Do you reward your child for a good report card?

Candi - posted on 04/11/2011 ( 173 moms have responded )

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I'm trying to figure out if I should reward my child for her good grades on her report card. I was rewarded when I was in school, but I always got a new toy. To me, this seems like a bad idea, as she gets plenty of toys at Christmas and her birthday. My child is in Kindergarten and is top of her class, just like last year in pre-K. I feel that she needs to be rewarded for her hard work and great job. Do any of you reward your child? If so, how? Thanks!

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Danielle - posted on 04/24/2011

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Yes it's ok to reward her. But best not to do it with things. Reward her with praise and maybe her favorite meal or dessert. If you start giving her toys every time she does something good, she will come to expect it all the time and may become spoiled.

Janene - posted on 04/24/2011

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Hi Candi, I do reward my child as it inspires them to higher heights. We decide on a overall grade and if she gets it she gets something useful for school like a watch, a nice backpack,etc. No toys as these are for birthdays and Christmas, as you said.

Heather - posted on 04/23/2011

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i forgot to mention in my post that we take the kids to dairy queen for ice cream on the last day of school. my mother started to do this when i started school and we have continued that tradition and we always have family members join us and have fun.

Heather - posted on 04/23/2011

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hey candi, i dont reward any of my kids for a good report card. my 3rd grader which is my oldest, she gets a breakfast with us at school that the principle puts on for all 3 through 5th graders with As and Bs. i feel that her seeing her report card and knowing you are proud and praising her with kind words and yourlove is reward enough. i also let my kids know that if they do good in school they get to keep doing their afterschool activities with 4h.

Rhonda - posted on 04/22/2011

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yes you can it can be a no $ cost .like go to park or play a game of their chose etc

Kat - posted on 04/21/2011

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I rewarded my kids and now grandkids... it's like getting a bonus from your boss for really good work. The reward doesn't have to be monetary (though my girls were very competative and enjoyed the extra allowance). You can do something fun together that your child enjoys doing, like volunteering meals-on-wheels and letting her carry the food to the client or ring the door bell and visit for a few minutes. Or have a Daddy-daughter activity date or the family go to a movie together... make it special and have fun with your child. My daughters are teacher's too, and they reward their kids.

Candi - posted on 04/21/2011

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Oh yes, I forgot to mention. She is involved in Karate and they reward her for a good report card. She gets a gold star for A honor roll or a silver for A/B honor roll. Which I think this is a good idea too. She loves the idea of their star program, which also has many other color stars for community service, fundraisers and volunteering at events.

Candi - posted on 04/21/2011

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Thank You all for the replies. It has all been helpful. I can see both sides to it this way, which helps a lot. Thank You so much.

Miriam - posted on 04/21/2011

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HI! MY NAME IS MIRIAM COLON.YES,I DO REWARD MY CHILD BECAUSE SHE HAVE GOOD GRADES.I DONT SEE,NOTHING WRONG YOU GIVE A TOY OR ANYTHING YOU FEEL TO GIVE AS A GIFT TO YOUR CHILD.JUST LET HER KNOW FOR DOING HER GOOD JOB AT SCHOOL,SHE EARNED. WHAT YOU GIVE HER. THATS MY PERSONAL OPINION.TAKE CARE.

Trudy - posted on 04/21/2011

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My eldest son does very well in school. A reward can be you can choose what I (or we) cook for dinner tonight, new stationery with a $ limit or choice of playground for a play. Why not encourage good education.

Chantel - posted on 04/21/2011

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Rewards are a great idea. I tell my kids that school is their "job" so they get paid for it. Currently I have a 5th grader, 4th grader, 1st grader (and one that will start next year). The 4th and 5th graders get actual grades (like A, B, C) so on their report cards (4 times a year) they get $5 for A, 2.50 for B, and 0 for a C, they also have to pay me 2.50 for a D and 5 for an F (both are A/B students). The 1st grader doesn't get "grades" she gets S+, S, & S- so she gets to pick a dinner spot for the family on report card day. If I want them to take school serious and I tell them that it's their jobs I feel they need to be paid for it. Just my thoughts :)

EDIE - posted on 04/21/2011

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hi there !!! my lil guy is also in kindergarten... his report cards have also been excellent... so yes i do reward him.. we take him to his favorite place to eat and always let him pick the restaurant.. i want him to feel like what he is doing is so good he deserves to be treated special... i do also get him a small inexpensive toy for appreciation. he is doing so well and i feel its always nice to be appreciated for hard work and effort...if you do something great at work , it always makes you happy when someone recognizes your efforts...

Jari - posted on 04/21/2011

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Take the time to look at your both your child's report card and any work brought home. Congratulate and approve any and all acheivements and through the year and getting your attention and approval fills just about any childs heart to bursting. If you feel more is reqired, I'd wait for the final year end report and then give a larger reward.

