Extremely frustrated with "fashion" on young school girls!

Michele - posted on 10/14/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 9 yr old step daughter and a 6 yr old daughter and the "fashion" for them is so extremely provocative. Am I the only one feeling this way? I grew up in a home where we didn't have a lot of money so I wore clothes from hills and kmart. I want my girls to have the nice things but when we go to Justice and Limited too I feel like the clothes are just way to revealing for them. Skirts and shorts showing off everything and tiny little tops... What do I do? I want them to be happy but i'm afraid of what these clothes are showing. I'm a young mom so I'm asking for some advice. Thank you!

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Polly - posted on 06/01/2013

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no i see it all the time and i too get so frustrated. i have 2 girls and i go to thrift shops all the time to find cute clothes that are not so revealing

Brynnen - posted on 10/18/2009

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I have a 12 year old and a 9 year old. The clothes that are made for their age and size is ridiculous. I often will purchase their clothing at LLBean or Old Navy will have more appropriate clothing as well as Sears. They don't need to be dressing as if they were 25. Heck, I didn't even dress that way at 25.

Michelle - posted on 10/17/2009

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My 5 year old wears leggings with her skirts and dresses to school. That way she gets to pick out things she likes and I get to cover her up! It's a nice compromise. I find the Target, Old Navy and The Childerns Place all have thing that we can agree on.

Julie - posted on 10/17/2009

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The problem that I have with retail stores is that the clothes are made for skinny girls. And husky boys. Not all little girls are toothpicks and not all boys are overweight. My daughter isn't skinny but my son is. The clothes for girls are low rise and skinny legs. The shirts are short and tight. The clothes for boys are mainly husky especially at JCPenny's. With my daughter she LOVES skorts. My husband and I do not allow her to wear skirts unless it's a skort. I do a dress check when I buy her dresses. She bends over and touches her toes, if I see her panties, then I don't buy the dress. Same goes for pants and shorts. If she bends over and I can see her panties in the back or through her legs, then we don't get them. Which is very hard finding clothes that meet the "bend over" test. With sex offenders out in this sick world, I go the extra mile to make sure that my daughter is covered up. My daughter LOVES Target! You don't always have to shop at Limited Too or any other mall store to find nice clothes for kids.

Kasha - posted on 10/16/2009

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I've always allowed my children to express themselves through thier clothing..even when their choices hurt my eyes! I found the key was to encourage them to find themselves and not to just be a carbon copy of what they see around them. I have a 9 yr old daughter and I have discussed modesty with her. She understands how you dress affects the way people percieve you. I can't tell you that has led her to dress in a consertive manner. She dresses punk:) I get strange looks for allowing my 9 yr old to wear lots of black, chain belts, and big boots. But she wears leggings with her skirts, no holes in her clothes. She is happy to have found a look that turns heads without making her look like a tramp, and I'm happy that she has no desire to expose her body to look "cool". Try having an open discussion about values and perceptions and then let them have fun finding their style!



P.S. Most of the clothes we bought to create her punk style are from Walmart..Garanimals, believe it or not!

Sarah - posted on 10/14/2009

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I am also a young mom and we seem to have grown up similar. I have an 8 year old girl and I DO NOT buy the things from Justice and Limited Too. I get her things mainly from the Childrens Place and JC Penneys. They are much more conservative. The principal at her school noticed the clothing being provacative and innappropriate too and actually instilled a dress code for an elementary school that banned spaghetti straps, racer back tanks, short shorts, and too short T shirts, Also, no skirts without leggings. It is pretty sad when you have to tell elementary school parents that their girls are dressing too revealing. Shame on the stores that sell that. All I think in my mind when I see those things are the men that look for things like that. Truth of the matter is we live in a sick world and those kinds of clothes do not provoke bad things but who wants men or teenage boys looking at our little girls like that? I am with you, just explain to them what self respect is and let them know you are not saying no to be mean. I am sure a lot of other mothers feel the same about it.

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