Do you reward your child for a good report card?

Candi - posted on 04/11/2011 ( 173 moms have responded )

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I'm trying to figure out if I should reward my child for her good grades on her report card. I was rewarded when I was in school, but I always got a new toy. To me, this seems like a bad idea, as she gets plenty of toys at Christmas and her birthday. My child is in Kindergarten and is top of her class, just like last year in pre-K. I feel that she needs to be rewarded for her hard work and great job. Do any of you reward your child? If so, how? Thanks!

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Barbara - posted on 04/15/2011

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No! Not with money or gifts. It kills their intrinsic motivation! Kids want to do well just because they want to do their best. And when they're little learning is fun and feels good. Once you start paying, they aren't doing their best for the right reasons. They're doing it so they can get paid. It also encourages materialism. Some positive attention will go a lot farther - and keep them motivated for life.

Sherri - posted on 04/15/2011

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Sharon they do they get good grades. That is there reward for a job well done.

Candi - posted on 04/15/2011

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I think it's appropriate for a small reward. Nothing outrageous of course. My daughter saves money like you wouldn't believe, so if she didn't want to go out, then I could definitely give the money I would spend on that special outing. She is normally happy with just a trip out for ice cream or if there is a movie playing that she wants to see, then I take her to that as a reward. I'm so glad to see each others comments and hear your opinions on this topic. I know some of my friends, feel the same that you do, about it's their job and there is no reward. I feel that I give my best at work and have gotten a raise or promotion. I know she tries super hard even here at home trying to learn things that they haven't covered in school yet. I help her all the time learning how to spell words longer than 3 or 4 letters or even sound them out while reading. I see how happy it makes her when I recognize a job well done. Everyday there are hugs and kisses for the papers she brings home that have smiley faces or say 100/A+. Thank You all for the advice that has been given. It's been very helpful. I see and understand both sides to this. Love all the ideas that have been offered.

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"Do you get rewarded for going to work everyday or being a mother everyday?"
Well, yes, you do get paid to go to work everyday. If doing well at school is a kids "job" then isn't it only fair that they receive some recognition of a job well done?

Christine - posted on 04/14/2011

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I guess to each his own.But boy in some ways being a kid is alot tougher than when i was one.Much more pressure on them to succeed and keep up with the Joneses so to speak.Not such a carefree easy world anymore.I mean,look at all the kooks coming out of the woodwork now that we have the internet and social media .I think a little something is in order but that's just my opinion.

Sherri - posted on 04/14/2011

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Do you get rewarded for going to work everyday or being a mother everyday?

No school is there job there is no reward for doing what your are supposed too. I have never paid them to do what they are supposed to do and doing it to the best of there ability. There reward is those high grades.

Shauna - posted on 04/14/2011

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ha. I am happy to see tis topic. my husband and I have been having this discussion. I was rewarded for good grades a s a kid. I think some sort of reward or recognition is of value to recognize efforts. I look at effort marks not just grades. I like to give money for A's and E(excellent) efforts but my hubby disagrees. so for now (our oldest is still young only gr2) we take her for a special outing like dinner and a movie and lots of praise. But I agree for $ for good report card since my kids save money and will use their own $$ for special things or clothes they want.

Autumn - posted on 04/14/2011

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We take our son to the dollar store, and let him pick out small things. Or, we give him a trip to a place he wants to go, like the museum.

Christine - posted on 04/13/2011

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well,rewarding a kindergartener is a little extreme unless its just praise.However i do feel that as the child gets into higher grades and is working hard to get and keep good grades it can be motivational for them to receive some rewards for hard work.my son has been getting honor roll certificates the last two terms(he has ADHA so he does have to work a little harder to concentrate on tasks) so i feel this is motivating to him to give some rewards for keeping up the good work.It doesn't have to be something big.It could be a visit to the zoo,museum,swimming with some friends or that special game they've had their eye on. when you think about it,we're rewarded at work for a job well done.Be it a promotion or raise so why not?

