how do get your kids do there chores?

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Loni - posted on 07/12/2011

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I came across a book (sorry I can't remember the title, maybe Mrs Clean Jeans or something like that) That talked about her kids learning chores at a young age. She said to make your life easier, make the chores easier for the kids. One tip was, in order to help your young kids make their beds, take off the top sheet. Once I started doing that my kids beds were made much nicer every morning.
A few other tips along those lines:
I had my boyfriend lower the bar in my boy (8) closet. They don't fold clothes now, they hang everything. The bar is in reach so they don't have to worry about folding it nicely, and I don't ever fold their clothes--just hand them their basket. They put underwear/socks/tights in a drawer.
Clorox wipes are great for having the young ones help clean the bathrooms. They do this every other day during the week plus ajax the toilet then I scrub one day a week.
My boys earn money for helping clean their 8 year old brother's room and toys he leaves around. (he has to help more now though)
I also don't do chore charts. I tried accountable kids based on rave reviews from friends, but I'm just not a consistent chart kind of woman. So each day I see what needs to be done and tell the kids what their certain jobs are before they get to go play. It changes it up for them (and me) so it isn't quite as boring. Good Luck! I have loved reading all the other tips!

Katina - posted on 10/12/2011

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I am at this time trying a pay chart with chores for M-F such as clean off table after supper, unload/load dishwasher, feed animals/clean litter box, pickup living room and sweep, pickup dining room and sweep, put trash in outside can, pick-up yard/put wood in wood stove.. On the weekends they still earn but there or other chores to be done as well.. They have till 6 pm to get the chore done to earn the daily amount. However if the chores isn't done and someone else does it even mom they pay the weekly amount. For example the dishwasher is 50c a day.. So at 6 pm since son didn't do it I unload the dishwasher and refill it.. Mom has just earned herself $2.50.. On Saturday it's payday. I remove from their savings account what they owe so in the example I'd remove the $2.50 from my son's account. The money they earned is then put on a Walmart card to spend as they like.. So they are also learning the value of $ at the same time.. We just started week 4 of this and it seems to be working good. Everyone get paid to do chores cause everyone's time is worth something. On weekends the chores include also bedrooms, playroom, laundry and washing of floors.. During the week it's a matter of just keeping the cloths off the floors in the hamper, keeping the dishes done and picking up the rooms in the house.. Oh I have 3 boys age 14, 12 and 12 (twins) and am a single mom due to husband being killed in an machine accident 2 years ago. They also have to have done chores in order to do special things like go to a friends for the night.. I tried the take things away outside.. But what do you take away.. We don't get any TV channels. I live 3.7 miles from town. There is only one kid in the neighborhood close enough to play with. Yes we have a WII system but it's collecting dust.. My kids would rather be outside!! They do earn time on the computer to play games for doing chores as well and special treats such as DQ on a day they work hard, don't fight and get things done without having to argue with them.. GOOD LUCK!!

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Sarah - posted on 02/20/2012

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1st they know that if they don't do all their chores ( from playing around ) then they get a punishment ...for my 8 and 5 year old if he does not do all his chores then whatever he was doing of the time he was playing around for example if its video games talking o the phone watching t.v. listening to the radio then he has that taken away until 2 days are up...For my 3 year old he only gets it taken away for 1 plus a 3 min. timeout..



Hope this helped..!

