Help dealing w/ my son's teacher who doesn't like me because I said I would not medicate my child.

Rachel - posted on 12/24/2012

And for all of you condemning the teacher for suggesting medication...sure they're not doctors but she isn't pushing a prescription on the parent. It's their job to be on the lookout for signs of intellectual, psychological and social disorders and to bring it up with the parent. Relax.

Rachel - posted on 12/24/2012

Something tells me this has more to do with your perception of the teacher than her actual answers considering you are unable to offer any concrete examples which would serve as evidence of her "hating" you and your child.

Christine - posted on 07/11/2011

Request a different teacher.

Teresa - posted on 07/09/2011

My son did wonderfully in pre-K. In Kindergarten he had a hard time with his teache and we thought it was the teacher. He got progressed to 1st grad and it was more than halfway through the year that , after many conferences, he was diagnose with ADHD. I didn't like the medication and after about amonth I sent him to school without his medication. Huge difference. He has caught up but is doing 1st grade again because like i said we caught it more than halfway through the year. I can see where he needs the medication to help him focus. With or without the med he is a smart child but without it he can't focus and wallers all over the room, calls out, and plain ole can't sit still like the other kids. I send him to school with his meds, he is satrting 1st grade again but we would rather that now and not move him up where he will struggle due to his lack of reading comprehension. You know your child and the teachers are educated in learning, They are better at noticing learning disabilities than we are. It doesn't mean your chikd is dumb, jst that he needs a different teaching method. We not only put him on meds but his teacher has learned HOW he learns and has modified her lessons for him.

Yalana - posted on 07/09/2011

I wish I had had the option to change teachers.When he was in kindergarten, there was only one teacher, and the class was divided into a morning class, and an afternoon class...no option for anything else. In second, third and fourth grades, I would've had to change before school started...once school started, he was stuck. The teacher he had for 5th grade I've known since I was 11 (she's only a few years older than me) and did not suggest any type of "diagnosis" and even said that she can't if she wanted to. His problem is that he can verbalize the answers, but HATES to write them down. He prefers creativity over format. He does stare off into space, but when you sit in class all day, hardly any recess of form of release, what do you expect? I will space out washing dishes! I hate these standardized tests that schools insist the kids take to "measure" their performance...it doesn't show the amount of boredom these kids experience or the lack of challenges they need. My son is very smart...by the time he was 3, he knew about more dinosaurs than I did in 13 years of public school. He could count by the time he was 15 months, knew the entire alphabet by 16 months, and was writing his name the day before he started preschool. No one wants to do any kind of intelligence testing on him. I want to find an outside source to do it, but his father, my ex, is adamantly against it. He wants me to do whatever the teacher says I should do, include holding him back. I feel it would be the worst thing I could ever do to him. "If HE ain't broke, don't fix him!"

Teresa - posted on 07/09/2011

Change teachers.

Yalana - posted on 07/09/2011

Having a younger brother who is ADD, I decided to "try" meds for my oldest son, but did not even tell his father, who was out of town all the time. I did not tell his teachers or his principals, not even my parents. I just wanted to see if there was any validity to the teachers' claims...end result? none whatsoever. I did tell my boyfriend eventually and my parents after my mom "highly" suggested meds (after knowing that they did not work for my brother) and trying different meds for him. My boyfriend said it first: "If they didn't work, he doesn't have it...plain and simple." His doctors do not believe he has anything. In Ohio, it is illegal for any school official to even suggest that a child might have ANYTHING! There's no paying for medical expenses. Find out the laws in your state...you may be able to get this teacher to straighten up her act before she finds a parent who will do anything she tells them to do. Call your state BOE and find out what laws are on the books.

CYNTHIA - posted on 10/20/2009

OH AND ANOTHER THING! WHEN A TEACHER OR PRINCIPAL STATES THAT THE CHILD NEEDS TO BE MEDICATED IT IS LAW THAT THEY HAVE TO PAY FOR THE MEDICAL EXPENSES! THEY ARE TEACHERS NOT DOCTORS!

