having trouble toilet training my 3 year old she just doesen't want to do it pls help

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Joni - posted on 04/10/2010




My daughter was nearly 3. I read the book "How to potty train your child in 1 day." It worked for us. I'll give you the general idea:

Friday night- talk up the getting rid of diaper idea. Make sure you have a lot of fluids and treats on hand for the weekend. Also, books and movies all about going potty.

Saturday- let your kiddo throw away the diapers (just 2 or 3, but HIDE the rest!). Have lots of clean panties and let your kid run around with no pants. Keep towels handy. Every 30 min. take your kid to the potty. When she goes, make a big deal and give her a treat. When she has an accident, don't make a big deal about it. Just change panties and remind her to use the potty next time. Put on pull ups at night, but remind her to go to the potty if she needs to.

Sunday- (we had no accidents by Sunday) Keep talking up the potty thing. Take her to the potty every 45 min to an hour. Continue with Saturdays work.

By Monday, if your child is potty trained, give her a POTTY PARTY. You will, of course, have talked up this party for a week beforehand.

Monday evening- have a couple of important people over (we had grandma, grandpa, and great grandma), a fun dinner (we had hot dogs and chips), and make a cake or some cookies. The party was low key and inexpensive, but the celebration of a big girl skill was so important for my kid. My parents wrapped up a pack of panties as a potty party gift.

It was a boring weekend, since we didn't leave the house, but I was amazed by how well it worked. We had very few accidents after the party. Two weeks later my daughter decided to stop wearing pull ups at night and we've had very few night time accidents either. Before the potty party idea, she was completely against potty training.

I hope you find something that works for you!!

Erin - posted on 04/10/2010




my oldest DD responded well to stickers, you could do a chart but my girl was quite happy to take the sticker and put on her leg, or arm, somewhere she could easily show it off.

Peggy - posted on 04/10/2010




Don't sweat it ... during the nice weather wear the training pants on her and play outside ... do not use pull ups or similiar .. they absorb too much. If you wear the cloth on her she will feel wet when she "goes". Have at least five pair handy. You can put up a clothes line and wash out the wet pants and hang them dry in the sun .. they dry much faster. Keep the potty near by .. inside the closest door or somewhere private in your play space outside (a sheet and clothesline works). Most likely after a whole day of "mommy .. I'm wet" she will choose to use the potty instead of having that yucky feeling of wet training pants. This was the only way I could get my stuborn daughter to use the potty. Good luck!

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