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Don't make chores complicated. If you want your kids to help around the house, why create a system that causes you even more work??? I have an 11 year old and an 8 year old that have been helping out around the house since they were 2 years old. Here are five steps that I found to work great:
1. Start Small- write 4 chores on popsicle sticks. Make sure the chore can be done in 2 minutes or less. Tell your child they have to pick 2 sticks and set a day and time every week that the sticks will be drawn and do the chore when the stick is drawn. Possible chore ideas: wipe germs from doorknobs and light switches, stack shoes neatly or take to the rooms they belong in, wipe the front of the fridge or stove, sort white laundry from colored laundry, wipe dining room chairs.
2. Give time at first not money- when your kids are helping make a big deal out of how much time it frees up for you to play a game with them or go outside and play with them. Reward them with your time.
3. As they grow so do their responsibilities-As they age add sticks and add harder chores. By having the chores on the sticks it makes kids feel like they have a choice and they are not always "stuck' doing something they don't like. Ready for harder chores? Try these: fold and put away laundry, wipe down the sink with cleaning wipes, scrub wooden steps, dust with a swiffer. Some chores may require your help at first but kids like every minute you spend with them!!!
4. Start giving money- By now kids are in the routine of picking chore sticks. Allow them to keep picking their 3-4 sticks a week OR pick additional sticks and get paid for each extra stick. Make sure you always have your kids do some things around the house just to help and not for money.
5. Give them power-Once kids have been doing chores for a few years you can let them pick which ones they would like as their permanent chores around the house and assign specific dollar amounts to those chores. Let them tell you when they will do it and agree on when they will be paid (weekly, bi-weekly, monthly). Make sure they understand that if the chore is not done by the agreed upon date they lose a privilege AND don't get paid for it. Also, if your child doesn't do their chores and wants money for something....don't give it.....they are now old enough to realize that people work for money.
I have found these 5 steps to work very well in our home and we NEVER fight or yell about chores. The kids may grumble once and a while but the chores get done every week and they like having spending money!

Ashley - posted on 07/20/2009

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i have 3 children, we made a chart of rules, consequenses and chores. We made it into a game. They put a chip in there container if they do there chores and if they dont they take one out. Once they have chips for a week they pick special treats for listening. Its not money, but its a special snack or extra time playing. Make it a game where they can earn something they really like. They also picked there rules and consequenses, they listen when they help pick them.

Good Luck and Have Fun!

Ilene - posted on 07/19/2009

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We started a chore sticker chart. When he completes a task he gets a sticker. When he gets enough we will buy him a small toy. At five, I don't think he's old enough to understand the concept of money yet...but that will be the next step when he gets a little older. We just started this about a week ago and so far, so good...although there are at least two things he hasn't done yet. We will add chores as needed.

Joanne - posted on 07/19/2009

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When my daughter was younger I made a chore chart. If the task was completed she received a sticker. At the end of the day we tallied the sticker and she received "mommy store money" (fake money I printed off of www.makingfriends.com) Then on Sun. I would put small trinkets and things I found at the store on clearance or yard sales on my bed. I would price on them like a real store. We played store and she got to spend her "mommy store money". Now that she is bigger (9) I still use mommy store money, but give her the option to trade it in for real money if she wants something. She likes using the fake money because she feels empowered, yet I don't worry if she looses it. It has tought her responsablity. She know how to save for something she wants and how to work for something she wants. She relizes if she doesn't do her chores she doesn't get paid and then she won't have the money she needs for that special item. Good Luck.

JODI - posted on 07/19/2009

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i have a different chore for each child every day of the week during the summer months and then when school is in session they only have them once a week. post ehm on the fridge and then they get to play with there friends. seem to wk for our family

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Hello Amelia,

My husband and I have implemented the "commission board" in our house; we do not believe in "allowances". My children are 6 and they both understand what this is about. We have boards that pinpoint certain things each child is responsible for. We sat down and explained; dad has to go to work, if he didn't he would not get paid; therefore, if they do not do their work they will not get paid. We have made it so that each child receives 20 cents per week per chore. By the end of the week (if they have stickers on everyday for each chore) all chores are worth $1.60. If one chore is not done on a specific day...no sticker...which means 20 cents is subtracted from their total. We have three jars: tithing, savings, and spending. They know 10% goes to tithing and 10% goes to savings...leaving them with 80% of their money to spend. As they get older we will increase the amount of money to be rewarded.

I truly believe that each child is capable of understanding what is expected of them, and if they understand that mommy and daddy "work" too, they are more willing to help.

Selina - posted on 07/18/2009

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I bought this weekly post pad thats on the fridge we start w 1 sticker on each day, he can earn more if he does extra chores.Sometimes when he is bein a turd he loses his sticker 4 the day (he throws a fit cuz if he dosent earn it somwhere else he loses his $ 4 the week!) That has not happened...yet cuz he gets so excited to get rewarded 2 the end of the week! ITS GREAT 4 POTTY TRAINING 2!