CYNTHIA - posted on 10/20/2009

FOLLOW YOUR HEART. MY SON WAS ON MEDS SINCE HE WAS THREE. THEY ARE NOT HEALTHY FOR ANY CHILD AND ALL THEY WANT YOU TO DO IS KEEP THEM OUT OF THEIR MINDS SO THEY DON'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THEM. YOUR RIGHTS AS A MOTHER IS TO REFUSE TO MEDICATED AND THERE IS NOTHING THAT THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT. I REMOVED MY CHILD FROM THE PUBLIC SCHOOL AND THINGS ARE GOING GREAT! YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A TEACHER TO TEACHER YOUR CHILD THE THINGS HE NEEDS TO KNOW TO GRADUATE HIGH SCHOOL OR EVEN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TO THAT MATTER! KEEP YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH AND DON'T LET THEM WALK ALL OVER YOU! DO YOU HAVE A COPY OF YOUR PARENT'S RIGHTS? IF NOT PLEASE LET ME KNOW AND I WILL BE HAPPY TO GET THOSE TO YOU! THEY THOUGHT THEY HAD THE WOOL OVER MY EYES AND I PROVED THEM WRONG! THEY HAD THE NERVE TO SAY MY SON COULDN'T READ IT WASN'T THAT AT ALL! HE WAS BORED AND NEEDED MORE MATERIAL TO KEEP HIM BUSY! I HAVE ALL THE INFORMATION FOR HOMESCHOOLING IF YOU WOULD BE INTERESTED IN THAT TOO, JUST LET ME KNOW. BUT WHAT EVER YOU DO. . . DON'T GIVE UP!

Robin - posted on 10/20/2009

Well sweetheart I tottaly understand what your saying and how your feeling. My daughter is 8 years old and in the third grade. She is a verry bright, outspoken, and busy little girl. Last year she went only 3 weeks of school and I got a call asking for a parent teacher conference. The teacher said that my daughter was constantly talking, getting up from her desk, and distracting the other children. This teacher :recomended" that I medicate my child so, I took her to the doctor explained what the teacher said and asked him his oppinon. He said it sounded like she MAY have A.D.D. and said the desison was up to me. So I deffinetly wanted my chidl to keep up with everyone eles and learn the things she was suposed to be learning so I did start her on medication. It was the worst mistake I have ever made. The midicine made her like a zommbie she had no appitite didn't eat hardly anything, and still the teacher complained, only now it was about how my daughter was always laying her head down and not activly participating in the group activitys. So I just decided that this woman was never gonna be happy with anything, I took my child out of her class and took her off that medicine and she did wonderfuly, her new teacher loved all the ideas and creative ways for doing things that my daughter had. But now my youngets child, my son is in the first teachers class. he is so much different than my daughter its funny. He is a verry bright little boy but much more shy and reserved than my daughter is. And he is getting sent home with yellow lights and straight faces. His teacher last year said he was one of the most well behaved and sweetest children she had ever seen, he got green lights and smiley faces for the whole year not one singel yellow, red, straight face or sad face. And now with only a few weeks into shool he has at least two or three yellows a week. This teacher had it out for me as soon as I challenged her authority and hasn't gotten over it so I'm going to go over her head again. But I don't really care. I'll tell you what I told her" if you don't want to teach small children who have alot of energy and ideas and creativity then why on earth did you take this job" I would go to any and everybody who will listen to you and make as much noise as possible about this teacher. once word gets out about how she acts she'll have to shape up or ship out. I hope this helps. And I wish you all the best with this. Good luck

Stephanie - posted on 10/20/2009

I haven't read all the comments but I would demand him be transferred to another class. My son had many problems with the teachers, to the point I had to withdrawel him from one school. I had him transferred to another school and he is doing ok now. Definitely talk with the principal and have him removed.

Kelly - posted on 10/20/2009

i would change teachers or schools. my son has adhd and when we said we was medicating him for it his teachers were like "If thats what you want we are not and will not ever suggest that:" It was a choice that his father and I made not his teachers. His teachers and adminastrators are very supportive with the decisions we make and we are all there for one reason: to help my son learn and become a productive member of society. definately look into another teacher or school

Kirsten - posted on 10/20/2009

If I were in your shoes, I would ask to change classes. If all else fails, change school. Maybe I'm radical, but I think medication is a last resort. Too many people opt out too soon these days. Strange how it never seemed to be an issue 30 years ago or at any other time during history ...