Sara - posted on 04/21/2011

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Is she doing well in school because she like and enjoys it? Or because she feels she has to please you? If she is enjoying it I think there is nothing wrong with taking her out for lunch or a milkshake to say "Hey I'm glad you are liking school so much - let's celebrate!". But if she feels she has to please you the rewarding her will put even more pressure on her and instead I'd take a more relaxed approach and just let her know you are interested in what she is doing and would love to keep sharing thoughts.

Sherry - posted on 04/21/2011

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My 10 year old gets "lego dollars" and my 9 year old gets "craft dollars", these are for As or for grades that they have worked their tails off to improve. (They don't necessarily have to use them for legos or crafts...it just keeps them separate)

Kimberly - posted on 04/21/2011

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not exactly. I dont reward my kid for behavior that i expect, but i will take a privelege or tooy away if he doesnt hold up his end of responsibilities. for example i buy things or give him special treats all the time just for fun. if he misbehaves somehting that he likes most might be put in time out for 2 weeks if its really bad. so Owen has an ipod touch that he likes to play games on, if he were to get a grade that wasnt his best, i might first find out why, if its because he wasnt trying or being lazy, then i would take the games away for 2 weeks explaining that he should use that time to study instead...when he gets his grades back up or if the 2 week time elapses before i know i might test him on it and f he does well we make a schedule that can help keep it in check like a probation period and then go from there.

Tana - posted on 04/21/2011

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Yes, I reward with a treat that they don't usually get (candy bar or such) or for my oldest I give him cash he can put in his Savings Account. He is nine and is saving money for stuff.

Joyce - posted on 04/21/2011

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Nope I do not! I want them to work hard to earn grades they are proud of not to earn a toy or money.

Sarah - posted on 04/21/2011

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I think a small reward, but it doesn't have to be something bought, shows that you value the effort they make and it shows that you care about what they do. I usually make a big deal about letting my daughters plan a special day that we can spend together baking at home or for a picnic in the park or a trip to the seaside. I don't usually buy them anything but spending quality time with them and providing opportunities to talk about how well they are doing boosts their self esteem and encourages them to maintain their hard work.

Hailey - posted on 04/21/2011

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With my daughters last report card we celebrated with a trip to Mcdonalds for tea, the time before that we went to an amusement park for the day. Like the girls have said it doesnt need to be a toy to reward them anything will do

Dionne - posted on 04/20/2011

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I didn't start rewarding my son with money until he was in a grade that starting using A, B, etc...and I choose not to reward for O's & S's. But before that I would treat him to a movie or something like that and he really enjoyed that and looked forward to it.

Carol - posted on 04/20/2011

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I didn't reward my children because I didn't get rewarded for good grades at school, but a suggestion to you would be instead of getting her a new toy since she gets toys for her birthday and Christmas why not take her to her favortie restaraunt for getting good grades. Or my 2nd ex-mother-in-law would reward my daughter with money for her "A"s but since your daughter is so young maybe what you could do is if you have a college fund started for her already when she gets good grades put that money in her college fund and then let her know about it or you could open for her a special savings account and take her money for the goood grades and put it in her savings account and let her save it for something very special that she wants to buy like a new bike.

Catherine - posted on 04/20/2011

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Cash is what their grandmother sends them and I absolutely believe in rewarding them!!They also have been all A/honor roll consistently, and I believe this just shows them that in life, hard work is rewarded:)...have a great holiday weekend!

Cassandra - posted on 04/20/2011

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Well for me we get a weeky folder with the tests in it. For every 100 he gets a dollar. For every F he has to give me a dollar

LaTasha - posted on 04/20/2011

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Many parents post that they don't reward their kids and then they go into a full description on how they reward their kids @_@
A reward comes in many different ways, so I'm kinda confused with what everybody's definition of a reward is...
We have to remember that if your child is maintaining a "C" at school, then your child is learning at an average pace. If your child is getting an "A", this means the teacher believes your child is performing above average. If your child receives an "A", your child is putting forth extra effort than is required. So they are in essence going above and beyond what is expected.
Doesn't matter what type of reward you give them (praise, commendation, monetary, hugs and kiss) as humans they are expecting something in return. I teach my children that they reap what they sew. Any time a human does something commendable... They are expecting someone to notice. Depending on how that child is raised... That determines what he is expecting from those that love him. A good grade from a teacher is the teacher's opinion of how the student is performing and in a way the teacher's reward. I reward my children at home for going above and beyond at school, with their spiritual work, and at home (behavior, chores, responsibilities). They never know what to expect because it's always something different. My children do not expect gifts for government holidays, but they do know that when they are working their hardest at whatever they do... It will not go unnoticed.
Instilling in our children the right morals and ethics IS a parents responsibility whether they reward their children or not. The reward is the cherry on top! ;-D
Some children get bad/or good grades because they have bad teachers, so using the school's point system isn't always the best either. As parents we should be looking for personal achievement in our children at all times.
Comparing children to adults being in a work place or having a job is also a difficult thing to do.