Kristin - posted on 04/13/2011

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I expect him to have good grades so I don't reward him for something I expect him to do. However, If he shows improvement say from a B to an A or what have you I will do something special with him like a trip to the movies or something he enjoys.

Jen - posted on 04/13/2011

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I tell my kids that school is their "job". I pay them 5$ for every A, E (excellent), 5, or High. I don't pay anything for a grade that isn't the best grade you can get. This has gotten expensive for me, I once had to pay my daughter $280.00 :(! Was it worth it for a perfect report card? Yes. I know she worked really hard to get it. And half of what she makes always goes in her her savings account. She can do as she pleases with the rest.

Eva - posted on 04/12/2011

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Rewarding is good when a child does a good job even just at home. We just have to be careful with the rewards that we give..... for me i treat my son to a movie and an afternoon at the mall/beach after every exam (they have 2 every term)....regardless of his performance because i know that he does his best. Then we look at his results together with the father and congratulate him with warm hugs and kisses. i believe he feels real good after that.

Meena - posted on 04/12/2011

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Of course u should award her for her efforts...it could be eating out or call her friends for a small party or buy her some educational item which will be useful for her. I always award my children when they do well. It's like encouraging them for their next encouragement...

Merenda - posted on 04/12/2011

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Compensation seems to motivate some kids, but it may send the wrong message -- and that praise and encouragement are just as important.If you want to avoid cash payouts but still reward your kids for their successes, consider experiences instead, such as dinner out or a special trip.Experiences contribute more to lasting happiness than stuff does. Shared outing takes a special and lasting place in your child's memories.

Kalpana - posted on 04/12/2011

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Rewarding is fun don't you think? it's nice to be noticed for effort put in. My boy gets a lollipop every week he gets all correct on his spelling. He is not allowed sweets otherwise, he goes mad on the sugar.

Jane - posted on 04/12/2011

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My daughter never needed a material reward. All she wanted was for me to notice and congratulate her. However, she has wanted to be a doctor since she was 8 years old and is driven to make that goal. She is now at university as a pre-med.

My son is a different story. He sees no point in school, hates to do homework, and would rather do anything except the basic work required of him. I do sometimes promise him a reward for a specific goal. An example was if he did not fail any subjects I would get him a new video game. Typically he fails at least two, but finally this spring he passed everything with at least a C. If he brings every subject up to at least a B I will upgrade his computer so he can play some new games.

It depends a lot on the child and how they perceive school.

Candi - posted on 04/11/2011

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My grandparents rewarded me with money. I got $2 for every A $1 for every B. Nothing for anything any less. I feel that maybe a trip out for ice cream, to chuck e cheese or putt-putt is something to reward her with. Just so she knows I recognize her effort and I'm proud of her. Last year in Pre-K, they didn't send home report cards. They done state tests to see their improvement, since there was only 18 children and they monitored their learning experience. But, this year with her report card and her teacher brags on her so much and uses her as a tutor for the other kids, I don't want her to feel like it's unnoticed. Thank you for the advice. It's very helpful.

Amanda - posted on 04/11/2011

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I reward my children, but for A's only. I let them get a used game (new games are for Christmas & bdays) or they can have the $$ I would spend on the game (both of them save $$) I see nothing wrong with rewarding your child for a job well done. :)

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I never got straight A's at all but if I put in a noticeable effort and showed improvement I would be rewarded. It was a good incentive to keep up the good work.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2011

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Kids have one job...do well in school ..I never got rewarded for my straight A's in school. I was expected to get them.

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It doesn't have to be a toy. It can be an outing to the park or out for a milkshake. Something small, but special.

Shannintipton - posted on 04/11/2011

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Hi Candi,
I think of it just like you would at your job. You do a good job you get a raise or bonus. Just a thought{:+)
shannin tipton

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