Katherine - posted on 10/20/2009

LORD!! Switch teachers!!! I did that last year!! I am NOT an advocate of drugging your kid... BUT i have worked in an elementary school and if children are disruptive to themselves and the rest of the class... THEN its time to consider!! There are just some teachers that do not know how to draw a nice thick black line... "this is the line... you do not cross it" If they are flexible and wishy washy... there are kids that will push the envelope farther and farther!! if the "experts" agree that theres nothing wrong... phtt!! try petitioning for a different teacher!! or have you child pulled out of her class several times a day for tutoring and special educations!! SIT IN CLASS with your child one day... i mean a FULL day!! you CAN do that!! its your right!! (i did it for a year!!!) See if one of your experts - psycologist or someone- can come with you to a meeting with your teacher.... make sure the teacher know you are doing your best to curb his behavior... SHORT of medication!!!

Debora - posted on 10/20/2009

sorry but not all staff at school are right the told my mother i was learning disabled but could not say what form i had this included the physiologist at school.it was not until i was over 30 that i ended up hospitalized for what they thaught was a nervous breakdown that it was found as ptsd.

Aisha - posted on 10/19/2009

I went throught the same thing with my son when he was transitioning from K to 1st. I confronted her after speaking with the principal, of course. We set up a meeting time and just laid everything out on the table!!. If you don't feel that your son should be on meds, then don't do it!! You know him better than they do!! Don't let them try to tell you anything different. Teachers these days aren't able to handle the children of todays world and they are trying to rely on meds to help them because it makes them "calm". I listened to them in the beginning, until I noticed that there was a drastic change in my son. He wasn't himself anymore. So I discontinued the meds and worked with him more as well as kept in full contact with his teachers to get a full report on a daily basis that I have to sign on a daily basis. I hope that this helps you!! Good luck and don't worry!! Take care!!

Erica - posted on 10/19/2009

I am a second grade teacher and I am appalled that you are dealing with this!! First of all studies have proven that boys and girls learn in completely different ways! Boys are more active by nature and should not be labeled as a "problem" child. The transition from k to 1 is huge and it is the teacher's responsiblity to help each child with it! I personally do not believe in medication. I have had too many students who come to school the first day full of energy and excitement only for their parents to put them on aderol or some other drugs which cause them to be like zombies!

I would strongly suggest talking to the principal and asking for your son to be placed with a different teacher. If she has this approach to you, then who knows how she is really treating your son??? That teacher could ruin is outlook on school for life! Good Luck to you, you are truly doing the right thing!!!

Kayla - posted on 10/19/2009

what you need to do is go over the teachers head. start in school but if that doesn't work out of school. there is no reason for the teacher to be takeing his/her dislike of you out on your child. as well, it is your choice to medicate your child or not; not anyone else's. that is if it is needed. her job is to teach and educate not pass judgement on you or your son. i hope this helped in any way.

Karla - posted on 10/19/2009

I agree with Angie that teachers are often the first ones to diagnose their students. Last year (Oct - 1 month into the school year) when our oldest son was in grade 5 his teacher told us she thought he had ADHD. We thought she was crazy and wondering why none of his previous teachers had ever brought it up. We took him to our family dr and pediatrician. It was determined that he didn't have ADHD but instead self-esteem issues that portrayed like ADHD -- fidgeting, distracted, etc. Our son has been seeing an art therapist since January and it is helping him tremendously.

Angie's also right about volunteering in the class so you can get to know the teacher. Our youngest son is 6 and has selective mutism and I spent 1/2 hour, 3-4 days each week last year (Sr. K) helping my son and other kids. I also went in the classroom quite a bit during his Jr. K year after he was diagnosed. I also volunteered in this same teacher's classroom when our oldest son had her for Jr. K and Sr. K several years ago. By doing so, we got to know her and some of the other teachers and have a good relationship with them and the school. Rather than putting out negative energy towards your son's teacher - that your son can pick up on - try and start over with the teacher. If your son sees that you don't like the teacher, he isn't going to like her either. Unless you think there is a problem with your son, you really don't need a daily update. If there is something you need to discuss with the teacher, send her a note in your son's backpack, send her an email or call the school and set up a meeting with her.

