help ! My 10 year old is growing breasts, where do we start ?

GeorgeAnne - posted on 09/05/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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i'm not ready for my super tall & skinny 10 year old to start growing boobs ! We havent discussed anything & she has nooooo clue about of it. I know at some point her 5th grade has "the talk". The few times I've mentioned it, she's very weird/sensitive it seems like. Oh, and body odor too. Help ! Do I wait for the school or any advice -- her dad & I weren't ready :)

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Christi - posted on 09/11/2011

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I can't believe that you have not told her anything. By the age of 9, I was getting pubic hair and starting to develop. Take her to a Macy's or some other dept store and let them help her get into a training bra. Education should begin at home, not school. Schools are limited as to what they can teach. If you and your daughter do not have an open enough relationship, where you can talk honestly, look online or at a bookstore for: Ready, Set, Grow!: A What's Happening to My Body? Book for Younger Girls, The Care & Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls (American Girl Library), or The 'What's Happening to My Body?' Book for Girls. there are many to chose from. The most important thing is that you do not want her to get too little information, or incorrect information.

Lydia - posted on 05/11/2013

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My mom took me bra shopping at walmart when I was ten. I was in need of some extra padding so I got 3 padded bras, they do realy nice sets there! I suggest that you take your daughter bra shopping and let her pick out the sets she likes. It could be a girly day out, just you and her. I am sure after she gets used to wearing them that she will be fine with them and she'll feel like a "big girl" hope you find this helpfull.
Lydiaxxx

GeorgeAnne - posted on 09/11/2011

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thanks to everyone replies, so glad i'm not alone ! it's not that we dont have an open relationship, so just gets very defensive & clams up....we just havent had the talk or about getting her period, didnt even think about it happening scaring her, so thanks for that so i can get on it. I'm very well-endowed, and proud, lol, just thought she'd take more after my mom who is skinny & small chested. But I got skinny & prob big boobs. Thanks again moms :)

Richelle - posted on 09/11/2011

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The best book I found is American Girl's The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book For Girls. It's at Barnes and Noble for $8.95, and it has LOTS of info. My cycles started early (10) and my daughter has been wearing a bra for over a year, and has had problems with PMS (mood swings and cramps) but hasn't totally started yet. This book helped her immensely, and we've gone to Target and JC Penney to get her fitted. It would actually help if you can get her measured so she gets something that fits well, so she doesn't hate her bras right from the start. It's really unfortunate that girls are starting earlier and earlier. Hang in there!

Philomena - posted on 09/11/2011

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I totally relate also. I have a ten yr old and she has started growing boobs and body odor and pubic hair. I had a light talk with her about what the boobs are for, milk for the baby, and gave her some deodorant and training bras. She has a developmental problem so she sees a therapist. I was talking to her therapist about how to approach the baby making issue and she said to do it sooner rather than later cuz girls are starting sooner and sooner. And you don't want her to go to the bathroom one day and think she is dying because she is bleeding down there.

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Cathren Agatha - posted on 05/13/2013

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DEFFENETLY BUY AGs bODY BOOK 4 GIRLS U FIND IT @ A barns & noble c:

Cathren Agatha - posted on 05/13/2013

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heres my doters opinion;
i got mine in 3 grade no biggie. now im in 5th grade & kinda imbarassed. tell her its totes normal. i no sum x's its imbarrasing. ms. crossey, show ur doter this message...thell her its from a girl n her earrly 11s. just mayb buy looser shirts if its that imbarrasing. it works. deffenetly buy her a sorts bra. Somtimes i get soos imbarrased my boobs r pointy, i wear 2 bras! ;D
hope it helps,
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CONNIE - posted on 03/19/2013

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MY DAUGHTER IS 9 AND ALREADY!!! i HAVE HER SOME LITTLE TRAINING BRAS AND CHESTY WOMAN ARE IN MY FAMILY SO i KNOW THERE IS NO ESCAPING IT! AND WE ARE NEVER READY BUT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT YA CAN NOT STOP IT AND I MYSELF WISH MINE COULD JUST GO BACK TO ABOUT AGE 2! YEA THAT SOUNDS GOOD!

