Facebook for 10 year old?

Lori - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 141 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 10 yrs old and a lot of her friends the same age have facebook pages. Should I let her get one? I would be the one to set it up and block certain things.

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Tanya - posted on 08/09/2010

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I totally agree with you Danyele , that is what I think too my daughter uses the computer for research for home work only , I allow her on education city too ,to help boost her maths , english , science , & languages .

Danyele - posted on 08/09/2010

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My girl is just 11 and sorry to say but i say no she will have internet access at school and thats enough she only needs supervised time at home for school work on computer she needs to take time to grow up theres no rush to thats what i tell my daughter

Laura - posted on 08/08/2010

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My son has a fb account and has for aprox 2 months now, so far so good, he checks it maybe twice a week. Mostly he enjoys the games on fb. We set up the account together & i put in the necessary "safety" precautions I deemed as reasonable and I have explained he isnt to add anyone as a friend unless he knows them personally...when he has a question he comes to me and asks. However i do sneak in from time 2 time and make sure all is well.

Tiffany - posted on 08/08/2010

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My son will be 11 tomorrow and he does have a Facebook page. I set it up, I know the password and I check it daily. His only friends on there are family, and he likes to correspond with them. Honestly though, he only signs on maybe once a week...maybe. It bores him as there is nothing much to do. He also has a cell phone because he and his little sister walk to and from school alone, and he uses it to talk with his dad...

Karen - posted on 08/08/2010

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I see a lot of negative responses out here - and that is to bad - because anything if put to use in a good positive way can be a useful learning tool. As I mentioned my son's biological father went mia before he was born - but now they keep in touch off and on - I have family spread out across the country and friends to - and he has the chance to keep in touch with them where he wouldn't otherwise. He has no idea what his account info is only I do, and he uses it on my computer not his. But if we keep thinking the worst it will happen - and it happens because people don't keep on top of what their kids are doing and whom they are talking to etc...take the extra time to go through the settings and secure it and don't let them have the info keep it to yourself and go from there. There are plenty of positive things out there - you just have to take the time to look for them and want to let your child grow a little.

Danielle - posted on 08/08/2010

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My daughter is 12,however, I do not advise letting any parent to authorize this. My opinion.. My child has friends that has on as well as myspace pages,even my nephew has one and he is 12 too BUT I will not allow my daughter to have one just bc other children have one. To me thats not reason enough to allow it,that shows that they should follow what others do vs Leading others. I personally just think they are too young for it. Ever let her create a MILLSBERRY Page? Its fun doll like,shopping activities for kids. My daughter and 7 yr old neice has that and Im rt beside them when they are on the computer playing it,even got myself one so that it doesnt seem as though they are missing out on so much since we all FB all the time.

Kari - posted on 08/08/2010

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I have learned through personal experiences that even when parents are monitoring things, there will be a time when you are not around. Not a safe bet. I understand that some people always give the benefit of the doubt to theri kids. Me, I trust my kids and I'm too good to be lied too, but its all the other weirddos and freaknics out ther that I don't trust. It would be a hard lesson learned if something happened to her. Let kids be kids without all this techno stuff. I understand this is the times , but at ten I had barbies and still rode a bike and wasn't even allowed to watch dirty dancing. Kids grow up faster than we'd like, let's let them be kids first.

Nichole - posted on 08/08/2010

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yeah i would i was gunna set one up for my nephew who is 11 but they said he was too yung

Trisha - posted on 08/08/2010

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My 12 year old wanted a facebook and I won't let her. I explained to her that to set up an account for her we would have to lie and we DO NOT lie about anything. I asked her if it was worth getting caught for lying and not being able to have a facebook page when she was of age. She agreed to wait :)

Julie - posted on 08/08/2010

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We just let my 11 yr old son have one. We don't use his real name, don't post a profile pic and the only friends he has are my hubby & me and a few close family members. He plays a few games and he wanted "neighbors" to play the games with.

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NO! If you allow a child under 13 to get a facebook page you are telling them that it is O.k. to sign a contract that says you are 13 when you are not. That is what you agree to when activating an account.

A child under 13 can definitely live without Facebook. Why open up the possibility of a prediter messaging them privately.

Many parents think that they have everything blocked while anyone with a Facebook account can send a private message to your child (one that does not appear on their wall, only in their private box).