Angie - posted on 10/19/2009

Quoting Dana:

If he is cuasing such a "problem" in her class then hell yes I want to know daily what he did and what was done to him. I got daily reports from his K teacher w/ no problems. I pick him up everyday how hard is it to tell me in 2-3 sentences how his day was when I'm standing right there. Besides they have a daily sheet in there folder that comes home everyday grading their behavior that I have to sign if I have to look at it & sign it there better be something more on it than just rainy!! Can you tell anything from that other than he got in trouble once. I only confronted her after she had already stated that my son needed medication and a little boy was KICKING my son everyday and he was not being punished. My child had bruises all over his legs!! Then he starts coming home saying things like his brain doesn't work right but yeah ok I'm over reacting and we just got off on the wrong foot thanks!!!!

Dana, I truly think that asking for her to give you a detailed account of his day isn't fair.  Perhaps, if you try asking for a weekly report she will be more helpful.  Have you considered volunteering in her classroom?  I have found that creating a positive relationship with with my children's teacher over the years has made a huge difference.  It's obvious that she is put off by you, so try to make the relationship a positive one instead of a confrontational one.  The truth of the matter is, teachers are often the first line in diagnosing students, they study behaviors and have a lot of experience understand childhood behaviors.  I'm so sorry that you thought I was saying that your were overreacting.  But I have 3 special ed students that have had issues at school and making friends with their teachers has proven to be very helpful.

Angie - posted on 10/19/2009

Quoting Dana:

If he is cuasing such a "problem" in her class then hell yes I want to know daily what he did and what was done to him. I got daily reports from his K teacher w/ no problems. I pick him up everyday how hard is it to tell me in 2-3 sentences how his day was when I'm standing right there. Besides they have a daily sheet in there folder that comes home everyday grading their behavior that I have to sign if I have to look at it & sign it there better be something more on it than just rainy!! Can you tell anything from that other than he got in trouble once. I only confronted her after she had already stated that my son needed medication and a little boy was KICKING my son everyday and he was not being punished. My child had bruises all over his legs!! Then he starts coming home saying things like his brain doesn't work right but yeah ok I'm over reacting and we just got off on the wrong foot thanks!!!!

Dana, I truly think that asking for her to give you a detailed account of his day isn't fair.  Perhaps, if you try asking for a weekly report she will be more helpful.  Have you considered volunteering in her classroom?  I have found that creating a positive relationship with with my children's teacher over the years has made a huge difference.  It's obvious that she is put off by you, so try to make the relationship a positive one instead of a confrontational one.  The truth of the matter is, teachers are often the first line in diagnosing students, they study behaviors and have a lot of experience understand childhood behaviors.  I'm so sorry that you thought I was saying that your were overreacting.  But I have 3 special ed students that have had issues at school and making friends with their teachers has proven to be very helpful.

Rhonda - posted on 10/19/2009

I have a learning disabled child and even though your son may not be LD as mine is, I learned a long time ago that I just can't worry about being nice and not hurting the teachers feelings. When I was having problems with my sons school and the principal didn't resolve it I went to the school board and also the asst superintendent. That got the schools attention and I had no more problems. I have worked with a organiztion called PRO (parents reaching out) and what they have taught me is when a teacher says something like "your child is acting out or being lazy" then you need to turn it on her and say for example "and what are you doing to prevent this". You might research and see if there is an organiztion like this in your area. I think I would definatly look into having your son moved into a different class.

Debora - posted on 10/19/2009

AS MOM SAYS SOME TEACHERS ARE LIKE OTHER PROFESSIONALS ONLY THERE TO GET A PAYCHECK NOT BECAUSE THEY LOVE KIDS. ONLY ONE THAT CAN SAY HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH PROOF IS A PROFESSIONAL WHOSE TESTED THEM .

Jennifer - posted on 10/19/2009

she is ignorant you don't have to medicate there are many alternatives.... stick to your guns on this one!!!