Lisa Mackenzie - posted on 03/12/2013

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My baby girl is growing big boobies and I took her bra shopping but she just won't listen. Where do I start?

CONNIE - posted on 09/11/2011

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Whew!! I can relate! My 71/2 year old is also growing breast.Caught her playing with Bras and so I went out and bought her some traning Bras-At least she leaves mine alone but I was so torn! She is only 7 and she is getting poofy.So not ready to cross over this bridge!We were in the store looking at bras and she puts her hand over hers and goes real loud" JUST LOOK AT THESE BAD BABIES"!! I was Mortified!!! We can not stop it so what cha gonna do but pray that God gives you strength and wisdom to deal with this.Girls in my family are very early bloomers and very large chested--She is a baby as far as I am concerened!.

Gale - posted on 09/11/2011

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I myself was 8 when I started growing boobies so I can relate. thankfully my 8 year old hasn't gotten to that stage yet, but has requested deodorant because her armpits stink. she doesn't need it all of the time and I do try to monitor her, but she is happy as a cucumber that she has her own deodorant and her soblings don't (they are 6 and 3). As for the "cycles" starting, i started mine at age 10 so I figure when she is 9 or 9 1/2 I wil have the talk with her. i think its best for them to hear it from us as mothers rather than what the schools have to offer. best of wishes in whatever you decide to do!

Ludmilda - posted on 09/11/2011

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I have a 12 year old and she just got her period. I got mine when I was 10 so I made sure to talk to her early. You have to make it simple. Don't make it a big deal or she will feel awkward. Take her bra shopping. I took mine at 10. Tell her there comes a point where girls have to wear them or shirt s don't look as flattering. I was the girl with the biggest boobs in 6th grade. By 7th they were full blown C's. My mom never made a big deal of it. I never hunched over to hide them and I made sure my daughter did not either. These (boobs) are a great asset. They can feed our babies and make clothes look so much better. Teach her to be proud of these.

Beth - posted on 09/07/2011

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I bought my 9 year old "teen" deoderant, which she thought was cool b/c of the packaging. I'd do that and the bra shopping pronto! They have cute bras at Justice; we're not "there" yet, but that's probably where we'll go b/c it's girly and not weird since we already shop there.

Katina - posted on 09/07/2011

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Well at age 10 I had already bigger boobs then most of my class.. and at 10 years old i started my period.. Time for the talk about her body changing and drugs too..check out these sites; www.safekids.org/safety-basics/ or www.kidshealth.org

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Gotta love those hormones. The other day I asked one of my girls to do me a favor and she stuck her tongue out at me and 'blew a raspberry'. I said 'let me guess. That's 9 year old language for No thank you Mommy.' lol Stinkers! ;)

GeorgeAnne - posted on 09/06/2011

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Thank you sooo much for both your replies. After I posted that then i saw other moms with 7 year olds ! She does have the Feelings book thru American Girl & I will get that other one. I also appreciate the sensitive stuff & will be just making sure its normal & all ok & I'm here if she needs me. NOW onto the apparent hormones that is making her mouth "smart" nonstop :)

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Since you can't go back in time about 3 years and start there.... start now. There is a great book 'The Care and Keeping Of You (American Girl book... I think that's the name) that is excellent. My girls and I read it together when they were 7. Now that they are 9.5 and have started to develop... and started 'stinking' about a year ago.... they are very well aware of what to expect. We still talk about it though. We've started in on the sex talks as well, but are still kind of in preliminaries there. They know the bare basic mechanics of it, but not the emotional extras.

Atasha - posted on 09/05/2011

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I know just what mean! My nine year old started that this summer. The only things you can really do for her, are explain what is really happening and be there for her. If she is the sensitive type you can always tell her you will be there to listen if she needs you or your help. If she is comfortable with the idea it is a good time to introduce the training bra. Don't force her though to talk about it if she isn't ready, you may end up pushing her to not want to tell you what is happening. My nine year old wearing training bras and is quite happy in thinking she is maturing faster than her friends. It is pretty scary for a younger child but they eventually come to realize it's all natural and they are not alone.

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