How a baby is born

De-anne - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My 7 yo daughter asked me the other night how my baby was going to be born. Anyone got any ideas what I can tell her. I have a book titled "Questions Kids Ask" and for the 6-8 age group, I wasn't thrilled on the answer as I found it had too much info. She knows where the baby will come out. She saw a picture in a first aid book. I am due in about 5 weeks. My daughter will be 8 then. Thank you! Have a great weekend too :)

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Kim - posted on 08/08/2009

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I think you have it right to talk with her and find out what her question actually is. I have four and work with children and she might actually be wondering if you are planning to go to the hospital or doc's office or something like that. Kids ask questions that mean different things to them than they do to us.

Yunique - posted on 08/07/2009

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Quoting Georgette:

I have four daughters. My oldest is 13 my youngest is 5. I have always believed, and raised my children that nature is perfect. When they ask a question, I talk to them one on one. I will draw pictures and use words that make it not scary. If your child is asking, that means she is ready for you to tell her. Children today are exposed to many differant forms of media. They find what they want answered some how. I want the answers to come from me not utube.



That is so true!!! My daughter was 3 when she started asking.  I told her the truth.  Kids want to know and it's best for them to find out from their parents or respectable adult.  a lot of parents feel their kids are too young to know certain things that are natural.  Trust if they don't find out from you they WILL find out on their own and most likely it won't be a reliable source.  Just remember Deanne, girls can start going through puberty at 8 yrs old.  If your daughter doesn't know yet you NEED to tell her because she will find out anything she wants to know one way or another.  I had to come to that realization just a couple months ago myself. I've worked with children before and you will be suprised what they know or think they know.  Just let your child have the benefit of knowing because she got the correct information from Mom.

Alicia - posted on 08/08/2009

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my 7 yo daughter asked me also, if you are not ready to explain at all yet ..just ask her how she thinks babies are born..and then we discussed in a way that i was ok with

not too much detail ..they r still babies if you ask me

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De-anne - posted on 07/10/2013

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Hi, thank you all for your helpful comments. My daughter knows more stuff now. I had forgotten I had posted a message in here. She knows about periods and such. We have had a small discussion about it. She also did a class at school in grade 6. I think we are prepared. It has been 4 years since that post. My daughter will be 12 soon. Thankfully no periods yet.

Vanessa - posted on 08/08/2009

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I told my daughter (born a week before Easter) that the Easter bunny helped her out of my tummy... and with my youngest son (born 2 days before Christmas) that Santa helped him out.
So my oldest two think the Easter bunny is their best friend now.

Paula - posted on 08/08/2009

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Keep it SIMPLE! and Let Kids Be KIds. They wil find out the facts soon enough.

Paula - posted on 08/08/2009

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When god is finished adding the toes and fingers and hands , etc,,, should hold her over. And your being honest!

Jodi - posted on 08/08/2009

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Holly, I am laughing myself silly at the daddy's magic wand :) Not at the fact that's how you explained it to your daughter, but thinking that if I mentioned daddy's magic wand around this place, my hubby would turn that one into a dirty thought and his ego would go through the roof, LOL.



(Sorry for going off topic).

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Our daughter was 5 when we had our second one. When she asked how the baby got into my tummy we told her that daddy had a magic wand (she is HUGE into magic) and he tapped mommy's belly with his wand and the baby "poofed" into mommy's tummy.



As for how the baby got out, we had decided that while we would include her in all doc appointments, we would not have her present at the birth and so the question of how the baby came out was never a big one for her. She asked once (right before the baby was born) and we just told her the baby was coming out of mommy's pooter (our word for vagina) and that was that. She didn't ask many more questions (just "did it hurt?" and "did you bleed?") and we were very straightforward with her about everything (without being too graphic of course).



I really think your daughter is old enough for the basics (she's going to hit her first period in a few years anyway) and she deserves to know. Going into it a little bit now may also make her understand her first period and such a little bit easier when she hits that age.



We try our hardest to tell her the truth about everything, but simplified and without going into much detail if it's a more "adult" concept. That is really our parenting style, although we didn't want to explain sex to a 4 year-old (thus the magic wand...)! :P

Athena - posted on 08/07/2009

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My five year old son wanted to ask and luckily I had him via c-section and was able to give him a easy answer. However, he started to ask how come Mommies get to carry the baby and Daddies don't do anything. He thought this was unfair and I felt really bad for him, because as a will be man someday he was feeling useless in the whole thing. So I explained to him that the Daddy has to give the Mommy a "special ingredient" in order for the baby to grow...lol. Simple, to the point and he feels better about being a boy :-)

Georgette - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have four daughters. My oldest is 13 my youngest is 5. I have always believed, and raised my children that nature is perfect. When they ask a question, I talk to them one on one. I will draw pictures and use words that make it not scary. If your child is asking, that means she is ready for you to tell her. Children today are exposed to many differant forms of media. They find what they want answered some how. I want the answers to come from me not utube.

