Sylvia - posted on 12/16/2011 ( 22 moms have responded )
My 9-year-old DD got her first pair of glasses in August. They're for distance vision; she's supposed to wear them at school to see the blackboard, the wall posters, etc. We discovered this week that she's been taking them to school every day since September but never wearing them, because she's afraid her classmates will make fun of her.
Note this has never actually happened; she witnessed *one* incident when Grade 5 boy in her class was teased because of his glasses (at least, she *says* it was because of his glasses...). That's it.
She's not doing so well in school this year. She admits she can't see the board, but she won't wear the $%$^* glasses.
DH, who also started wearing glasses in Grade 4, says we need to be supportive and let her deal with this at her own pace. I'm very upset because she's clearly falling behind in school -- I told her it's like saying "Hey, I think I'll join the running club! But first I'll tie my ankles together!" I understand how intense peer pressure is at this age, and how mean kids can be. (I was bullied relentlessly at school for 6 years, starting at exactly this age -- it just had nothing to do with glasses, because I didn't get mine until Grade 10.) But this isn't like deciding not to wear your favourite pants anymore because the popular girls said they're not cool; this is serious, and it's already affecting her learning.
Has anyone else had this happen with their kids? How did you handle it? I don't want to go straight to the nuclear option (that is, phone the teacher and request that she remind DD every day to put on her glasses), because it would be humiliating and mean. But I don't want this to drag on for too long, either, because I can see the bad effect it's already having...