Natalie - posted on 08/08/2010

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I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you monitor her while she is on it. I have a 8year old who has a page and i go on it everyday to see who is adding him as a friend. I do all the work for him he just wants to play games. He not intrested in anything else but the games. It's all up to you and you know your kids tell them there are rules to have a page if they don't follow them shout it down.

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2010

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i know kids younger then 10 who have facebook/myspace... i have kids that rang in the ages of 4 and 10... i WILL NOT let them have one. I think 15 or 16 is a better age, i think that kids need to be kids and go outside and play.. not be glued to the TV, Video Games, or the Computer... but maybe thats wear i am old fashioned...

Steph - posted on 08/08/2010

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Our dd wants one as well but now that I have read the replies it won't be happening. I won't lie to have my child get a Facebook page.

Thank you for asking the question.

Meena - posted on 08/08/2010

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Hi Lori, Meena here from Bangalore,India.My son is 12 yrs old and he also has an id on facebook. I have restricted it and monitor what he does on it. I think you can go ahead and get your daughter an id but make sure you restrict it and keep monitoring her activities on it.

Alyssa - posted on 08/08/2010

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My 5 yr. old has one~ I set him up 1 b/c he always moves my trees & plants in Farmville so I figured he'd stay off mine if he had his~ iu can make it completely private and only let close friends & family on :))

Tanya - posted on 08/08/2010

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My daughter is 9 in October she wants one because her friends have one , my husband & I have said no , because we do not think it is appropriate , not until she is 18 will she get a face book account , her friends have mobile's , but we have told her she will not get one until she starts comprehensive school , as a parent I think you have to do what is best to protecet your children , lots of school age children get bullied via text messages , you do not know who is on face book , so I would say no , but when she is 18 she can have an account .

Karen - posted on 08/07/2010

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I think that as long as a parent is involved, and you lock it down tight, and you keep control of things - it should be ok. My son has one - he found his biological father and wanted to get to know him and his wife...the rest are family on there...he doesn't know his login info only I do so I have control of when he is on there and so forth...it has been a great tool for him in the end - a way to learn and grow - perhaps a rare experience but it can happen.

Sharon - posted on 08/07/2010

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10yrs I think it is a bit young for them to have a facebook account, there is no need for them to socialice on the facebook. Maybe when they are 13 or 14 years old, a little bit more mature.

Tova - posted on 08/07/2010

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My almost 11 years old son has a facebook account and so my almost 10 years old daughter. I set their privacy up really high so that nobody can see their profile and personal infomation. I monitor their accounts all the time and know their password. My daughter goes on there just to play games. My son same but also most of his friends are on there. I make sure they only accept people they know and have majority of family members on there as well. I always keep checking their privacy section to make sure it stays that way. It's a great way to stay in contact with their friends through summer holidays and play games, that what they mostly go on for. :)

Amanda - posted on 08/07/2010

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both my 13 yr old and my 11 yr old have facebook accounts. i'm on their friends list and i pay attention to what they're up to. they also have to use my computer so if i have reason to be concerned i can check the history. but they're good kids and don't do anything stupid. my 11 yr old just talks to her school friends (handy in summer) and plays alot of the facebook games. my son is too interested in video games most of the time anyway to be on the computer. i'm more concerned with limiting his time doing that actually. especially since he's starting highschool next month.

Sarah - posted on 08/07/2010

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yes my 10yr old son has a facebook as long as u moniter it very closely she will be fine x

Stephanie - posted on 08/07/2010

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Besides being concered with the open dangers of Fb for girls at a critical age; my next condern is the fact that fb reqires the child to be 13 yrs of age before they sign up. Yes, many people we know allow their children to fudge their age so they can get on and be connected with their friends. But are we not trying to teach them to be honest at all times. Fudging about their age to get on fb isn't a good start. I will not consider my 11 yr. old twins to get one until they even meet fb's reqirements.