Debbie - posted on 10/19/2009

Hi Dana, I've been through similar to you, though my senario lasted for 3 years. I'm afraid it sounds like Jeffrey has been labelled/pigeon holed regarding this teacher. How dare a teacher of these day's, who probably hasn't got a teaching degree, just a diploma,diagnose that Jeffrey needs medicating.DOES SHE HAVE AN H.N.D. then. be careful this doesn't follow him through school as he moves up in years. What did the principle say regarding your concerns for your son? DON'T LET HIM BE PUSHED TO ONE SIDE by this teacher if anything he needs her support and so do you. Do you have any support outside school, someone to turn to for advice? I remember the dred of going to pick my son up CAN I HAVE A WORD most nights. I've had him statemented with the local education authority now and changed schools. Believe me it wears you down. You take care Dana and don't feel you are on your own, there is plenty of help out there, where are you from? Keep in touch. One mum to another x.

CRYSTAL - posted on 10/19/2009

i would definatley try to change teachers. sometimes but not always this helps!

Danielle - posted on 10/19/2009

First of all that is your child and who the hec is she. She needs to be takin if front of the school board and made an ass out of. Listen if you;ve already gone to the principal then the next step is to go to the school board or threaten her with getting an attorney or even tell the principal your getting legal advice this poor excuse of a teacher is gonna do more harm than good to your child. Your not there all day with him can you imagine how it is for him all day. They frown upon bullying at school these days what the hec does she think she's doing. I would demand he be taken out of that class and placed somewhere else with her not having any contact at all with him, i would take the bull by the horns and be your sons advocate no one else will and you'll feel better in the long run, Good luck

Cyndi - posted on 10/19/2009

I have had similiar issues the difference however was my son does have a few issues and I had him at a behavorial specialist lastr year and he wanted my son to complete his school year and then over the summer try medication his teacher was nasty she was sending him home daily with bad reports and NEVER had a nice thing to say she wanted in January to keep him back another year. He hadnt even been there half the school year yet. The issue I had with this is, we were NOT ignoring the problem she wasn't cooperating with us or the therapist. My son is ADHD, BiPolar and OCD. He still needs and education. SHe was refusing to be a help she liked being a burden. The principal agreed with me that he needed better education and let us hold him back to a TK1 class instead of repeating the entire Kindergarten year and he has been on medication and he is doing great so far this year. You can request he get transferred to a new teacher and then if they don't cooperate you can also inform them that you can remove him from their school all together they do not like census changes in schools you can get better assistance when they think you are tougher and serious about your child. It works great when they think you are the Mom with BRASS overies!!

Tonya - posted on 10/19/2009

Quoting Dana:

Help dealing w/ my son's teacher who doesn't like me because I said I would not medicate my child.

My son Jeffrey is in the 1st grade. Kindergarten went beautifully no major issues, right on target w/ his studies all was great. Now I know the transition into 1st from K is big but this yr it is constant problems and now she is aying he doesn't know things he did 2 months ago over the summer when I sat him down every morning and did work w/ him out of workbooks his K teacher made for them. After confronting her as to what she thought might be the problem she said she just didn't think he could control himself and needed to be medicated. I lost my mind!! I talked to the principal, his pediatrician, even took him to a shrink, no one else agreed w/ her conclusion. But now she is very short and snappy w/ me hardly gives me any info as to how is doing daily and I want daily reports especially when it comes to stuff like Accelerated Reader results. I try to be nice to her to keep peace through the yr but she just seems to hate my son but it does no good....anyone deal w/ anything like this before??? Any suggestion would be helpful at this point!!!

I would go to the principle and if nothing is done by him I would go right to the school board, I would as well request that my child be moved to another teacher and class, if you think it would help a situation like this may leave you open for the school choice program if it is in your area being that there is a personal issue betweenn you and that school if you feel it is more stressful for your child to continue there, I would no doubt change the class and teacher. But go right to the Super Intendent . They have to do something about it. School Board is always your best choice to make things happen.

Elanor - posted on 10/19/2009

Aww it's such a shame. Over here (Uk) they start school at 4, my little man has just started and I think there's too much pressure. They only just kids really, they have only been on the planet 4 years, some adults cannot even control thier emotions, let alon a 4 year old.