Sindi - posted on 04/20/2011

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I do not. My son has had a great report all seven years been in school, I always praise him, but do not reward, as it is his job to do well in school.

Karen - posted on 04/20/2011

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Great question, Candi. Personally, I reward my youngest child for his hard work daily with praise & recognition. It is the effort itself that is worthy of that. Likewise, I would not feel comfortable rewarding him for a lack of effort, even if he received a good grade on his report card (say, for a subject that just came easily to him). I would feel much better rewarding him for the greater effort it took for him to achieve a lesser grade, in other words. Also, do you have other children? If you reward for A grades for your daughter at the top of her class, how would you reward her sibling(s) if difficulty or a learning disability were to befall them? Just some food for thought. I'm sure you know what works best for your family. Good luck & congratulations to your daughter for being a bright and eager student! :)

Lisa - posted on 04/20/2011

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I have a 7 year old and I used to think a toy was the solution, but like you, she had so many already that the toy really wasn't appreciated except for a few days then into the toy box it went. I decided this year to reward her with special outings like park playtime, a picture to remember for her memory book, or one of her favorite things to do like swimming on a school day.

Chelsey - posted on 04/20/2011

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For every good grade my son gets we pay him 1 dollar and it seems to work out :) makes him work harder

Sangeeta - posted on 04/20/2011

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My daughter is 5 yrs and has started loving books.
To reward her, i take her to a book store and tell her either my budget or the number of books she can pick. She is free to choose books for her own choice.
I remember getting toys for her earlier but she would get bore with them after a week. With books its a different story all together. She keeps them in her book shelves and read them when ever she feels like. there are times when she picks a book that she bought 1 yr back.

Monica - posted on 04/20/2011

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We pay $5 an A. If you have children that might fall into the B range, I'd reward maybe $2-3 for a B. As a child I would use this money to buy Christmas gifts for my family, save some, and have some money for me. We pay our children for the A's on their report card. School is their job and they get paid for doing well at their job- just like moms and dads get paid for their jobs. It teaches a real life principle. You work hard- you get paid.

Candace - posted on 04/20/2011

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My daughter has learning problems so we do not reward her yet but our 10 year old son does not have these problems so we do reward him. He only gets to play his video grames on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday but if he has a good report card then he can play it on report card after homework is done. We also reviw the grades so he knows what our thoughts are about his grades. It has worked so far. My cousin told me that if her 9 year old fails a class then he has to work in a schoolwork book for the next 6 week period.

Diana - posted on 04/20/2011

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We have always made sure that our son knows his that just like Daddy and I have to do well in our jobs; that he has to do well at his job...which is school. He's turning 8 next week and we have always made a big deal at great grades and said that we knew he could do better when he didn't. He's very bright...he knows it...we know it...the teachers tell him....so when he doesn't do his best....he hears about it. Now each kid is different and responds different...so you have to do what is right for each kid. When he was little he got tons of praise...a special lunch or dinner...a movie. Now that he's older, sometimes he gets $....sometimes he wants a book...or word search puzzle...or a workbook fromt he teacher store. But here's how much it's all connected with him. His last report card he had gotten quite a few VGs and a few Os (which isn't bad...and we told him that)...but the times before that he had gotten just about all Os. Yesterday he came home with his report card and said to me...Mommy! Wait till you see the how good my report card is! Yesterday was my husband's bday and he was so proud of himself that he presented it to my husband as his bday present. He was thrilled to surprise my husband with such a great report card on his bday...he didn't expect anything for doing well. He enjoyed seeing my husband make such a big deal about his grades. So each kid is different....so can each time be different as well. But yes....praise and reward of some sort I would encourage!

Daphnee - posted on 04/20/2011

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I have a son in 3rd grade and we give him money! $5 for every A, $4 for every B, $3 for every C, $2 for every C, $1 for every D. My son made all A's and B's on his 1st report card this year and this has been his best year yet so we thought this was a good way to reward him. You could also take her someplace you wouldn't normally take her on a regular basis, say for example, the zoo or to the circus if it comes to your town around the time she gets her grades.

George-Ann - posted on 04/20/2011

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My children have anxiety and need to rewarded for overcoming their worries. I have special time with mom baking, going to the movies, a trip to the mall, a special trip to go for a bike ride like some where you have to take the car to get to. Anything that is special to my child.