Ruth - posted on 08/07/2010

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I wouldent let them have one....However if there is a game/app they like I have it on my account.....My son is 5 and loves playing a fish game so I have it on my account and when he want's too play I set it up for him and when he is done he just leaves it for me too shut down, Mind you also I dont have anything on my facebook account I wouldent want my boy's see :)

Kathy - posted on 08/07/2010

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I have a 10 year old and I was going to allow him to get one. Just so he could keep in contact with his grandparents and aunt and uncles. But then it said you had to be 13 years old. He said"No that's ok, I can wait..I don't want to lie about my age.". I was so proud of him...I wasn't going to lie about his age either, but I am glad he said it first. I just think that would be the beginning of those little white lies...

Christine - posted on 08/07/2010

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NO! Federal law is 13 years of age. If you know someone under 13 that has Facebook they are breaking the law and should be reported. My Space is 14 years, and to have a You Tube account it's 14 too.

Leslie - posted on 08/07/2010

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I don't think that facebook is safe for children. There is another site called Togetherville and it's like a facebook for the younger set. I have my daughter on this and she loves it.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/07/2010

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No. You can add her friends to your list, and she can talk to them from there. If they don't want to say something that you can see, you don't want her to here it. I have an e-mail account set up, that only immediate family knows about for my almost 10 year old. We set it up this year because his grandparents travel a lot and that is the easiest way for him to talk to them.

Katie - posted on 08/07/2010

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That is a lot of energy wasted on something unimportant. Tell the child to go outside and play, make some art, take music, soccer, something besides connecting via virtual "friendships". Teach your child to actually make the friends they will later want to keep up with! fb, in my opinion, is for those of us who have friends and family we cannot connect with on a face to face basis (because we have kids, moved away after college, etc) ~ If you must monitor so very closely why don't you do the sharing for them and do the computer "activity" together rather than over their shoulder. Common Sense should overrule what a kid "wants"; they will want a lot but as a parent it is your job to say NO sometimes.

Katie - posted on 08/07/2010

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add 'childrens page' tab to your fb just like you would 'notes, boxes, music, causes, info, photos'

Anne - posted on 08/07/2010

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My daughter is 10 and has had her own fb page for a month or so. She signed up with one of my email addresses - so I know more about what's going on on her page than she does! All notifications, messages, friend requests etc come to me - then we sit for half an hour at night - after homework, together, on my computer, and go through her page and she can message her friends. It's a lot cheaper than phoning or texting, and if you set it up carefully and monitor what friends are doing, you can control it. She understands the dangers - she has an older brother of 20 who lectures her more often than I do about not giving out personal information - but to keep her from participating in something that is part of the world they live in seems useless- they'll sign up at a friend's house and sneak around behind your back - and then you have no way to control anything.

Michelle - posted on 08/07/2010

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Replying to Tia: You think it is important for your children to have what their friends have? Does this mean if your childs friend gets a Porcha for his/her birthday you are going to go out and buy your child one. Children need to learn to work for what they want and want what they work for. Not to expect to get everything they want just because their friends have it.

Tia - posted on 08/07/2010

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My daughter has just turned 7 and has had a facebook for 1 year now. I control it and check it reguarly to ensure no problems. She also knows that if she talks or adds anyone without asking me that her account will be deleted immedietly, no questions asked!! I am very strict on who she can have as friends and who can see her profile. She doesnt use her real name so the only people who can find her on facebook are those who she invites not the other way around. I think it's important for children to have what their friends have as much as possible otherwise they end up at a disadvantage. Good luck

Katie - posted on 08/06/2010

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I think not. That is EXACTLY what this group is for. Add her to your facebook ~ family and friends and wait until she is fluent in "adult" reading comprehension and writing; otherswise share pix and update with your facebook.

Christina - posted on 08/06/2010

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I think you'll know if you're child is ready for a facebook. I believe it's a lot safer than myspace and if you keep a close eye on what she's doing on the account all will be OK. Also, sit her down and explain the dangers of the internet; for instance people she doesn't know, spam, cyber bullying and such. My daughter has one and she's 5.

Alissa - posted on 08/06/2010

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I gave my some a facebook page and I monitor it the whole time he is on it. I only allow my child to converse with family members also. If he plays a game that has chat, we cut it off! Think about all the children that age with cell phones! I think that's the bigger concern! At least facebook is free!

Trinna - posted on 08/06/2010

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i will not let mine until she is 13...too many bad things happen to kids on the computer..yes yes i know everyone says they monitor but creeps still get through..