Dana - posted on 10/18/2009

If he is cuasing such a "problem" in her class then hell yes I want to know daily what he did and what was done to him. I got daily reports from his K teacher w/ no problems. I pick him up everyday how hard is it to tell me in 2-3 sentences how his day was when I'm standing right there. Besides they have a daily sheet in there folder that comes home everyday grading their behavior that I have to sign if I have to look at it & sign it there better be something more on it than just rainy!! Can you tell anything from that other than he got in trouble once. I only confronted her after she had already stated that my son needed medication and a little boy was KICKING my son everyday and he was not being punished. My child had bruises all over his legs!! Then he starts coming home saying things like his brain doesn't work right but yeah ok I'm over reacting and we just got off on the wrong foot thanks!!!!

Dana - posted on 10/18/2009

I don't know exactly she seems to be in her early 30's so she around my age but she almost seems like she thinks I am 18 or something...she is also pregnent so I am wondering if maybe her hormones are driving her to be extra grouchy!!

Angela - posted on 10/18/2009

How about parents, teacher and principal have a meeting without your son. Come loaded with written questions and use examples of her behavior towards your son, or lack of communication. Call the school and speak to the principal and tell her you need all of you in one room to figure this out. Don't take no for an answer! Be as NICE as you can so they see you are not driven from anger, but concern for your child. Be firm and be prepared!

Vanessa - posted on 10/18/2009

not all teachers, i help with sped children.some do better on meds if it is the right dose for the child. we are all humane and it is hard to teach a child if they can not sit still.not only is that teacher dealing with your child but maybe 25 more.then think of it this way how about if she is dealing with 5 other ones in that class. her job is on the line with test score and other things. i don't know about your child but i have worked with some that would hit,bite,slap,kick, and we could not even stop them for the fear of losing our jobs or going to jail. so there is to side of this. go to your child classroom and check out what is going on. my sister has a child that is adhd and is on meds and still act out he is a fighter because he knows that when he is at school he can do what ever he wants because the teacher will not get on to him. i wish he was at my school.

the problem is and i am not saying it is none of you but this is what we hear. i have to deal with this child and so can the teach for 8 hours.but is your job on the line and or you trying to teach that child with 25 other children. some parents can not deal with one.i know i have one and she is a teen. i say 14 going on 30. so please talk with your teacher and find out the problem. if you are in mississippi and your child has an iep an they are still not doing what your child needs or what you want please contact me i have a number you can call for help.they are great an they will get you the help that is need. never ever talk to the iep committee unless they have sent you the propper paper work.

Vanessa - posted on 10/18/2009

please make sure it is adhd before you put your child on anything. doctors are so quick to give meds because they get a cut of the money. dyselxia and adhd is almost the same thing. we had a problem with my daughter they kept saying she was adhd or add. she was neither she has dyselxia.

Heidi - posted on 10/18/2009

As long as you have had your son checked out by true proffesionals, she doesn't have a leg to stand on. I would start with speaking to the principal and then go from there. If he is not responsive to mediating or changing teachers, go over his head. However, I do resent all of the "zombie" comments I read on here. My son is ADHD and is medicated. I have taken great pains to find the right medication and the right amounts that allow him to succeed and still be his normal, happy-go-lucky self. Medication is not always the EVIL that uneducated parents make it out to bel. You just have to be careful, vigilant, open with your doctor and not settle for any meds that change your child's personality or have side effects.

Tonya - posted on 10/18/2009

I would write a letter to school administrator asking for a transfer to another teacher. It is still early enough in the school year for him to settle and become more productive. How can anything be accomplished for the better good of your son if there is not a mutual respect between you two? I am not the type to jump to medicating my children either with all the studies that show the negative contradictions, however, I have heard children say, "why did you wait so long?", regarding their own parents refusing to medicate them for similar experiences. Maybe sit down with your son and ask him if HE thinks he's having problems learning in school. Be open to what he has to say, you may find out it is a s simple as his learning method or needing a pair of glasses. My daughter went through a phase where it seemed like everything she learned went in one ear and out the other. Come to find out she had scarring in her ear with hearing loss, so it's not always what it seems to be!

Anna - posted on 10/18/2009

I have experienced this many of times. I will tell you my son is 10 yrs. old and he is ADHA and possibly some other things. When he was younger i took him off the medication several times because he wasnt not very healthy. I will tell you that some teachers should not even be teacher because they always like to use medication as an escape goat to not have to deal with the child. It is very hard for a child to adjust from kindergarten to 1st grade, it is a big difference. I suggest that u tell the principal that u want ur child moved to a different teacher. If you have seen doctors for this issue and they say there is nothing wrong with your son then it is just the teacher. If the principal does not move your son to another class then tell them you will go to the school board. You as a parent have a right to speak and have what is best for your child. If you have any other questions please feel free to ask i would be delighted to help as much as i can.