Julie - posted on 04/20/2011

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I reward both of my children for good grades. I don't reward them monetarily (great grandma does though). It's always something fun that we do as a family. Dinner at their favorite restaurant, movie theater, museums, etc. If their grades drop, there is also a repercussion. My sister in law thought I was crazy that my son had been lectured for grades dropping when he was still on the honor roll. They need to learn responsibility and the importance of an education,

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2011

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I give my children a money scale for their grades. A=$5 B=$2.50 C=$0 D=owe mom $2.50 E=owe mom $5 we settle up at the end of the year and they go shopping for what they want ;) it works pretty well.

Dianne - posted on 04/20/2011

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I gave my little one a new justin beiber t-shirt she really wanted for having good marks on her report card :)

Misty - posted on 04/20/2011

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yes we do reward our kids for good grades. we hv 3 but my youngest doesnt start till this august and our son makes alls A's and our daughter struggels in math when she doesnt do well she doesnt get rewarded and watches our son get a gift certificate. we always give them certificates to musuems,movies anything that is fun and/or educational...it motivates our daughter to do better

Ana - posted on 04/20/2011

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I personally do not. I reward verbally letting them now how proud I am of them for all their hard work, I feel it puts to much pressure on them at such a young age. If they were older probably around middle school then I probably would feel differently. My kindergartner is like yours and is also at the top of his class, but 2nd grader is struggling and it has nothing to do with his efforts, he:s the most well behaved kid in his class and he works very hard at home and school, he just learns at a slower pace. I feel if I reward solely on grades it would make him feel like he's not good enough and lower his self esteem.

Jen - posted on 04/20/2011

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When we were kids, we were rewarded with pizza and ice cream when the grade cards came. Mind you, that was BIG, we didn't go into restaurants that often, and the ice cream place was high end ice cream. When my son was old enough, we started this with him too, it's just a little harder, as when I was growing up, the places were next to each other, and with my son, where I live, we have to drive to both. He does know though that it's a treat, and he shows the grade card to the server! It's working so far!

Loretta - posted on 04/20/2011

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Yes I do. My daughter earned a Nintendo DS for her straight A's. My son a PSP, which he has since had taken away for not maintaining the A's.

Amy - posted on 04/20/2011

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Yes! In the real world if you do well at your job you get a raise. We don't give them toys but we do it different every time. Sometimes we give them money for 100 on a test ($1). $5 for an a on report card. Other times well take them out for ice cream. Usually that's if all 3 of them earned it so no one feels left out. Or if one doesn't earn it they may have to work in the yard to earn that money for their ice cream. :) as long as it's not the same child doing that over and over again. My boss has taken me out to lunch to thanks me for a good job. I think we should reward our kids for hard work. And the message will get across if you don't just give them whatever they want whenever they want.

Lotus - posted on 04/20/2011

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Yes, I do reward my kids for their monthly grades. It's like an encouragement if they make more that 95% I give them a special bonus added to their monthly allowance.
If less than a certain level I deduct some also.
It actually works and encourage them to study harder.
Eventhough it's related to money...but the conclusion is : they study harder; aim accomplished.

Dawn - posted on 04/19/2011

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I reward my son with something small usually something under $10 in value if he has a good report card. Especially if his grades have improved from the previous marking period.

Rebecca - posted on 04/19/2011

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I do reward my son. He is in 2nd grade and for his last report card, which was straight a's, he got a new book. It was a book of trains and he was more excited over it than he was any toy. It doesn't have to be toys. My son loves trains so I based his reward on what means the most to him. We all deserve a reward now and then.

Bibia - posted on 04/19/2011

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I do! All the time! I give them small/simple treats for a job well done... kids love it and it's a good motivation for them... iask my child what reward she would like but i emphasize the limits of what we can buy for her...she ends up getting excited to receive a prize and yet, it;s not too heavy on the pocket. we all love to be appreciated right?...

Nichole - posted on 04/19/2011

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I used to get $5 for an A. I now have three kids 8, 6 and 5, so I can't afford that much cash-LOL, I take them to the toy store and they can pic out something if it's an outstanding report car, if it's b/c range they have to all pool together and get something they can all use. Our last report card they got B's and pooled together for a rocket.

Rose - posted on 04/19/2011

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I have always rewarded my kids. My older one (when he deserved it was money or activities) My younger one is a saver and good buyer online, he is 12 now. I usually give him money. All a's equals $20. He doesn't get anything for less, never had less. This trimester he asked to go see a new movie in theatres instead of cash. We had a great time. It is all about the child and praising them for their accomplishments. Your child is young I suggest setting up an account for her and depositing at least half of all cash (if you decide to go that way) so she can see year after year what she has accomplished.It has worked great for my son and now puts in about 90%.This includes b-day and x-mas money. Just remember if she can find a good deal for something she wants let her get it. She has earned it.

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