Kim - posted on 07/18/2009

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Depends on their ages. We make them fun for the younger ones (2 is the youngest) and we use a chart. It is easier for me to keep track. Theolder ones take turns being responsible for the dishwasher and setting the table. I also laminated a wide variety of chores and put velcro on them and the chart. The kids choose what they want to be responsible for. If they complain I remind them that they chose the chores. We also talk about how we all have to do things because we are part of a family.

Carmine - posted on 07/17/2009

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I give my daughter checkmarks and x's. She has to earn 5 checkmarks a day for a treat, but if she gets 5 x's she doesn't. The treat may be as simple as she chooses what we make for dinner, or her tv shows, and on bigger days -better treats. This way, things we would do anyway, she gets to voice her opinion more and wants to be a helper.

Kendra - posted on 07/17/2009

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What I do with my children is sit in the room with them while they do their chores. It is a little aggravating at first but you can point out to them what you want them to do. After a while, they will learn and are able to do it without you there. If still they won't do the chores, let the know that there are consequences and follow through always. Kids are very smart. They will test you to see if you are serious. Stay firm and good luck.

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every saturday if the kids do their chores and follow basic household rules then we take them out for ice cream. They have 3 chances during the week. If they get 3 x's then they can't participate. It works for all our kids. Our kids ages are 5, 7, 9, 11.

Lisa - posted on 07/17/2009

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They have privileges taken away from them the more they fight it and if they don't do them or fight me too much the amount of allowance they get dwindles. Either way they end up doing them whether they like it or not. The money tends to be important to them so they know they need to do it and without a fight if they want the full amount. I told them it is up to them. The full amount or less. There have been some days they didn't get ANY allowance because they fought so hard about it. We make sure they remember that if they are upset for getting less or none at all that they only have themselves to blame for it.

Kimberly - posted on 07/17/2009

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I make my daughter's a chart. And at the end of the week if there is stars on their chores we go to the dollar store and they can pick out something. Now instead of going to store we give the kids lose change for their piggy banks. It has been working very well!!

Krystal - posted on 07/17/2009

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I do a chore chart too. I list about 10 things for her to do. Then she has to get 10 stars/stickers by each chore before it's complete. When it's completed, she gets the toy of her choice. A couple times there was something she wanted really bad so I went online and printed out a picture of it and attached it to the bottom of the chart so she was reminded every day! It's worked out GREAT so far!

Shasta - posted on 07/16/2009

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Print out a chart and put it on the fridge. My kids love to put stickers on the chores they do every day.

Shannon - posted on 07/16/2009

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I know how you feel! My kids like to race so i say ready set go and them they scurry around picking stuff up! if they are looking for stuff i point it out. I try to do it before a snack time or desert so that it turns into a reward

Daria - posted on 07/16/2009

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funny you asked this question! my 12 year old has found girls and if he wants to go anywhere or do anything he has to do his chores first! funny how a cute girl changes things! he does his chores 10x faster! LOL In all seriousness though....you just gotta have the iron fist!

Becky - posted on 07/15/2009

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our rule is "work in the morning, play in the afternoon" during the summer. That works really well, as they have to do their one chore I assign them plus regular stuff like make beds, dishes (if it's their turn), put laundry away etc. Then reward in the afternoon is we can play-- do something fun like go to the park. Work not done -- no play time including T.V., toys, etc.

Jacqui - posted on 07/15/2009

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We have a pocket money system for my 7yo. He earns a certain amount of money each week for doing chores and thoughtful things for others. He starts with the full amount and if he doesn't do something or is thoughtless to others in the family a cross is put up on the board. Each x costs him a certain deduction from his pocket money. I find this works because he is being punished when he does something wrong instead of just being rewarded for doing good (this works better for my son). It also means he has to reflect back at the end of the week on what he didn't do. It makes life easier for me too because I don't have to nag him about doing his jobs or get upset when he is thoughtless, a simple cross on the board and he is immediately aware that he cost himself money. It's amazing how little gets deducted now...

