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Help with my 4 year old...

Kerri - posted on 01/10/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My son is a good kid most of the time. He is so friendly, love meeting new people, and is so funny, BUT here lately I cant get a hold on him. He is lying, back talking, want listen to a thing I tell him to do, and even acting out! My husband and I have tried rewarding him for good things, threating to take away his favorite things, taking away those things, making him sit in time out, standing in the corner, and even spanking him (only with our hand), but nothing phases him. If I leave him with a family member to run erronds he acts a wild child, and they have even told me that if he cant act better while he is at their house not to bring him back! HE had one baby sitter that stopped keeping him because attitude and the way he acts, and almost kicked out of preschool. Im a stay at home mom now, and would like to put him in a mothers day out program to get him interacting with other children again but Im affraid to leave him there. I cant keep him at home for ever, and he starts school next year. Any advice at all would be very greatful!

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Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010

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Are there any changes going on? My son is this way, he used to be dreadful, then the changes slowed and he was much better, then he started a new school and it started all over. He just got thrown out of his back-up provider who is also is regular providers helper. We start counseling on the 21st, hoping that will help.



Have you tried more outdoor time? My son is extremely active and needs it. He just got the leapster 2 and it helps him stay still and he loves taking care of his 'pet' so its a good 'threat' and always works.



Does he get enough sleep lately? Another area my son used to struggle in, then we started him on Melatonin pills (your body naturally produces it). It puts him in a deeper sleep so no matter how short he sleeps its always a good rest.



Have you also tried, less distractions? One or two types of toys around at once, rotating toys.



Talk to him about his language and say its not ok. I'm still struggling with that so hopefully counseling will help with answers.



Good luck!

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