Theresa - posted on 08/07/2009

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I told my 7 year old it was a gift from god he gave her to us to love and protect is doesn't realy matter how the baby is born. Now baby is here and she always said God gave her to us.

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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Good luck De-anne. When it really comes down to it, you know her best :) I think sometimes we respond to our kids based on what we personally know about them.

De-anne - posted on 08/06/2009

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I don't plan to let her watch. She did say something about that in the beginning and I told her "no". Her and I will chat on the weekend. She knows the body parts. I have always taught her that and what we normally call them, other than their real name. Thanx :)

Ashley - posted on 08/06/2009

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Let her watch. I prepared my boys (who had seen our horses foal before)by telling them what would happen and that mommy would be making lots of noise like a mommy lion does but that I would be ok and that was part of the process that needed to occur for their brother to come out. They were incredibly excited, got a little worried about me but we talked between contractions and it was ok. I have never hidden the truth from my boys and they are incredibly well adjusted, compassionate, respectful and self confident young men. They still remember it and talk about it on their brothers birthday. They joke with him that he likes cheese because he came out covered in it lol. If you are nervous and apprehensive about things they will be too. She can handle the truth and we all know the truth is always the best policy. Good luck mama.

Amanda - posted on 08/06/2009

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In all honestly this is the best opportunity to have a heart to heart with your daughter and open the lines of communication. My kids ages 8 and 11 have known the "gory" details for years and nothing seemed to bother them. They have also watched the "baby" shows that are all over the TV and that stuff just doesn't bother them. Be honest with her, tell her what goes on like others have said and just be honest and use real terms. It's a hard subject for some to talk about with their kids, but you will be shocked at her age, what she can handle and understand. Good luck on telling and having the baby!!

De-anne - posted on 08/06/2009

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Thanx for your help and advice. My daughter was natural, and this one will probably be that too. She hasn't asked again. I might ask her on the weekend what she wants to know. Thanx again :)

Niki - posted on 08/06/2009

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Oh I've been asked that many times! I've gotten lucky though, I have a get out of jail free card! Both mine were c-section! Doc had to cut you out honey! ;) Just in nicer terms, didn't want to scare the bug. ;)

Ilene - posted on 08/06/2009

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Ask her what "she" knows about it. Keep it simple. Other than that I don't have much advice as I haven't been asked this yet. (have a five year old son)

Jodi - posted on 08/06/2009

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Sometimes, when kids ask questions, we think we have to give them all the detail, when in actual fact, a simple answer is all they really want. If they do want more detail, they will ask another question. My son was about 7 when I had my daughter and he asked the same thing. I told him I go to the doctor and the doctor helps the baby get out. He just nodded and said "oh, okay" and kept going on with what he was doing. That's all he wanted to know, so I left it at that. As he got older, he asked more questions as he was ready to understand. Basically, I am saying keep it really simple. That way, you are giving her the information she asked for, but no more than what she really wants to know. She will ask if she wants more information.

Kelly - posted on 08/06/2009

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I'd say that honesty is the best policy. I have a 6, 4, and 3 year old and they ask questions about "our" baby all the time (due in January). My 4 year old daughter seems to be more curious than her older and younger brothers and has posed the very same question to me. They all know the various body parts of each gender in their proper terminology, I didn't want any of them to be ashamed of their bodies like some of us were taught to be as children. So when she asked me in front of the boys I answered appropriately (trying to spare graphics for other readers here) and her immediate response was "well isn't that going to hurt?". I chuckled a little bit and told her "yes, but mommy is tough. It hurt when I had each one of you and I'd never change a minute of it". It seemed to satisfy her (for the day anyway). Good luck to you on your new arrival!

Kirsten - posted on 08/06/2009

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While you were pregnant the baby didn't fall out because there is something inside like the drawstring on a bag that is made of muscles (cervix) that closes tight until those muscles around the baby start to contract (squeeze) and release. That's when you will be in some pain that comes and goes but after some time of that going on, it might take a few hours the drawstring opens and the baby begins to move down through the vagina (since she already knows thats where it will be coming from)which is really a long tube that connects to the womb (where the baby has been living all this time also the uterus) to the outside world. Thats when you will have to push so the baby can come out.

I don't know if thats too much info but i would tell my 6 year old that

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