for two siblings with the same mother and father to look as different as they look. I absolutely love it, really. I can't look at my oldest and know what my little one will look like in two years, watching her grow will be completely new. We have never had a problem looking back at old pictures and knowing which daughter is in the picture, it's obvious (from the moment my second was born, she looked totally different from my first).