Grandmother needs help.

Shirl - posted on 08/25/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been raising my granddaughter for five years now. She is a bright and beautiful child. She recently turned nine and her personality has completely changed. She has gone from a loving, cheerful child to a sad and angry child. I try to talk to her about what she is feeling, but all I get is "You don't understand". I want to understand and help her with these emotions she is having. Any suggestions?

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A_m_b_hall - posted on 09/02/2013




Sounds like a tween girl to me, but you really should talk to her pediatrician about your concerns. She can help you to determine if this just normal puberty changes or a more serious concern.
Also note that you have a double generation gap, so you may have very differing outlooks on things she experiences, leading her to believe you don't understand. My mother was a teen in 1950s and though my friends and I were crazy, awful, etc. It wasn't until I was in college, that I saw that the vast majority of our behavior was typical to 1980s teens.

Enna - posted on 08/29/2013




She sounds like a mini-teenager. Does she have contact with either of her parents? Is she having any problems at school? Something is going on, and you are probably going to have to get it out of her. She needs support, and either she thinks she can handle it herself, or she's afraid (maybe that she'll get in trouble with you or someone else). Maybe it's her friends.
9 is not too early to start puberty either. It might be time to have a talk with her about that stuff (if you haven't already). She may not start her period tomorrow, but she could definitely have some hormonal imbalance going on.
My daughter had something like this going on when she was 11. It was like she had been replaced by an evil monster. She's almost 13 now, and we joke that she's finally turned human again. I know I'm joking about it, but it really was HORRIBLE. She got in trouble, she had to see a counselor, etc.

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