How can I stop my 8 year old son from acting like a 5 yr old??

Nikki - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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He is the eldest of 3 boys but is really babyish at times in that he messes about and doesnt do as he is told. I get better behaviour from my 6 and 4 year old boys and I just dont know what to do to with the eldest to encourage a better standard of behaviour?

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I would say when he acts that way IGNORE him. I believe he is doing it for the attention and by acknowledging it either playing along or even telling him to stop it's still attention you are giving him. and that seems to be what he is wanting.
Is there anyway you can have a day just the 2 of you? like take him to his favorite restaurant and then to a movie or park. So he has just mommy and me time? I try and do that with my boys so they both know that they always have mommy time.

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Just A - posted on 07/27/2013

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after reading every ones comments i just would like to add i have 8yr boy and a 3yr boy my 8yr boy always wants to play with his 3yr old brothers toys if my 3yr old eats something my 8yr wants the same i try to tell him your older but he would not listen he will tease his brother makes him cry he is always teaching bad habits to my 3yr old he shows tantrums at his age breaks toys of his and his brothers wouldn't understand wrong from rights his 3yr brother knows more and looks after his toys so nicely but my 8yr old would just throw things everywhere says to me im bored nearly set the house on fore twice by playing with matchers got up on the chair and got the matchers from top cupboard can anyone help me how shall i raise this 8 yr old please i have ran out of options

Christy - posted on 01/30/2009

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Videotape him to show him his behaviour. As you watch it, don't come down on him, but talk about what is going on and what he could do to make it better next time.



If you can't do that, watch Super Nanny with him and explain that he has been acting like those children. Show him how much happier and secure they are at the end when there is less conflict in the household. It worked for my children.

Nikki - posted on 01/30/2009

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Thankyou for that! I will give it a go and see if it works! He has a school residential in July and he will be away for 2 nights. He asked if he could go and I told him that he could only go if he could prove he could act like a "big boy". I said school wouldnt want to take him if he acted like a 4/5 year old! Sounds harsh I know but I need to make him understand his behaviour cant go on like this! Thanks for replying!

User - posted on 01/28/2009

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I sometimes have this problem with my eldest, who is almost 8. I always say to him if he wants to act like he is younger than I will treat him like that. His friends all talk in this very annoying baby talk, which I cant stand, and either can the other moms, so when there is a play date I dont allow it at my house, they have to talk like they are 7. I asked Konnar one night if he wanted to go to bed the same time as his little brother, cause if he wants to act young then I am going to do the same thing with him as his 4 year old brother does. It usually works. I even say to him that I can talk to the kindergarden teacher to see if he can go back into kindergarden, he definatly does not want to go there. Hopefully its just a phase. Good luck

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