Celeste - posted on 07/15/2009

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I use the same reward system as Deanna above, but each sticker is worth .20c with 5 chores each day, therefore $1 a day. At the end of the fortnight the chores are worth $14. She HAS to put a certain amount ($8) away into her savings, leaving only a small amount for spending. it doesnt matter if she has earned the whole $14 or only $8, the savings always stays the same, which encourages her to do all her chores every day, so that she has a decent amount to spend.

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I am a 32yr mom with a 15yr old son whos knockin on 6ft ;-) ...as he is gettin older he likes 2 see how far he can push me.So after askin him 2do somethin about 400 times it eventualy gets done But if i threaten 2 take summut of him like the comp or takin the t.v out ov his room it seems 2get done ahell ov alot quicker.Im seein the next few years as achallege so wish me luck lol

Ashley - posted on 07/15/2009

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Two ways. Number one, give them options without giving them options. Say " do you want to clean your room first or pick up the toy room?" They feel like they are in charge and have an option. Two, I have a "good little boy and girl bin". If they don't pick them up, I put them in the bin. They have until the end of the week to "buy" them back by doing things that need to be done. For each thing they do to help, they get a toy back. If they don't "buy" them back, the bin goes to Goodwill.It has actually been a good thing. Now they frequently put toys they don't play with it in just because. It thins out the insane amount of toys and helps out other kids too. One time, my middle son said "I have to do everything! you don't know how it feels!". I very calmly said "your right, I don't. You want to switch jobs for the day?" He said "yes!". So we sat down and made our lists. I had to pick up toys, make bed, and take out garbage. He had to make the bed, feed the dogs, make breakfast, do dishes, do laundry, vacuum, mop the floor, wipe down the counters,sweep the porch,make lunch, clean up lunch, dust and wash the windows, do more laundry, water the flowers,weed the garden,make dinner, clean up after dinner, take my conference call, get pajamas around, get everyone baths, make a snack, clean up snack, make sure teeth were brushed, read bedtime stories then after everyone was asleep, go downstairs and tidy up the house for tomorrow. He read his list and said "I'm gonna go pick up my toys now".

Deanna - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have a reward chart on my fridge. It lits 5 different chores she has to do, for everytime she does a chore she gets a sticker. At the end of the week we count up the stickers and she gets $0.25 for every sticker or a treat. It is really working. If you would like one I sell them through Avon just contact me.

Antoinette - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have a bean jar... when they do theyre chores they get beans. the goal is to reach lines on the jar to be cashed in for rewards. (that are predetermined with them) example one of the lines near the top is getting to choose any item from the 99 cent store

Lori - posted on 07/15/2009

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It can sometimes be a struggle for me too. He feels that because he is one "summer vacation" he shouldn't have to do anything. But he still wants things. I told him nothing is for free - you have to work for everything. We put together a spread sheet and every day he has something he has to get done. He usually waits until I am almost home but it gets done.

Asyia - posted on 07/15/2009

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Start off like its a game, then tell them they are accumalating points. Then just go from there.

Cath - posted on 07/15/2009

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if my kids do their chores they get pocket money, if they dont they dont get it. my oldest son held out on tidying his room for 6 months....after which time he finally realised i was serious , i wasn`t going to do it for him and nor would he be getting any pocket money!! hope thats helpful and you have the strength to tough it out!

Crystal - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have a chart that I put stickers on it. Whenever we get to a hundred stickers, he gets a prize. Sometimes we will go shopping and buy him whatever toy he wants and then he uses the reward sticker chart, that lists chores, homework, and whatever issue we are having (ie. brushing teeth, making his bed, etc.), to earn that toy.

Kylee - posted on 07/14/2009

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I make threats and follow through with them. If yOU dont do your chores you can't swim. Or whatever it is that is your kid's favorite thing to do. Take it away once! It may be harder for you then them, But it does work to show them you are seriuos. Good Luck

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