Dealing with a tween

Anna - posted on 07/19/2012

Mine is 9 and can't even get mine to clean hers, but I made a rule that she can't go any place and nobody can come over until it's cleaned.

Valerie - posted on 07/17/2012

To get my tween to clean her room, I propose a reward like I'll give her $5 or $10 or a sleepover o a trip to the mall. It gets her cleaning like crazy.

Denise - posted on 10/07/2009

join the club! you are so not alone! I just take things she likes away. No computer, tv etc.

Rachael - posted on 10/07/2009

I tell and tell my SD to clean her room (she lives with us) she knows that after a month of telling everything gets thrown away and she gets 3 outfits to wear. The special keepsakes get put away in a bin but everything else. Goes to the thrift shop or the dumpster. but I'm just a big meanie :))

Jen - posted on 10/07/2009

Oh ugh, that's something I need to work on with my girls who aren't even tweens yet. lol. Organizing bins etc did not work. Book shelves etc..no. One suggestion I've been given by other mother's, is to reduce the stuff they own. Cut down on the clothing they have. May work for my girls, because I'm sure they still had winter clothing or old clothing in that room taking up space. Right now, I could take all the summer clothes away. If I took out 75% of the junk in there, they'd have less to make a mess with.

With my 11 year old son; when he outright told me "no" to cleaning the kitchen once...and only once...I told him his bedroom is now mine. Its our house, we pay the bills..we don't have to allow him THAT bedroom etc. He can sleep on a bed in the basement. I gave his room to one of his sister's. The boy cleaned fast, and got his room back after wards. It was..or seems to be a harsh reaction...but it was his first out-right "no" to us, and I don't want him to get in the habit of saying that to us. Our basement isn't horrendous at all either...I loved a basement bedroom as a kid..but hey..it worked on my son.

Amanda - posted on 10/07/2009

If this includes her dirty laundry on the floor...well don't do her laundry. she will have to clean and do her laundry when she has nothing to wear. Worked on mine. took a couple weeks and her room is now approachable. Still not 100% but it's a start!

Burnie - posted on 10/07/2009

Thank you Lori, I am really dealing with an angry daughter and sometimes I think that I'm the bad guy. I really appreciate your advice cause I will try it out..be blessed and lots of hugs going your way..

Lori - posted on 10/07/2009

I wish I had a good answer for this but all I can say is I feel you pain. My daughter argues with me about everything from doing her homework to cleaning her room and all else. I am firm with her and if all else fails I set a deadline to have a chore done with a consequence for not doing it in the timeframe. For instance, she may lose her telephone (gasp) privileges for a day or two for not cleaning her room. Sometimes this works. Good luck ::hug::