Jessica - posted on 08/06/2010

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I think its fine, my 7 year old has one, It's how she keeps in touch with her birth moms family and relatives that live out of state. She ins't allowed to have the password till she is 14 and she isn't allowed to be on it unless her dad or I are with her. I think as long as you monitor it closely its fine.

Keisha - posted on 08/06/2010

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No. I truly think this is a bad idea. I wouldn't let her get one if I were you. She is much much to young to be exposed to the things that pop up on facebook, whether it be the ads or the uncontrolled, unsupervised, undisciplined children that she may add as "friends" or by default will have access to because her "friends" have them as "friends". Don't do it. Computers should not be used for this purpose for a child of this age. At this age communication can be done with no problem over the phone whether it be family or friends.

Rachel - posted on 08/06/2010

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10.. no.. My almost 13 yr old son has one. And its just his friends and our family. My younger daughters use my acct for games and all the above is very supervised.

Jennifer - posted on 08/06/2010

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My girls ages 9 and 10 each have one... they are set to private which means no one but friends and/or family can see their profiles. I also don't have a photo of them on their profile... I have a landscape picture that was already on my computer for each of them. They also have togetherville which is like facebook for kids. I would have only had them on togetherville had I known about it sooner but.... togetherville doesn't have a chat option which is part of the appeal of facebook. The girls also know that they must get permission before approving any friend requests. They only play games and chat with their friends so I'm okay with it. I think that since your daughter already has some friends to chat with and if she knows the rules for using it, that it should be fine. I hope this helps you with your decision.



I wanted to add that I wasn't the one who set up the facebook pages for my girls... it was my SIL (without my permission) and believe me she got an earful from both my husband and I. But I felt like since I am now monitoring them and I have since blocked their profiles and they don't get on very often that I wouldn't punish them for their aunt's bad judgment.

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I don't think that a 10 year old needs to have a facebook page. There is to much on here that they don't need to see or do. My kids are on the computer enough, with me monitering them, and add a facebook page to it, they would never get off. My son, however does have a cell phone, and thats only to be used for er phone calls, when his over at a friends house or grandparents house and wants to come home, and during the school year so he can call me to let me know that him and his sister are home from school, and no I don't have a house phone.

Melanie - posted on 08/06/2010

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Thanks for posting this question. My 10 year old has been asking me for an account too.

Racheal - posted on 08/06/2010

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i just recently set up one for my 5 year old, who also has a cell phone. i think its a great way for him to feel "connected" to our family with out the need for us to call for him. he only can call me his dad and 911..it does have texting and i get sweet messages like i love you through out the day. :)

Laura - posted on 08/06/2010

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my 10yr old has one and im not saying all should but if you have a child with a good head on their shoulders and you set up the account and can monitor it some then i dont see why not. now the kids are on a faster track then us and if they can do it and it doesnt hurt i think let them so they keep up with modern technology.

Debra - posted on 08/06/2010

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I have the same challenge. However, I don't feel that just because everyone else has it she should have it too. Some things were not meant for kids and I think facebook is one of them. When you open that door... not only are you parenting your child but all the other children that are on that don't have that same parent to watch over them. A friend of mine is doing the exact thing... if you are spending more time on watching what they do on line and blocking all the stuff they see then maybe it is not the time for them to move forward with this. kids lead by their emotions... will they do something that as a kids is harmless but as it hits the net becomes something totally different.

Bilikis - posted on 08/06/2010

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The truth about technology these days'that,there're lots of good than evil.But unfortunately,the negativity gets more attention that the benefits.I don't think you can clearly say"she shouldn't use it or not".If you trust your daughter and committed to ensuring her"safety" on the web,it'd be a lot safer.I really get disturbed when I hear about child predators using the web to contact kids&all the ugly tales.Facebook is a "Social website" and honestly, a child can do better than get into this socializing means for now!
But then again,the choice is yours.No one can really tell you what to do.You need to weigh your options and decide what's best for your daughter.
Best wishes!

Suzanne - posted on 08/06/2010

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we have alowed our almost 10 year old to have it we check it regularly and he is not alowed to befreind anyone without our permission and we blocked out what we do not want him to have acsess to.we have family far away that facebook and email have given him the chance to get to know.and he understands lying about his age is bad and he otherwise does not do it.
besides we trust him to use his head

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