Jennifer - posted on 05/14/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )
I need help, My son just turned 7 this month, so he's a young first grader (now that everyone else seems to wait till boys are 6 to start Kindergarten). His grades are really good, A's mostly, except for some skills we need to work on (alphab order, some spelling rules). I was called in to conference a couple months ago about him coming home in trouble for talking out in class or in the halls, or what have you. He is a very sweet boy, but he constantly chooses not to listen if it's something he doesn't want to do. I have consistent consequences, but I am wondering if he will just grow out of this? I'm really concerned. Here's the email from his teacher today:
"It is NOT getting better [after the conference in March]. I will try to answer your questions regarding how he acts. He is very eager to tattle on someone else quite frequently. I don't know if it is because he gets in trouble all the time, that he welcomes the opportunity to get someone else in trouble. He doesn't really try to act funny. He just makes these noises and faces when he gets in trouble. It's kind of like a moaning sound. I tell him he is not acting like a 7 year old, but like a pre-school student. He doesn't get along well with the other boys, probably because he is always tattling on one of them. So, yes, he does have difficulty getting along socially with the other children. He also does not know when to stop talking. I will put up my hand to give him the hand signal to stop talking, and he has to continue to get in more words. He won't raise his hand to talk, but will just blurt things out when he feels like it. He lacks self-control. That has been a problem all year. Like I told you at conference time, I wondered if there was some kind of medical issue that causes him to act like this. But I did see a couple of days where he did behave. I don't know why he chooses to not make good decisions. I don't know if this has been helpful or not, but this is some of what I am seeing at school."
Any thoughts from moms who may have been through this with their kids? Some people tell me he's just a boy and will grow out of it, but his teacher has me very worried. She is retiring this year, so I don't know if she's just burnt out or what. I see these behaviors at home and it stresses me out, but I only have the one and she has 19 other kids, she can't be expected to cater to my one child who won't follow (for example) the simple rule of not blurting out whenever he wants. Help.