Tina - posted on 10/18/2009

Oh NOOOO i would put him in a different school all together if they can't resolve the issue with that teacher.. oh i would go haywire with that teacher.. IS this a public school?

Debora - posted on 10/18/2009

I SAY I WOULD GET HIM INTO A DIFFERENT CLASSROOM AND THEN ASK THAT TEACHER TO UPDATE THE AR LOG .THE SCHOOL DISTRICT WE LIVE IN DOES AR READING STARTING I KG ONE LINE FOR EVERY 15 MINUTES READ TEACHERS WANT 2ND GR .UP 30HR PER DAY IN READING ALONG WITH OTHER HOMEWORK .as others have said you have 4 yrs until middle school best of luck.

Tiffany - posted on 10/18/2009

I went through this before with my son but it happened in kindergarten, and after visits to the doctor and shrink, i still had no results, i myself could see his problems, but knew something should be done, and his teacher was not helping any at all. i finally wen to the doctor and demanded some tests be done, and eventually the results were ADHD!!! and now he takes concerta 27mg, and has been taking it for a year, and has improved a major deal, and the medication is light enough it doesnt over drug him!!!it is the happy medium of the medication dosage amounts he has tried before....and in school he has improved and in first grade this year he is doing great!!!! and have had no problems!!!!

Vanessa - posted on 10/18/2009

i work in a school you need to have him moved as soon as you can. do what ever it takes you and your child has more rights than you think.if the only problem is that he want sit still maybe is from kg.some of our theacher does centers and some sits at a table. what kind of teacher did he have in kg? just keep a check on all the things he does and watch him when he does homework can he sit still for you. i worked with a child when he was in first grade talked with the teacher and parents could not get him to sit still.the parents notice he had a problem too. the teacher turn me in to the my boss i was talked too and told to keep my mouth shut.well now he is in the thir grade and still cannot read.if he can't do the work you may want to check for dyselxia may daughter has it. she has it in math,reading,spelling,and writing.it is almost the same as hdad.you can e-mail me at vanessacoley@yahoo.com

Brandy - posted on 10/18/2009

I would see if you could change his classroom! Get another teacher, maybe she just cant handle him because of her own issues, and if your son does not like her for something she may have said to or around him, then he is not going to want to act right in class, and that could affect his learning during this year.. I would go talk to the school about getting him transferred to another classroom.

Anita - posted on 10/18/2009

This is so sad..And yes I had the same problem..My son was wonderful In kindergarten and when he went to first grade it was the same thing..They said he needed to be seen by a doctor and put on something.Said he didn't pay attn: and could not sit still..He was 6 years old for goodness sakes..What did they want from a 6 year old..You need to remove your son from her class asap.She sounds like a terrible person and your child should not have to be treated in that manner as well as you either.My son is no 12 and in the 6 th grade and he is in band an A, B student.And he did it without pills..

Tracy - posted on 10/18/2009

I can't believe they have Teachers like that in the school system. I went thru the same thing with my sons Teacher last year. He was in the 2nd grade. She told my husband and I that our son was ADHD. We were freaked out when she told us this. I did the same thing as you, got upset. I then contacted all of his previous teachers, got letters from them on how he was in there class. Went to his Doctor and discussed what she had told us. I then went to the Principal of the school, who did nothing. It got better when the Teacher went on Leave to be with her sick Mother. I am sad that her Mother was ill, but glad that she was no longer teaching my child. The substitute was GREAT. She was there from before Christmas thru Spring Break. I was shocked to see her return and disappointed, as was all the other parents in her class. My son would also say that she was mean to her and always picking on him. I just told my son to be good and pay attention. He was on the A-B Honor Roll at the end of the Year. I then went to his Teacher and said, My child is a smart child and should not be statused as ADHD, he is a normal little boy.

I am glad to say the that Teacher no longer teaches at his school. Wasn't nothing that I said or did, she just decided to retire. She very much needed to.

Be strong and support your child. All should work out. I would maybe contact the Board of Education if the Principal didn't help you.

