Jennifer - posted on 11/17/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )
I have a 3.4 year old daughter.
I have talked to doctor about it and they say that she will outgrow it and that maybe she was strong willed.
She has a very low tolerence for frustration. She can't be talked down. If something doesn't work right and quickly for her, she freaks. She will throw it or throw herself and say "I can't do it".
I used to try and talk her down but it doesn't work. Here is an example that happened today:
she was playing dressup and she was Tinkerbell. She said she wanted to fly. I jokingly and light heartedly said and people can't fly..... well, she flew off the handle ! She threw a fit and ripped off the clothes. I ignored her after I couldn't talk her down from her fit. After she was done and calm, I calmly picked her up and explained about flying... birds do it, airplanes do it, but not people. She nodded her head and it was over. This happens several times a day.
I have read books on strong willed kids. Those techniques don't seem to work or maybe I am too inconsistent.
I stay home with her all day. I usually get just as frustrated and then yell at her to try and get through to her. Then I feel guilty and like a horrible mom.
This has been going on since she was about 1. She was a wonderful baby up until her 1st birthday.
Is there ANYONE out there who has this problem?