Kristina - posted on 10/18/2009

Hi Dana...



I had the same problem with my son when he went from Kindergarten to 1st Grade...First off the teacher has no right to determine whether or not your child needs to be medicated. Actually, depending on the school district policy its against the law! Thats the first thing you need to find out...your sons and your rights. I had my son tested for ADD and ADHD about 6 months into 1st grade. This was my idea...I was desparate. I do have to add that my son went through an early intervention program my district offers because he seemed to be "behind" the other kids. This was at the age of 4 and my district did not offer pre-k and I could not afford it on my own (yes, I am a single mom, 12 years now) It turned out he was lacking in every crucial part needed in his developement right down to speech which he couldnt speak a full sentence. He was placed in a special school by the district and came out with flying colors. Now getting back to first grade...he was tested for the ADD and ADHD...both tests came back negative so I was referred to a behaviour specialist at a local university hospital. We had to wait until JULY that year for the appt, I made it in FEB! It was worth the wait...the doctor only observed him for about 15 minutes and concluded he had ASPERGERS SYNDROME which is a high functioning form of autism. Im not saying your son would have it but please for the sake of your son and yourself please take him to a specialist and have him tested. The earlier he is observed the better the results I promise. My son is 12 now and in the 7th grade. He cannot be mainstreamed just yet because of social issues but he is smart...very smart and his teachers love him. I promise once you do this you and your son will be so much happier. Please let me know what you decide to do.

Anita - posted on 10/18/2009

dont put up wilh it my sons school tried to do the same i put my foot down done lots of reseach into the meds she thought my son should be on and found out that in the 60s it was a class a drug, there was no way i was putting my son on that,i changed teachers and got a wonderful teacher who understood my son compleatly as her son had the same probs,my son has adhd,dislexia and dispraccia dont give up it only gets better

Sara - posted on 10/18/2009

When my son was in 1st grade his teacher felt that he needed to be medicated because he could not sit still in his seat (would twist around..sitting upside down and balancing on 2 legs of the chair). I took him to his pediatrician, who said that my son just had lots of energy but if it didn't interfer with his learning he didn't need meds. Talk to the principle and to the teacher...explaining that you took your son to other professionals...if she can not accept this you may want to look into having your child put into another class (if possible)...this may seem extreme but if the teacher gives your child a hard time and negative feedback, it can affect your child in the long run - it could turn him off to school. Work with him at home, you'll be able to judge how he's doing on your own...just keep encouraging him!!! Also, most children forget things over the summer...I had one son put into a remedial reading program when he was in grade 2 because the teacher felt he was lagging behind (just after summer). The remedial teacher during the the program could not understand why my son was put in this program because she felt he wasn't lagging behind and that he was actually ahead of his level...I think it was because it was after the summer and some children just take a little time to get into the swing of school again. Just encourage you child and stand behind them...just keep on top of it and it will work out!!!!

Crystal - posted on 10/18/2009

Unless there are little initials after the teachers name that pertain to the medical field she has NO PLACE to suggest medication.

Fransisca - posted on 10/17/2009

God bles you you dont need the help the teacher does has the same problem with my grandson everything that he new went some where on the field out the window down the loo lmao who knows my daughter was beside herself over it and the teacher did the same thing to her so i went to see her firstly i asked what she had done wrong she looked at me in horror and then i explained that she must have done something for the boy to have forgotten everyting he new then i told her i would be happy to prove that he new it by bring the kindy teachers and reports strange thing happened she didnt want me to do that and then she said there must be something else worng i waited and waited and yup there it was there must be soemthing wrong at home so i told her i was more then happy to prove that there wasnt anything there either maybe hes just trying out maybe hes a little boy whos a little out of his depth in school maybe he just needs a bit more attetion then the other kids and what do you know hes doing great now and the teacher still doesnt talk to nicely to my daughter when im not around but my grandson is doing a lot better and its your right as a parent to be heard and to have respect from the teacher so either take someone with you and explain that you can not talk to her alone as she make you feel unconfortable and write a letter of complaint to the school board and tell them that meds in childern is NOT the answer and you are shocked and horrorfied that a teacher would even think about such a thing that will get the ball rolling good luck.

Stand tall your kids are worth it.